hi Thatnurse, welcome here
Human relations are complex. Sometimes we enter a relationship and quickly fall in love. This other person is all of our dreams yet....he cant be every dream because he isnt acting in the same way. The perfect dream would have him reacting like you do to him, be suffering the same emotional pain as you are etc.
The best remedy of all is time. But time takes....time of course and that is something you cannot rush. That's the problem with it.
In the meantime what can you do? Firstly prioritise your daily life. Throw yourself into study harder, double your time burying your head into what will shape your future. And if this relationship isnt working out how it was expected- end it.
By ending it, there is a possibility he will be shocked and return to you quickly with the attitude that respects your needs. There is also the faint chance he has become complacent and less committed due to distractions.
Bury yourself into sports, hobbies and friends. Attend motivation lectures. Seek peace.within.
Inner peace might be a development that can assist. It did for me 27 years ago when a friend gave me a cassette (showing my age) of Prem Rawat. Its not religion.
Google "Youtube Prem Rawat Maharaji sunset" or perfect instrument. he has many more youtube videos that will shake you towards what is important about life and appreciation of what is around you. I still listen to him.
Strength to steer our own mind to what we want it to do is not easy. It really is a challenge. But the hardest challenge is one whereby you are decisive with what you know in your heart you must do. If it doesnt feel right it most likely isnt right for you then move on it- make the decision straight away. The sooner you commit yourself to that move the sooner you will move forward.
Hope that helps. Tony WK
