overwhelmed

[adventure95]

Hi,

I'm not really sure what I will get out of this but I just really feel like I need to talk to somebody about it. I have been really struggling with day to day life and feeling overwhelmed no matter what I'm doing. I'm exhausted and constantly tired and I can't seem to stop worrying about everything, it feels like a weight is pushing against my chest and I can't get rid of it. I'm constantly restless and I really find it difficult to concentrate, I've fallen behind on my uni work more than I ever thought possible. I'm normally extremely academic and a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my grades but I just can't find the energy or motivation to do it. I've strained my relationship with my boyfriend as he always cops my mood swings and irritability and I keep pushing him away and isolating myself. I haven't gone out with friends in months because the thought of socialising is just too much to deal with. I struggle to get out of bed every morning and some times I don't even care if I wake up in the morning or not, and that really scares me. I used to be an energetic and happy person all the time and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to burden my family or boyfriend with this, they'll look at me differently and won't treat me the same if I mention something. But its just getting to the point that I can't do anything anymore without feeling really stressed and down about it.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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[Doolhof]

Hi Adventure95,

I would like to welcome you to the community here at Beyond Blue. Thanks for sharing your story with us all.

I am certainly no expert, but it sounds to me like you are suffering from depression, it is so more common than you might imagine.

Maybe telling your family and your boyfriend would be a good idea. If you are in contact with your family, or more to the point not in contact with them, they may be worried as to what is going on.

Your boyfriend will obviously have noticed a change in you and may be concerned also.

I suggest you go to see your Dr. and have a chat to them about how you are feeling. If you have a good relationship with your Mum, chat to her as well.

Are there counsellors at the Uni you can talk to or an advisor? Can you ask for an extension on your assignments as I know my niece has done that a few times as she suffers from depression and borderline personality disorder.

If the word depression frightens you, don't be alarmed. Like I mentioned, you might be surprised how many people suffer from it. If your Dr does suggest this is the issue, then it does not have to be a long term issue. If you are able to get on top of things, you will feel a lot better.

Beyond Blue have a telephone help line and also a wonderful webchat you can use. I suggest if you can't talk to your Dr straight away you make contact with someone more knowledgeable through Beyond Blue and hopefully they will be able to offer you help and advice.

Hope some of this helps.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

[Kitty_Kat]

Hello Adventure95,

What Doolhoof has said is very much true and it was some good advice you should definitely consider trying.

Personally, I find myself to be the kind of person who gets overwhelmed very, very easily. So I speak from experience...

If I were you I'd try some Mental Stillness every morning, or in other words, meditation. This may sound weird or silly, but it truly does help you stay calm during the day. It also helps you look more positively on life and everything around you, and that may help you be not so overwhelmed. I hope you give this a try because it truly helps.

 As for waking up at the start of the day, have a coffee! Something as simple as coffee could help you when it comes to energy and being awake.

And with your boyfriend and family, even though you're afraid of what they'll think, it would be best to open up to them and tell them how you're feeling. It's better than shutting them out and being disconnected. And if they truly love you, they will be there for you.

I hope this helps somehow and know that you can always come back to these forums if you need.

Love Kitty xxx