Young people

Trouble with sleep

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Hi all, I have found I am feeling much happier lately. Study is going well, work is going well, and I am back to riding my horse! It is just a struggle to try and do them sometimes because of how tired I am all the time. I usually go to bed about 7.3... View more

Hi all, I have found I am feeling much happier lately. Study is going well, work is going well, and I am back to riding my horse! It is just a struggle to try and do them sometimes because of how tired I am all the time. I usually go to bed about 7.30 and sleep until about 6.30 but I wake up constantly throughout the night and sometimes it takes me a few hours to get to sleep. I also nap during the day a lot. Sometimes up to 2 hours. My Mum says I get too much sleep and that is making me tired, could this be possible? If so, is there anyone who knows how I can fix this. Any advice on how to get a good night sleep is 100% welcome!!! It is getting worse Thank you in advance. Kelly

Relationship affected by anxiety and depression

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Hi, I'm 17 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. Before I met my boyfriend I lived in another town and had recently recovered from anxiety depression and self harm. Obviously I always get anxious over some things her... View more

Hi, I'm 17 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. Before I met my boyfriend I lived in another town and had recently recovered from anxiety depression and self harm. Obviously I always get anxious over some things here and there and get upset as normal people do but the last few months my relation has been struggling. My boyfriend knows about my problems and I thought he accepted them. I have always felt anxious around his family and they are wealthy and have a perfect life so I feel like they constantly judge me, which prolly isn't true as they are very nice, but I can't stop stressing around them and not wanting to be around them for Long periods of time.. I'd rather spend my days at home watching movies or hanging out rather then going out and socialising everyday. Once or twice a week is hard but manageable. My boyfriend on the other hand does not like this as he wants to be social with friends and family 24/7.. I told him I'm anxious and he just thinks it Los something I can fix in one day by just getting over it. The last month my anxiety has gotten worse.. The whole relationship I always worry and overthink things but lately it's worse. I feel like I'm not good enough for him.. He says he wants me to show more affection and I try but all I can think is that I'm not good enough for him and that he can do better then me, and always think how he would be happier with someone who is more social then me. Lately I feel so ugly and get down all the time over little things.. My anxiety and depression makes me start fights or causes the fights.. And my relationship is going to come to an end if nothing changes. How can I fix my relationship

need some help/answers

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Hi there, Im feeling very confused at the moment about my emotions. I am questioning whether i have some sort of anxiety/depression as of late. i know everyone has bad days/weeks but this doesn't feel right. I had always been an outgoing, loud person... View more

Hi there, Im feeling very confused at the moment about my emotions. I am questioning whether i have some sort of anxiety/depression as of late. i know everyone has bad days/weeks but this doesn't feel right. I had always been an outgoing, loud person but as of late i have definitely found myself have more down days that up. Not bad enough that i get can't myself out of bed, but once out i feel very unmotivated and am definitely not myself. Lately i have found myself upset due to the fact i overthink everything and criticise myself a lot, sometimes i don't know why. Over the last year or so, i have noticed some signs of possible anxiety. When i would go out with friends to anywhere that there was a lot of people i didn't really know, i would get overwhelmed and cry and have to leave. Before events i would freak out by overthinking possible conversations and worry about how people might see me/think of me. In the last 4 weeks or so I have sort of been avoiding my close friends as i haven't wanted to do anything with them because i haven't been in the mood to chat or have a good time. I always find myself comparing myself to them which is making me feel a bit stand offish towards them. Im not really sure how I'm suppose to be feeling, but if anyone has any criteria that i could possible look through that might give me a better understand of why I'm feeling the way i am that would be great. thanks emma

No reason.

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Hey all,My first post on these forums, hopefully can be a good place to rant and get things of my chest and possibly pick up some good advice that might help me get through all of this.I have been feeling depressed for over six months now but have on... View more

Hey all,My first post on these forums, hopefully can be a good place to rant and get things of my chest and possibly pick up some good advice that might help me get through all of this.I have been feeling depressed for over six months now but have only recently being diagnosed. The reason why my family finally clicked on after so much hiding on my behalf was well, a failed suicide attempt.What i find super confusing about how I feel is I honestly have two very close friends who have tried supporting me through thick and thin, and now have all of my family making sure I am okay all of the time. Even with such a close support network, nothing is getting better... I'm still lost in this sea of nothingness. It has really gotten to a point where I don't even want to talk to my friends about this because all I am doing is hurting them and dragging them down no matter how much they say that is the case, But i feel that I have grown dependant on them for venting my feelings and whilst i know it's not fair it's the truth.I just don't know what I can do anymore, I don't want to risk loosing my friends by leaning on them so much but I also need to talk to them about how i feel or i get the sick feeling in my stomach all of the emotions will build up similar to what drove me to make an attempt on my life the first time.I have no reason to be depressed which makes all of this so much harder to understand even for myself, I realise their are people out there that have no family, friends or anything to lean on for support or even have those things in the first place. I HAVE NO REASON TO BE DEPRESSED YET I AM. It seems like it will never go away, six months past and the emotions are only getting worse.Looking forward to some replies, with advice or even words of encouragement or even if that's not the case I got to get it off of my chest at leastRegards,Huddoo.beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Anxiety, depression and a Psychologist

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Hi All,This will probably come out as word vomit as I struggle to express things through words sometimes.I have suffered from depression/anxiety/self-harm since I was about 11, however was not diagnosed or 'helped' (i suppose you could say) until I w... View more

Hi All,This will probably come out as word vomit as I struggle to express things through words sometimes.I have suffered from depression/anxiety/self-harm since I was about 11, however was not diagnosed or 'helped' (i suppose you could say) until I was 14, when I began seeing a psychologist and continued to do so for almost 3 years. I only stopped seeing her because she went to have her baby. I was feeling quite a lot better about things and life was looking up, I was finishing school and going to uni, I was excited and happy for once. But then the problems came back. Except the difference is, there isnt really a real reason for it; i like uni, i like my friends, i like my job..... Nothing is bad except Im depressed and Im anxious to the point of feeling physically sick. Not wanting to go back into the horrible spiral I told my mum and we went and saw the doctor today, he recommended I go back to my psychologist, or another one. But the thing is I dont think I want to. The idea makes me embarrassed and anxious, and I just cant see it helping me in the long run. It helped me when there were actual things making me upset and anxious, but the problems have come back and I just cant see talking about something that just isnt there to talk about is going to help me..... Both of my parents are depressed (both medicated and functioning fine), if that makes any difference?Im just not sure what I should do, the thoughts of self-harm are coming back a lot and I really dont want to go back down that path again. I would really appreciate anyone's advice and a fresh outlook on the situation.Thanks guys x beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

What is wrong with me?

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Hi everyone, I'm 17 years old, and just recently I've been feeling absolutely rubbish. I just feel sad, guilty, angry and irritable for no reason. I can't be bothered half the time to do chores and things I supposed to do, I can't pay attention in le... View more

Hi everyone, I'm 17 years old, and just recently I've been feeling absolutely rubbish. I just feel sad, guilty, angry and irritable for no reason. I can't be bothered half the time to do chores and things I supposed to do, I can't pay attention in lectures at university, I can't do my uni work, and sometimes I feel like nothing is wrong with me at all and I'm happy, but sometimes I just feel like I just want to self-harm (never actually done it) and just sit inside all day feeling down...I'm seeing a psychologist but I'm not being told what's up with me, so I have no idea what he thinks is going on inside my head and I'm just so confused and scared. Is anyone please able to shed some light on the matter? Thank you x beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

need friends

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hi, im 20 and a student. I've moved back and forth from the UK a couple of times and have had anxiety issues as well as depression for a long time. I haven't really had any real close ffriends since the first time I moved. I was a bit weird at school... View more

hi, im 20 and a student. I've moved back and forth from the UK a couple of times and have had anxiety issues as well as depression for a long time. I haven't really had any real close ffriends since the first time I moved. I was a bit weird at school because I liked metal music so I hung out with a particular group of people and a lot of kids didn't like me for it. then I moved to australia and people didn't judge me and wanted to get to know me and thought i was attractive but I was so guarded that I didn't see it, and I still can't form friendships with people because I assume that they don't like me, or if they do, its because they don't know the real me. Its really hard to make friends because I think everyone hates me. also i'm intimidated by people that are my own age. Does anyone know good places to meet people or ways to get around things? Thanks for reading (:

I don't know what to do.

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I'm almost 15 and lately I have been feeling like everything I used to be good at I am now terrible at, I can't focus in what used to be my favourite subjects in school (Science and Maths), my spelling has been getting worse and worse lately to the p... View more

I'm almost 15 and lately I have been feeling like everything I used to be good at I am now terrible at, I can't focus in what used to be my favourite subjects in school (Science and Maths), my spelling has been getting worse and worse lately to the point where I can't even tell if I am spelling words correctly or incorrectly. Sometimes I just feel so out of it that I can't bother even pretending to be ok, but when my friends ask me what's wrong I just lie at tell them that everything is wrong, but this doesn't work of course and they can tell I am lying, but it sort of feels like they just don't care enough to dig deeper, or maybe they are and I am just pushing them away, and among many other things, (rapid changes in appetite, extreme tiredness 24/7, lying to get out of social situations, that sinking feeling whenever someone calls my family that the call might be for me, not having the energy to do things that I used to enjoy such as videogames and drawing, etc.) the worst part is that I can't tell anyone that I am feeling this way because if I do I know they will think I am lying because my sister was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety disorder and my best friend was diagnosed with extreme OCD, Anxiety, and severe manic depression to the point of self harm. It's not worth telling anyone because among the reasons in the paragraph above, if I tell someone they will just dismiss it as me thinking I have a disease because I used to be a very bubbly and charismatic child, but lately I have just had a quiet and false front that is a poor attempt at feigning kindness. I just feel so bad at what makes me ME, I feel like I have lost my identity.

Nothing interests me anymore

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First time posting in a forum like this. I am a 23y/o male, work full time for a big company that looks after me, currently renting an apartment by myself in a great location. I feel like I have a great life and in no way should be complaining, but I... View more

First time posting in a forum like this. I am a 23y/o male, work full time for a big company that looks after me, currently renting an apartment by myself in a great location. I feel like I have a great life and in no way should be complaining, but I don't enjoy anything. Nothing interests me and there is nothing that I look forward to. Not really sure what to write so I guess I will just share my story that I think has led to me feeling this way. I guess I really started feeling this way a couple years ago. I was still with my girlfriend (we dated for just over 2 years, broke up in December 2014), we rented a place together, had a couple cats, she got along with my family really well. Then all of a sudden my girlfriend and sister stopped talking to each other over something really stupid and everything started going downhill. Family get togethers always became fights and when we did go it would just be awkward. We stopped going for a while to let my GF and sister get over it, that never happened. Anyway, all of this resulted in a heap of fights. Each fight would usually end with me wanting to end the relationship and her never letting me leave. Eventually I just had enough and I never came back. My GF was taken off the lease and I stayed in the house with the cats for a few months. I was handling it really well, then the lease ended and they didn't want to renew the lease. I wasn't really expecting this, I always kept the place tidy and never once missed a payment in 12 months. I started getting really stressed about this because I would now have to find a new place and move by myself, while coping with work (which we have a big project happening so is crazy busy). But the thing that stressed me most was that I would have to get rid of the cats. Eventually I found a new place and found a home for the cats (I didnt really like where they went but it was that or the RSPCA..). I feel like I am on top of work for once, have a good relationship with my friends and family, but I still cant enjoy anything. I just feel like there is nothing I look forward to and I dont enjoy anything that I do. The last time I remember looking forward to anything was when I could go home and tell my GF about my day. I want nothing more than to talk to her and see how she is, but I know that will just make things harder and we will be back to square one. I have tried meeting other people but I am hopeless and have no idea what I am doing, all I know is what I did when I was with my GF.

Is the depressed leading the depressed really just the blind leading the blind? - Depressed Relationship

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I was diagnosed with depression at 12 and later diagnosed with anxiety at 16. I am now 21 and have struggled with these for most of my memory. I'm from NZ. I met my (aussie) boyfriend while holidaying in Sydney and ended up staying here to be with hi... View more

I was diagnosed with depression at 12 and later diagnosed with anxiety at 16. I am now 21 and have struggled with these for most of my memory. I'm from NZ. I met my (aussie) boyfriend while holidaying in Sydney and ended up staying here to be with him. He also has depression as well as anger management issues that are becoming increasingly hard for me to deal with At the moment there is a lot going wrong in both of our lives. We are really trying to hold each other up and support each other, but it’s hard when we are both feeling so desolate. I don’t like living in Sydney and want to be closer to my family. His work contract ended a month ago and he hasn’t had the energy to job hunt. Because of thi, he is moving out of his apartment and in with me as I can no longer afford both the rents on my receptionist salary. I don’t want this. I detest my job and want something less stressful. His Pop died which has sent him spiralling down. His family are having severe issues and we are both struggling with the fallouts from that. I have also torn my ankle ligament, and as someone whose passions and emotion-control have always included soccer and running I don’t have enthusiasm for anything in Sydney anymore. I am so lonely here in Sydney, and he doesn’t understand you can be loved by someone and be lonely in all other aspects of your life I am used to dealing with my depression solo as I know how to calm myself down when I am panicking and can’t breathe, or when I am crying so much I am wailing. Together with councillors I developed coping mechanisms, which all have to be done by myself in order to calm down. Problem – If I am really struggling, so is he. I want to be left alone when depressed however he can’t stand the thought of being by himself. It got to the peak last night at 2am after I had a depressive episode and I wanted to go for a walk to breathe, and he forcibly held me in his arms and refused to let me go, even when I struggled and fought back, because he didn’t want me to leave him, even for 10 minutes. Should I have put his needs above what I know is best for me? What do I do when it contrasts so directly with what he needs? My boyfriend and I's emotions are both so connected, if one of us is struggling we drag the other down. It really does feel like the blind leading the blind, because we are both so unstable in our emotions. I was wondering if anyone else is in a relationship where both people have a mental illness? How do you cope with this?

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