Negative and feeling alone

[Gerrard8]

Im 17 and in my last year at high school, sorry if this doesn't make alot of sense because it is hard for me to explain and talk about all these kind of things. My head is just basically filled with negative thoughts, deep down i know there is lots of positive things in my life but im always brought down, stressed or worried about something and apart from spontaneous happy moods (which dont last) im always focusing on the negative. Since the beginning of the year i have been trying to tell myself to change this and make it a really great positive year but the past few weeks all i cant think about is the negative to every situation.

One of the worst things for me is feeling alone, i just feel like everyone is different and noone understands me. Sometimes i even start to think that everyones out to get me and that even my best of friends are not true friends. I dont know if the problem is just school/my school, the people that i surround myself with, or if the problem is just me. Ive never really has a proper relationship or anything like that and ive got pretty bad ache that wont go away no matter what i do and i know they are cliches for being upset but im sure they affect me too because im always assuming the worst and thinking about the negative side of my situations. 

I cant really see myself going anywhere with my life at the moment and again i dont really know if what im saying here makes sense since i cant explain it properly. Anyway i just cant talk to anyone about how i feel (even my mum who i love more than life) because its stuck in my head and really frustrating. Theres alot more i want and need to say but maybe another time when i can wrap my head around how im feeling. THANKS for reading and i would really appreciate it if someone that felt/feels the same way could give me any advice about changing my mindsets and making positives in my life. 

[Meg_676]

Try and focus on the smaller positive things like go to the zoo and really focus on how beautiful the animals look or you could make something and be proud of it.leave it in a place where you will see it everyday and it will remind you of how well you did. If you have been struggling for a while try hypnotherapy it changes your mind set if your open to it

[ThousandMiles]

UGHHH, I know exactly how you feel, I feel pretty much exactly the same 😞 *hugs*

I know it doesn't help much, but what I am trying to do is really focus on the near future, and just telling myself that all the work I am doing now will help to put me in a better place soon. Because it's true, and it's true for you too 🙂
Also, I like to plan (or at least daydream about) what I want to do when school finishes. We don't have to make up our minds just yet, and technically, the possibilities are endless. So think about those things 🙂

And as for the present moments, I personally try and do something nice for myself every day, and also try to do something social every week if I can. Even if I don't feel like the social thing, I normally feel better afterwards for pushing myself to do it.It's not a miracle cure, but these things seem to help me a little. I hope they help you too.

[karibear]

I know the reply is really late but you never know you might come back and check on this post. 

I was in the same position as you last year during my years at high school. I felt like I had no friends, I too had really crappy skin and overall I felt myself being constantly depressed and moody. 

What I did was to change what I could and change my perspective. If you feel alone find something or someone that doesn't. Books, music, join forums online, new friends, a pet? It can be as simple as that. But sometimes the problem is you. I had the same issues as you I thought all my friends were bitching about me but that was me being insecure. When I accepted myself I accepted other people. And it's not about saying I love myself or I think i'm beautiful it's about saying cool I have acne, it's ok to be alone and to feel sad sometimes. Rather than trying to be positive try forgetting about the negative. 

And you will go somewhere in life. If you try. As harsh as this sounds there is no point in swallowing yourself in self-pity. If you want to do something you can. If you don't know what to do that's ok no one does. But when you find something try it out, don't like it? move on. 

my message is just that it's ok, drive your own life and not someone else's. 🙂 hope this helped and i hope you feel better x