Letter to ex bf

[Peanut22]

Me and my ex has been broken up for 2 months now. My ex dumped me because he couldn't handel a relationship due to being to stressed and was facing a mental mealt down. He has high functioning autism plus I was his 1st ever gf so i think his emotions got to much for him. I haven't reach out or spoken to him since he made the decision to end things as i know he need space. since the pain and the raw emotions are going away i want to reach out to him as only as a friend (not to change his mind)

One of my good friends gave me a idea to write him a letter to say thank you for the good times and to wish him well ect. I really like that idea as he hates confrontation. But i am scared that a letter might come off to needy ect. Some of my friends have a opinion that you should never contact a ex if they have dumped you as that will come across like you are crazy and you are not respecting their wishes ect. So i am in two minds about it.

(Side note he hasn't reached out to me either but he went into complete hiding after the brakeup eg deleting his social media accounts ect)

Sorry about the bad gramer also as English is not my 1st language

[Croix]

Dear Peanut22~

I guess the first thing to ask is why you want to write the letter? I know you talk of friendship however I'm not sure how possible it would be. If I put myself in your ex's shoes any letter wold probably be regarded as an attempt to get back together -no matter its content.

It sounds from what you say the breakup had deeply affected him, isolating himself from social media. I suppose one should consider the effect on him of fresh contact, would he be glad or feel worse?

I don't think anyone would regard you as crazy, and disregarding wishes if done in a gently way is not the end of the world.

As you know this person best you have to decide what the effect of a letter would be on him.

Croix

[LH1990]

why don’t you write a letter just for yourself. See how it would read and then if you still want to send one write another one.

Alternatively Christmas is coming, you could send a Christmas card with a letter inside saying you hope he is well.

But please be emotionally prepared for not receiving a response