Is it too late to save my relationship?

[Guest221]

Hi. I’m new to these forums and don’t really have many people to talk to, so if anyone is going through similar problems or has tips on how I can help myself and my relationship I would appreciate it
I have been in a relationship for 4 years and the last year been in a long distance. It’s very hard at times, especially with the feelings of jealousy and loneliness. Some days I can deal with it but others I feel like a total wreck. I don’t really have many friends so I feel like I’m constantly alone. Whenever me and my partner argue it’s always over the same issues, like miscommunication, commitments and jealousy and both agree that we don’t handle an argument well. Recently my partner has been saying that he thinks I have anxiety especially because I dwell on the problems and constantly feel uneasy. I’m always overthinking small things and overreacting to small situations and it’s starting to affect my everyday life. I’m not in a fulltime work place so I have a lot of time to myself which I find, at times overwealming because I just can’t stop overthinking and make problems between us worse. He knows I have always been this way, but very up and down and I can get upset quiet easily

I have not been told by a doctor or professional that I have anxiety. But the more time that goes by I’m beginning to believe that I do and that I need to go and talk to someone. I really love my boyfriend and I don’t want to drag him down with me so can anyone give me any tips on how to handle situations better?

[BballJ]

Hi Guest221,

As someone who has dealt with anxiety for around 10 years I know a fair bit about it and overthinking is one of my biggest problems, turning little things into big things and especially when I am alone, my thoughts run wild and sometimes it drives me into a sense of panic about the future and overthinking anything and everything. I am not here to say you have anxiety because I am not a doctor but can only speak from experience and say it sounds similar. I would highly recommend if you can, speak to your local GP and let them know you think it might be anxiety and they may do a mental health plan with you and refer you to a psychologist who will in turn help you understand why you think the way you do and give you tips to manage it. I know it isn't easy to accept sometimes but reaching out for help like you have done here is always the best thing.

Please remember you can call the Beyond Blue helpline on 1300 22 4636 to discuss anything you are going through.

My best for you,

Jay