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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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katie3651 Overwhelmed
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Hey, Im 18 and have been diagnosed with anxiety for a while. Ive recently just started uni and Ive been at my job for about a month. Ive been doing really well with my anxiety lately, with how to manage it and everything. However today or in a bout 1... View more

Hey, Im 18 and have been diagnosed with anxiety for a while. Ive recently just started uni and Ive been at my job for about a month. Ive been doing really well with my anxiety lately, with how to manage it and everything. However today or in a bout 15 minutes Im suppose to be at work, but I just cant go. Every time I think about going I just cant stop crying, Ive tried putting my work uniform on, having a shower and even had a sneaky cigarette. Its too late to call in sick and Ive just turned my phone off all together so no one can contact me, Im scared that Im going to lose my job. I hate that Im like this and Im really not sure what to do about it. Thanks

Cesca1557 Struggling with happiness, motivation, and the ability to concentrate
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Hi, Ive never posted on a forum before but i thought it would be a good way to vent and ask for a few tips. Ive had depression and anxiety for almost 7 years now but throughout all the years Ive always managed to keep my motivation levels towards stu... View more

Hi, Ive never posted on a forum before but i thought it would be a good way to vent and ask for a few tips. Ive had depression and anxiety for almost 7 years now but throughout all the years Ive always managed to keep my motivation levels towards studying at either high school or university high. However the past two weeks I have really struggled to get out of bed to do the work that I need to do, and when I am listening to the lectures or beginning to write out notes or memorise content, I find myself zoning out or losing focus really easily. I have a lot of assessments and tests next week so usually this would be the time where I would ramp up study so that I could cram in everything I need to know by then, but I cant seem to concentrate for long enough to do what I need to do. The last few weeks have been average to say the least, ive been feeling very empty and numb at times and I sometimes cry multiple times a day. A lot of different things have been hitting me recently and I have been struggling to deal with it all. I have a psychologist appointment in a week and a half but I just dont know what to do in the mean time.

Rzc97 My first post- advice
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Hi all this is my first time posting here I've just recently turned 20 and have been struggling on and off over the past year, but especially in recent weeks. For months upon months I searched for work and eventually found it ans have been working th... View more

Hi all this is my first time posting here I've just recently turned 20 and have been struggling on and off over the past year, but especially in recent weeks. For months upon months I searched for work and eventually found it ans have been working there for about 6 weeks now

mia2_0 quick question
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sooo I don't know if I have depression or anxiety or if this is just what being like a teenager is like. I tick off most of the symptoms and the quiz thing on this website said I should seek help but what's not to say that this will just pass and tha... View more

sooo I don't know if I have depression or anxiety or if this is just what being like a teenager is like. I tick off most of the symptoms and the quiz thing on this website said I should seek help but what's not to say that this will just pass and that I'm actually fine? How do I know for sure without having to go see some rando shrink? Sometimes I just feel like I feel too much, like I'm filled to the brim with emotion and have no way to get it out. Sometimes I just sit their and literally scream internally, like in my head I'm just screaming. In class the other day, out of no where, I was just filled with anxiety and I just pretended like I was fine but it's like i was made of electricity and I didn't know if I wanted to cry non stop or run a marathon. Sometimes I'm just kind of frozen and I have to push through, or I can't seem to quite catch my breathe. I'm constantly tired but find it really hard to get any sleep. but what scares me most is when I get that empty feeling, not like I've been hollowed out or something but I'm just numb and can't feel anything. I don't think scare s the right word but I don't think I should be going emotionally numb. I've gained heaps of weight and my one joy used to be reading and now I barely pick up a book unless I have to. And i freaking love reading and I miss it soo much but i cant seem to bring myself to do it, or if i do its a struggle. So have a just grown out of a much loved hobby? Is it all just teenage hormones making sleeping difficult and throwing my emotions around? How do I know if I'm just growing up or suffering from an actual problem, or is the fact I even need to ask answer that already? I just want to stop feeling like this so I'm really hoping that in two years I'll hit that magical 18 and be fine. If these years are meant to be the best of my life then I'm royally screwed unless I figure out how to be happy again. Not that I'm not happy, on good days I am. Maybe I just have social anxiety. I don't know. That's the problem. So does anyone have any thoughts? Am I just being an over analytic angsty over privileged teen with no real problems who should just get over themselves like I think I'm being or do I actually have ground to be concerned. Any way, if anyone sees this and has made it this far, any help is welcome, and I hope you're ok and have a lovely day/night/life

MoniKay I'm not sure what I'm doing with uni family and my own life, help?
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Hey two years ago my dad passed away from a terminal illness leaving my mother with 6 kids, including me. There's four younger under me. The whole time since then she hasn't done anything to help herself and she is so negative and demeaning to the ki... View more

Hey two years ago my dad passed away from a terminal illness leaving my mother with 6 kids, including me. There's four younger under me. The whole time since then she hasn't done anything to help herself and she is so negative and demeaning to the kids it's borderline emotional abuse because they all need help and she doesn't understand them. I've tried to help the situation and I've done and tried everything to help her and support my kids. I have my own depression and anxiety and I can't deal with mum I stay at a friends because I can't bare to be in the same house as her. I took a gap year for this year because my kids needed help and support but things are getting worse at home and I want to continue Uni next year but I feel I can't. I want to get back in shape but I'm working at woollies, doing part time at my church and I have kids that need me. I have no time for myself and it kills me because I don't know how to make things better at home. I've tried to tell mum how things are going and what impact she has on the kids but she turns everything i say into an attack. I've told her so many times over text over the phone and in person and she doesn't understand. I want to call docs but my dad worked there for his job and I know it'll kill my mother. I feel like she's taken part of my life and my freedom away and it breaks my heart when I find my kids crying in their rooms because of her yelling and just the way things are. I can't help the kids and I don't know how or where to go. I'd like anyone's help as ruthless as it is I just need advice and help. i just want to have my own life.

Brooklyn20 I don’t know how to get help
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Ok here’s the thing. I’ve always been deppressed when I was younger I did see someone but my mum was in charge of that because I was so young she didn’t believe I had a problem so pulled me out. Anyway. I’m 20 and worse then ever I’ve been using a mi... View more

Ok here’s the thing. I’ve always been deppressed when I was younger I did see someone but my mum was in charge of that because I was so young she didn’t believe I had a problem so pulled me out. Anyway. I’m 20 and worse then ever I’ve been using a mix of over the counter drugs and stealing prescription stuff from my boyfriends mum. I don’t wanna ruin my life I just lik the feeling of being knocked out so I don’t have to deal. What I’m trying to say is I wanna talk to someone but I don’t wanna see my gp I’m scared I just want to see a phschologist but idk if I can idk help

member224 I Have No Idea What's Happening to Me.
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I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression 3 years ago now, the anxiety was both hereditary and due to a disease I have called 'Graves Disease'. And my depression was because of all the limits that comes with this disease, such as: being extremely s... View more

I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression 3 years ago now, the anxiety was both hereditary and due to a disease I have called 'Graves Disease'. And my depression was because of all the limits that comes with this disease, such as: being extremely sick and not being able to walk or get out of bed, not capable to go to school for six months and see my friends,and not being able to do everything any other normal kid could, like being able to do sport without having a severe asthma attack right through the middle of a game, or not having to take medication 4 times everyday. The last time, until 2 days ago, I had an anxiety attack was 2 months ago. I thought I was doing great, I was fit, I was feeling good about myself, I just had a major surgery that would fix part of the problem of my disease. And then for no reason at all I had a terrible anxiety attack about my school sport. I haven't gone to school since, and I don't feel that I can. Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy, or that I'm overreacting, but I can't help it. My heart starts to race, everything that could possibly go wrong runs through my mind, and I think I'm going to vomit. It all ends up with me in unexplainable tears, and my parents confused and frustrated because they don't know how to help me. This happens to me out of the blue, as a consequence makes me feel terrible because it's not just affecting me, but all the people around me. They don't know how to help me and neither do I, because I have no idea what's going on. Thanks for reading, any comment helps.

Nick1 I feel really lost.
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So... I don’t know why, but I’ve always felt irrelevant to people. I don’t know how to describe it properly... but I do get attention from people but i just don’t feel like anybody sees me properly. I feel like all they see is a football player who l... View more

So... I don’t know why, but I’ve always felt irrelevant to people. I don’t know how to describe it properly... but I do get attention from people but i just don’t feel like anybody sees me properly. I feel like all they see is a football player who likes to have fun but, every night I’m finding myself in my bed hoping I don’t wake up tomorrow. I hate myself... and I don’t see why anybody would/could love me for me. i dont want to hurt myself or contemplate suicide or anything like that... but man I’m just always sad and I just wish I could feel the care that a person might have for me. I don’t know what to do anymore, and I feel like deleting all my social media accounts and just never talking to anyone ever again.

pinkdino Getting Help
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Hey Guys, I've been sad for a really long time and I've gotten really good and telling myself that it'll be okay (when it clearly isn't) and hiding the fact from others. And I have decided that I am so sick of being so depressed, deserted, isolated, ... View more

Hey Guys, I've been sad for a really long time and I've gotten really good and telling myself that it'll be okay (when it clearly isn't) and hiding the fact from others. And I have decided that I am so sick of being so depressed, deserted, isolated, desperate, empty (just a few of the many words that come to mind) and I am over being so afraid of myself, I've made the decision I need help... but I don't know how. I know most of you might say "just talk to someone that you trust" its just I can't do that and I hate myself everyday for it. Are there any tips you guys have for approaching someone (like a family member or someone at school) and telling them how you are so lost and scared in your life? I've never really been good and talking or communicating and I am really stressed and nervous when I am in a social situation where I am alone or have nowhere to hide (not literally, but I hope you know what I mean) so talking to someone is going to be really hard for me. I'm pretty sure my school has counseling but are they the right people to make first contact with? Who are the best people to start the conversation with from your guys experiences? I just wouldn't be comfortable going to my parents, because I think they would be heartbroken by it. I think I need someone else to talk to first and then I think it could be communicated to them. I really hope no one is going through what I am going through, and if you are, I feel and understand your pain and struggle everyday. Thanks

freezzze I feel up against a wall
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Hi there, I've been going to boarding school in Australia for nearly 2 years now and I feel isolated and lonely. It feels like I don't have anything to do, or rather I can't do anything. The issue isn't with homesickness, or missing my parents. Thoug... View more

Hi there, I've been going to boarding school in Australia for nearly 2 years now and I feel isolated and lonely. It feels like I don't have anything to do, or rather I can't do anything. The issue isn't with homesickness, or missing my parents. Though I have a few (>10) day student friends, I have none in the boarders and i feel they all hate me. I live with these people basically all year round. I am half-Indonesian, which means a cop a lot from the boarders, who are mostly from the country. They all call me socially awkward, and freeze me out. But that's not the worst part. The other boarders who aren't from the country and have no issue with me all join in. They only do it to fit in. I don't feel like I can go back to my old school, as it is an international school and most of my friends have left. I just don't know what to do.