i feel like giving into pressure from teachers has ruined my chances of uni

[eva]

hi my name is eva and im currently in year 12. currently all i can feel is stress regret and anxiety when it comes to school. im doing all atar classes mainly because all ive ever been told is that i have to go to uni nothing else has ever been an option for me, but currently im scard i wont get in and its not due to not passing but instead because in year 11 i was pushed to do headstart courses being told they were easy and a good way to get started but they werent. everyone told me i should do it so i did but by the end of it the stress of regular school work made it hard and i failed my course i have only recently been told that a girl the year before me failed to get into uni not because of her atar but instead because failing her course lowered her university GPA and im terrified ive done the same to myself. im hoping that maybe i can apply to a different uni than the one i did my course through and it might not have an effect but im not sure. all i know is i feel like my life is over. i wasnt given enough information about it and now im so stressed the thought make me want to cry. can someone please give me any kind of idea as to waht to do im terrified.

[Diamondinrough]

Hi Eva

Please be kinder to yourself - as someone who is 36 years old, with one undergraduate degree and now working on my Masters Degree, I can guarantee you that even if you fail to get into uni the first time, it's not the end of the world. There are so many pathways.

You can always go to TAFE and then apply to uni the year after. You can have a bridge year and apply to uni the year after. You can start a business, which will teach you so many skills that uni cannot.

Please don't be so hard on yourself. Failure in life teaches us so much. There is no shame in failing. Just remember "The person who has never failed, is also the person who has never tried anything new".

I've failed many times through my life and it's taught me a lot more than success.

Please keep your chin up. You are capable of a lot, and whether you get in the first, or second time, doesn't make a difference. 

If you'd like to discuss anything further, I'm happy to help. I'm currently studying Masters of Teaching so I can be of service to students like yourself 🙂

Good luck!