I dont know who i am anymore

[Unicorndogge]

Lately i just feel like i am getting dragged along not doing anything useful. The thing is i am pretty much useless, my anxiety is bad i cant even do what most other people can do my age and now i just have no motivation to learn because i know i will stuff it up or not go anywhere with it. I dont have a job, i dont study anymore and now that i am living with my nan its like i feel trapped even though i was in a worse position at home with my dad smoking weed with most of my inheritance money. I don't know what i am good at, liking something is not enough anymore because i know that i will be alone forever.

[Sophie_M]

Hey Unicorndogge,

We're are so sorry to hear that you are feeling hopeless at the moment. Please know that you are a valued member of our community and you are not alone in this. We are also checking in with you privately because we are concerned for your wellbeing.

If you're unable to keep yourself from acting on any urges to harm yourself, please call 000 (triple zero).

Please remember that support is always here for you.

• The friendly counsellors at Kids Helpline are always available to talk these feelings through, 24/7, on 1800 55 1800 or you can visit https://kidshelpline.com.au for webchat.
• The Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 or Lifeline 13 11 14, are also great supports where you can talk through your thoughts and feelings.

We hope you can find some comfort tonight. Please feel free to keep us updated here whenever you feel up to it. 

[Unicorndogge]

I can't do this anymore it's just the same cycle it keeps repeating, it's like I am meant to be alone.

[Unicorndogge]

Nothing I have ever done has fixed me, I keep trying and trying but nothing will ever work for me. What do I do? I am just stuck in this same pattern

[Sophie_M]

Hi Unicorndogge, 

We are sorry to hear that you are feeling this way right now, it sounds like you are in a really dark place and dealing with a lot. We hope that you can feel proud of how much strength it must have taken to post here on the forums, and what a great step it is to reach out for support. That takes a huge amount of bravery, thank you for showing that to us today. 

We think that it might be time for you to talk to one of our team on the phoneline 1300 22 4636 so you can chat about how you are feeling. It is ok to not feel ok, but the lovely people who answer the phones can help you process these thoughts and feel better in the moment. 

If, at any stage. you feel unsafe this is an emergenecy and you should call 000 straight away.

You are welcome here in this community and we really hope we can hear more about your experiences. By posting your thoughts you never know who else may see them and feel less alone in their struggle. 

Kind regards ,
Sophie M

[smallwolf]

Hi, it has been a while since I last heard from you.

I think it must be really upsetting and frustrating that everything you have tried has not worked for you. At least that is how I think I would feel. And I think that I wonder what I was doing wrong as well. Yet ...

Do you want to talk about the pattern that is not changing?

And what would it look like if the pattern did change?

If you want to chat about anything I am here.

[Guest9337]

G’day Unicorndogge, your amazing progress since Aug 2020 until now has inspired me to reach out.

Thanks for sharing your experience on bb forums, truly there are known ways to learn self-compassion, self-kindness and mindfulness to combat your lived experience described.

During my 10 years of study about education and coaching whenever I came across the term “Learned Helplessness” I cried inside. Martin Seligman aimed his Positive Psychology methods at addressing learned helplessness (LH).

Be careful if you choose to discover The Invisible Shackles of Learned Helplessness by Brisbane Wellbeing Psychologists | Feb 10, 2019 through google searching.

For the original techniques used to research LH by Seligman include experiment upon beautiful beagle dogs, which are restrained during the experiment. If you are careful with the Invisible Shackles webpage you will learn heaps!

Microsoft Word - guide- mental Health issues and dyslexia.docx (ready4success.com.au) is a 17 page document on which page 4 publishes a brief on LH which is a comfortable and short read for me and likely you too.

Learned helplessness - Wikipedia seems to present an extensive discussion of LH also.

I won’t in this post put up any more things for you to google search for as I am aware that may be overwhelming for you or others, indeed the topic of LH overwhelms me too.

If you would care for me to present more information about LH and possible solutions towards redressing LH, simply ask. I will pace myself and you/us as best I can.

Kind regards, dng.

[Unicorndogge]

😭😭 I feel like no one wants me anymore. I am just useless, what am I good for. I have no one to talk to because I am not good enough

[Sophie_M]

Hey Unicorndogge,

We can hear how much you're are hurting at the moment. Has something happened recently to trigger these thoughts? Please know you are a valuable and appreciated member of this community. 

If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under.  We are here to listen. 

[therising]

Hi Unicorndogge

It definitely feels hopeless when people just don't get us. When you're unique in so many ways, sensitive, different from so many, it can feel like you're one of a kind and no one else in the world can relate to you. I know that feeling on occasion.

I'm what some would call 'a weird one', 'a bit of a social misfit', 'a bit crazy' and so on. There's always a group of people who get me, who understand, who relate. Such a group is typically filled with 'the weird ones', 'the social misfits' and what some would call 'the crazy out there woo woo ones'. It's amazing how, when I've spoken to such people, they've often said they were regarded as the black sheep of the family and different from most of the people they've known. They never felt like they quite fitted in anywhere. It's incredible how in meeting such people you can feel like you've found a home, somewhere to return to, to remember yourself, especially when you're down.

Hard to imagine that you haven't found your people yet, especially when you feel such people don't exist. What if they did, they do. Imagine. What would they be like? Do you have any idea? What would they look like, sound like, talk about, dress like and so on? What do you imagine?

🙂

[smallwolf]

Do you want to talk about what happened?