I don't want to leave but..

[beyond_happy]

Im currently a high school student, who has in the past suffered from severe depression. I no longer associate myself with the negative thoughts that I previously did but I tend to struggle a lot with issues and I just came here today in hope for advice.

My friends, the people I've spent my whole high school experience with, are continuously ignoring me, not inviting me anywhere, talking behind my back and pushing me out. I keep blaming myself for this but i know that i have done nothing wrong. I haven't confronted any issues with them because knowing them, so well, they will not have a mature conversation with me. I know this will potentially be the end of our friendships, leaving me with no body. I know many people will tell me to leave the group, find new friends but i have booked several holidays with them which causes an issue.

I know this doesn't seem like much but I have never really felt this alone. Please help.

[startingnew]

hello and welcome to the forums

your not alone in your situation or in the way your feeling. i know many others who feel the same way and i aslo went through the same thing going through school.

i had the same 'friends' as you have where they are just there but really arent anything more.

i understand why you are feeling the way you are esp not having the supportive friends as you would like and aslo deserve to have.

i know its really not easy but have you thought about maybe jsut speaking to some of your other classmates and getting to know them?

it doesnt mean you have to change groups but it can help with the lonliness feelings. just knowing that your going to class and you have people to talk to even if its jsut about work and even form some study groups?

as i said it doesnt mean changing who your hanging out with as i understand the consequences your talking about but it doesnt mean you cant talk to other people right?

is there any interest groups that your school runs? i remember mine had a few after school sporting, and study groups.. does your school have something that you like that you could join into?

or any interest groups outside of school? sometimes just having other friends outside of school can help to adn while it might not help your current friendships you know that these friends are loosing out on your friendship and thats a sad loss to them.

[beyond_happy]

Thank you for replying.

I have other friends outside of school, but initially my friends were spending almost every day with me and I guess I am not used to the no communication. I don't want to loose them because they are so important to me, and thats why am i being blinded by their negativity towards me. I want to be able to confidently fix the issues between us, but if I was to confront the situation, as previously mentioned, it would not turn out okay.

I have other friends, like making new friends would not be an issue, its just because of past experiences, I am not one to deal with loss well. I guess the fact that Ive done nothing wrong is so much worse for me. I genuinely feel empty and as if I don't belong anymore.

[startingnew]

Ahh ok sorry I misunderstood.


Hmmm I was in the same situation as you but unfortunatley I couldnt fix it either. I went throuh school as a loner spending my time in the library and focussing on my studies.


Do you think maybe you caould approach them by simply saying even over text 'hey guys, I feel like you have been distant are you ok?
Then its like your checking in on them but they might be open to saying whats going on?

[Pysis]

Hi mate

I'm sorry that your freinds are doing this to you it's not fair but that's what happens in high school sometimes unfortunately but it dosent mean that your freindships with them have to end.

Have you had anyone new join your group of fiends? or have circumstances changed at all ?or is maybe one of your friends going through a tough time? Sometimes when new people join groups they don't like one of the members of that group so they try and turn the others against them and sometimes when people are going through a hard time they don't know how to deal with their own emotions so they take it out on others.

i know why you don't want to lose them and I completely understand it feeling wierd not to have that constant contact with them. I get the at you don't want to lose them becuase you have had experiences and have spent time building your relationships with them that you probably will never have with other people. Recently my best friend got full time work so I went from seeing her all the time and talking with her all the time to not hearing from her or seeing her at all and it's something that is really hard.

I'm not really sure what's going on with your freinds but it sounds like somthing has changed in some way for this kind of stuff to happen and it could unfortunately be as simple as one of your freinds is jealous of you for some reason.

You sound pretty mature and most people in high school tend not to be so I understand what you mean by you can't have a mature conversation with them which really dose make it hard. let me think about it I don't know maybe I'll be able to think of something.

thinking of you

Nath

[KMTE]

Sorry you are going through this. Things like this happened to me in high school not to that extent but I think unfortunately that's just high school. It can be very cliquey and confusing. Young people grow up and mature at different stages. It sounds like you are very mature for your age which can make things difficult (as funny as that sounds) I'm sorry that I don't have any real advice for you but I'm sorry your having such a hard time.