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Hey guys, I'm 21 and this is the first time i've ever reached out to anybody for help with my mental health. Lately i've been feeling strange and I wouldn't call this feeling new i'd just say that I don't like it. So far in my life i've had a lot of ... View more

Hey guys, I'm 21 and this is the first time i've ever reached out to anybody for help with my mental health. Lately i've been feeling strange and I wouldn't call this feeling new i'd just say that I don't like it. So far in my life i've had a lot of ups and downs. As i'm sure everyone has and so far i've known how to deal with these emotions and life. However lately i've felt very alone. This feeling comes from: 1. Past relationships ending 2. Social anxiety (not being able to talk to people the same as I could before 3.University and the workload that comes with it 4. Not having any time for myself I know these are common issues for somebody my age however I find i'm constantly thinking about them and cannot no matter how hard I try STOP! I also feel lost in life so far i've done a lot of travel and met a lot of friends, however even if i'm in a room surrounded by people I still feel alone. This is me putting my heart on a plate and this isn't a common occurence however i've come to the conclusion that I need help even if it's just from random people on a forum. If you can give me any advice/ideas that'd be great because anything that could help would be very appreciated. Thankyou and Peace and Love

Im scared in my own house

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Please help guys. My life is really bad im 15. I wish i could control myself but at school im a different person and im getting in so much trouble. I really want to become a better person but I dont have any support to do it. I get in trouble for so ... View more

Please help guys. My life is really bad im 15. I wish i could control myself but at school im a different person and im getting in so much trouble. I really want to become a better person but I dont have any support to do it. I get in trouble for so many things and my parents are really mad about it. They said that if I do something else they would kick me out of the house. Ive posted in other websites and they advised me to call the police but I dont want my parents to be in any trouble, I just wanna live a normal life and be happy with my family.

My friend didn't show up and I was left alone at lunch. My depression and anxiety took over.

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So I have extremely high anxiety and depression. My life changed after a traumatic experience last year and I haven't been the same. I'm in year 8 and I've started at a new school this year and somehow I've ended up from having 15 friends to having 1... View more

So I have extremely high anxiety and depression. My life changed after a traumatic experience last year and I haven't been the same. I'm in year 8 and I've started at a new school this year and somehow I've ended up from having 15 friends to having 1. This happened in the span of 2 weeks. My only friend has been really sick and won't be coming to school this week and today I was left alone to sit at both breaks. No one talked to me and I was left to sit by my self. I tried to socialise at lunch but my social anxiety took over. At my old school I didn't have anyone to talk to or hang out with at breaks. I was left in my own thoughts and that's what it's starting to feel like at this new school. Even when my friend is there I feel alone. He's my best friend but yet we both know we're the only friends we're ever going to have at that school. But because my friend wasn't there I was fighting back tears because a flood of memories from my old school came back. It wasn't fun holding back tears all day. If anyone has ANY advice on how to get me through these days please tell me. I don't have therapy until Thursday and all I want to do is stay in bed and cry.

Really struggling in the past year or so.

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Got a few separate topics to discuss as well as adding more context, so pause your replies for a bit sorry. I can only fit the first topic here. Anyway, the last year or so has been really very stressful for my parents (I'm 16), and although there's ... View more

Got a few separate topics to discuss as well as adding more context, so pause your replies for a bit sorry. I can only fit the first topic here. Anyway, the last year or so has been really very stressful for my parents (I'm 16), and although there's always been something out of our control that comes in and ruins the day for years, lately it's escalated massively. We all see the light at the end of this tunnel of stress and hardship (financially and otherwise) but that doesn't make it significantly easier to cope in the present. I'm walking on eggshells whenever I'm around my parents, so that's pretty much all day every day since I'm enrolled in Distance learning. School (actual "go to school" school) used to be my escape, and every day I'd come home to someone on the phone yelling at the ISP, real estate agent, workplace, etc. For the past two years I haven't had that escape, I've just been at home all the time. I didn't keep in touch with my friends from my old school because although they were friends at school, I never saw myself doing anything with them outside of school y'know? Just those sort of people. It's just such a tense atmosphere at home, and the days where my parents are out for a few hours are the happiest and most productive regarding exercise, schoolwork and other studying/learning. They're at 99% capacity 24/7 and I hate what they go through, especially my dad, because he has to see a physio for the issues it causes physically. I struggle to work in this environment, as does my dad who's building a website and about to launch it, but every time I tell them I'm falling behind, they explode. Not so much going off at me, but it's the one thing that makes the stress levels hit 100%. It just becomes one thing too much. So I hide it, and I fall behind, try to catch up before the teachers contact them, but that never works and then it's the fact that I lied to them. They think that if I really cared about reducing the stress I'd just do the work, and that should be my incentive. (I've always struggled with finding motivation with school work, but without friends and a calm environment, I struggle so much more) I only try to hide it because, from past experience, every time they find out, regardless if I tell or the teachers do, it becomes too much to handle. (so many commas wow this has really infected me ._.) The way my parents are right now is completely justified, so I'm not mad at them in that regard, I just can't deal with it much longer.

Hi and Help

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Hi Everyone, First time posting in one of these forums. And I'd like to thank you in advance for your time. To give you a general overview about me. I'm male and 24 years of age. I've always had social anxiety issues as well as a few years of bad obs... View more

Hi Everyone, First time posting in one of these forums. And I'd like to thank you in advance for your time. To give you a general overview about me. I'm male and 24 years of age. I've always had social anxiety issues as well as a few years of bad obsessive thoughts in my teens which required the intervention of medication. Through these early years of obsessive thinking I did develop derealization - which I learnt to live with quite comfortably. I have dabbled in recreational drug use with both some bad and good experiences. Namely one of my worst experience was terrible reaction to speed which forced me to be held up in bed for a few days. Other than that I'm your average guy who really enjoyed my sport and working out. Now whilst things had not been perfect (namely my social retardation) - I had been living a rather normal life. Last year I started working at a company that very much undervalued its employees - in turn I developed a great distaste for one person in management. I ended up leaving the company after 8 months. I moved in with my parents for a few weeks and this is where my pain began (this has nothing to do with my parents btw). About three weeks into my stay my parents had some friends over - I had a really awkward encounter with them (honestly it was really just me acting like my normal awkward self), anyway that night I woke up and really felt disconnected from myself. I straight away thought it must have been depersonalization - I really could not recognize myself in the mirror. 10 months on and I'm still not back to a 'normal' comfortable version of myself. Everyday feels like the reset button has been pushed and I don't really know who I am. I really struggle to remember things and even find it hard to know what day it is. The not knowing the day is really concerning to me, it's as if the date doesn't really mean anything to me anymore. I started taking medication which made me super anxious - I stopped this after 6 months and am now on Za different antidepressant which has probably slightly helped. I see both a psychologist and psychiatrist however I feel as though I'm getting nothing out of seeing the psychologist as my mind and how I'm going to feel day to day changes so drastically. Like what's the point in trying to tackle my socially issues and what not if I've got no consistency in how I feel on any particular day.

Girlfriend broke up after shift in personality - Depression or/and Aromantic?

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Hi everyone, this situation is stressful and confusing for me. I am worried about her. My girlfriend and I dated for 10 months. I loved her for her enthusiasm, sense of humour, amazing conversations, her beauty, we got on so well. She came out to me ... View more

Hi everyone, this situation is stressful and confusing for me. I am worried about her. My girlfriend and I dated for 10 months. I loved her for her enthusiasm, sense of humour, amazing conversations, her beauty, we got on so well. She came out to me as asexual and after some research didn't worry me, keeping communication open. As uni started this year, after a wonderful 8 months together, she suddenly began to act distant. In the first week we had a few arguments but sorted it out. After this though, she just shut down, refusing to talk to me, snapping at me and avoiding affection, but was fine to everyone else. This continued for a week before I asked her what was wrong and she said she had lost feelings for me. I agreed to give her some time to think but the next day we resolved that I may have been too clingy the last few weeks and I promised to back off. We returned to semi normal but she would often snap at me, she was getting barely any sleep, falling asleep in class and was stressing over the workload. A month later, she shut down again, almost refusing to have anything to do with me. We went to a friends party where she sulked and sat on her phone the whole night. From here, everytime I saw her, she treated me like I was a creep, snapping at me, ignoring me and I felt terrible, this was very draining for me. Thinking stress was the cause, I took her to the park to unwind and talk but she closed up with her head in her knees saying she wasn't enjoying anything. We had graduation, where she looked burnt out and unhealthy, she was nice to everyone but me. Another week passed of her avoiding me, refusing to talk, snapping. I thought a reason could have been the arguments we had and asked if we could move on, but she said that wasn't it and had lost all feeling for me and now identifued as aromantic. A few days later she broke up with a lengthy letter wishing to be friends but now she doesn't want to be friends either, treating me like a stranger and acting very cold. She has continued to look very burnt out and almost failed her last assignment which is very unlike her. Others have started to mention her, noticing her change in personality too. She definitely is not herself and I really miss her. What this could mean? After researching, a lot of her symptoms align with depression. She has always shown some unusual social traits too. I am leaving her alone as I feel any push by me will drive her further away. Is there anything I can do? Thank you

Anxiety about going to war?

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Hey all, I'm glad to see that there are fellow members who are also majorly anxious and scared about possibly wars/big scale disaster events etc. With North Korea claiming to have this massive bomb now, and the possibility of WW3 happening, it's got ... View more

Hey all, I'm glad to see that there are fellow members who are also majorly anxious and scared about possibly wars/big scale disaster events etc. With North Korea claiming to have this massive bomb now, and the possibility of WW3 happening, it's got me thinking... Has conscription/being drafted stopped in Australia? Will it be picked up again? I'm quite dumb about these things and quite honestly, the thought of me having to go to war makes me so anxious I can't think of anything else. I also read that if you have anxiety or depression, it means you can't go to war, though. Forgive me if this post seems a bit all over the place. This kind of stuff just majorly freaks me out. Cheers.

I feel like I'm failing not only Uni but everyone around me

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Hi there!! Im an 18yr old kiwi girl who moved to Aussie this year for Uni. I am a naturally shy and introverted person so I find it really hard to meet new people. I'm also socially awkward and not much of a party type. Whenever around friends now, I... View more

Hi there!! Im an 18yr old kiwi girl who moved to Aussie this year for Uni. I am a naturally shy and introverted person so I find it really hard to meet new people. I'm also socially awkward and not much of a party type. Whenever around friends now, I feel so out of place, especially when in a group. I feel like I always say weird stuff and will ruminate on what I said in the conversation for days. Another thing which brings down my confidence is my acne. I can't remember a day where my skin has been clear for the past 5 Years. Whenever I go outside or talk to anyone, I feel like they are staring at my skin(even though I know no one gives a damn). Everyone around me in uni is always at events or socialising but about 95% of my free time, I'm alone - which is a lot of the time considering I only have 12hrs of uni a week(which I have been skipping a lot of). I feel totally isolated from the world most of the time. So, I just sleep and surf the internet. On quite a few occasions I'll sleep at 8am in the morning and wake up at 5 pm in the evening. I am currently so unmotivated to to anything. My procrastination has gotten worse and I haven't handed in my assignments for over a week. I'll have sudden flashes of inspiration and feel motivated. But sometimes I'll feel like I'm letting my parents, friends and teachers down. I've tried to fix my habits by trying to get a job. I even got a trial run but I slept through it but I didnt even feel anything about it. I also feel like I haven't chosen the right course at university but I don't want to change because I'll have to pay international fees due to the new regulations for NZ students studying in Aussie. It's funny because in the past, although I was always apart of the more awkward group, I've never felt this way. I was a scholarship student who joined all the clubs, had hobbies and felt motivated. I feel like such a dissapointment especially to my parents which is why I keep lying to them whenever they call asking whether or not I'm sleeping well, or I'm eating well. I also know that they aren't doing the best financially so I don't know what will happen if I happen to fail this course in uni in FIRST year. I haven't really told anyone about how I really am but I hate feeling weak and self-pitying. I don't know why I'm so unmotivated to do anything and always procrastinating. Is there anything I can do?? Thanks for getting through all that. ;)) First time user harmomarmo

Needing a place to let it all out

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I am 24 and am still at home with my family. I work full time and love my job, and am always known as the happy/smiley one. At home, I feel so different. I am very different to my mum and my sisters, which mean we clash a lot. As a teenager, my mum u... View more

I am 24 and am still at home with my family. I work full time and love my job, and am always known as the happy/smiley one. At home, I feel so different. I am very different to my mum and my sisters, which mean we clash a lot. As a teenager, my mum used to make remarks to me about my weight and this has gotten worse as a i have gotten older (I have a bit of winter weight - but still a size 8). There is also remarks that she makes about me, That i stink, that i am disgusting, I'm a pig, that I never help, that I will never get a boyfriend and compares me to my sisters, etc. I get so upset but i'm never one to express how i'm feeling, i just get angry and upset. This last 6 months has been a nightmare and i dread the idea of having to come home every night. I am serious about moving out and am looking at places with a friend, but I just don't know if I can handle the next month or two until we find a place. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she sees nothing wrong in what she has done and tells me to move on. A few weeks ago I told her I was struggling and she turned it around and just said that everyone struggles and to move on. I just feel like I have had to be the one to move on and get over it way too often. I just don't know how I can make her see how it has effected me. I am upset almost every night and I hate it. I hate feeling like this! It's always my problem, it's never her that has done the wrong thing and I'm the one who apparently over reacts to everything. Please help! I know it seems petty and silly - I just don't know how I can make her see how I am feeling.

Am I normal? (Please help)

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I suffer from a number of mental illnesses, and have no motivation to do anything whatsoever. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and he takes care of me day in and day out. The rare occasion where he goes out or has a drink at home wi... View more

I suffer from a number of mental illnesses, and have no motivation to do anything whatsoever. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and he takes care of me day in and day out. The rare occasion where he goes out or has a drink at home with his friend, I get really upset and start resenting him. Is this normal? I feel so guilty for it but I honestly can't help it. Please tell me if this is normal!

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Im scared in my own house

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My friend didn't show up and I was left alone at lunch. My depression and anxiety took over.

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Really struggling in the past year or so.

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Hi and Help

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Girlfriend broke up after shift in personality - Depression or/and Aromantic?

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Anxiety about going to war?

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