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[Bray]

Hey guys,

Just wondering if anyone here has felt all alone even though you have a good amount of people always with you? No matter how many people I'm always with, I feel worthless and alone. I'm really good at hiding emotions and tend to keep it all inside. I find it hard to talk about it because no one really understands. I'm pretty much on here not knowing what to expect, but to find someone who knows how I feel or to relate because I'm at a point of my life where I just don't know what to do anymore. I just don't seem happy anymore and I constantly feel alone. At work, I'm known for a big smile and positive attitude, but deep down I'm slowly just giving up. I just don't know to be honest.. I'm starting to get to a point where I distance myself from people as well, maybe I'm afraid to get hurt, I don't know. If someone can relate to anything I have mentioned, please give me some advice on where to go, because I'm completely lost. 

[iusedtobefamous]

Hey, 

What you're describing is actually really common - I'm currently going through the same thing. I think it's really important that you tell your GP the way you're feeling, and maybe consider asking for a referral to see a psychologist. I know when this was first suggested to me, I thought that seemed really drastic, but in all honesty, it's just someone to talk to, and over the years, I've found it so helpful. 

The other thing to try and remember (something my psychologist told me when I was 15 and I still sometimes have to remind myself), is that other people can't understand if you don't give them a chance to. I know it can be really hard, but it's important that you don't shut people out, because you'll feel even more alone. If you have one really close friend, or even if you can just talk to a parent, it really does help you feel less alone, because then you know that there's at least one person who knows what you're going through. 

I hope you feel better soon. 

[Narniakid]

Hey Bray, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

I can certainly remember a time feeling the way you have described - most of us on this website have felt that way at one point or another. You are most certainly not alone, and I can assure you that this feeling won't last forever.

Definately take into consideration what iusedtobefamous has mentioned about seeing your GP for a referral to a psychologist, as that is usually the best place to start. A specialist will be able to work through you during sessions to narrow down the cause of the problem and ways you can overcome these feelings. An important thing to remember about feeling lonely despite being around the people - you will always feel alone if you don't connect with them. 

Crystal 

[Bray]

Thank you so much for the advice @narniakid. I came on here on a limb hoping to find some answers and more importantly, direction as to where to go. I think I found it hard because the one person I connect with on a spiritual and emotional level I suppose lives on the other side of the world. 

[Guest_5218]

Hi Bray,

I can definitely relate to everything that you have said.  I feel exactly the same.  But although I can offer you my understanding and support from afar, I am not able to offer any solutions.  I havent found anything yet that helps unfortunately.  But some of the other people here on the Forum appear to have offered some pretty sound advise.  I really hope that some of this will work for you.  It sounds like you also suffer from loneliness, so I hope you can somehow overcome that.  No doubt Crystal is correct when she says that you will always remain lonely if you dont 'connect with people'.  Certainly I am also guilty of this. Although in the written form I can connect, face to face or verbally, I am unable to.  I am new to this Forum myself (2 days now) and I have found that it is a useful place to 'vent' at times.  So dont give up..   Good luck.