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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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_steph_ New Here: Meant to be the best years of my life
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Hi everyone - i just discovered this forum and everyone seems to open minded and helpful so i thought i might try my luck for some advice. I'm 19, just finished my second year at uni and suspect I've been depressed for about 4 years now. For the past... View more

Hi everyone - i just discovered this forum and everyone seems to open minded and helpful so i thought i might try my luck for some advice. I'm 19, just finished my second year at uni and suspect I've been depressed for about 4 years now. For the past 5 years I've always had someone terminally ill in the family, all 3 of them had cancer, and all three died, the last of them early this year. Even though i wasn't directly involved in their care, the atmosphere at home and seeing their deterioration really took its toll on me. My parents would get angry at me for not asking how they were, but i was scared to because i didn't want to hear they were getting worse and i didn't want to act nosey. At school I never felt like I really had much in common with my friends, even though i got along with them - people would always comment how i was so mature but tbh i just felt detached. When school finished I gravitated towards my childhood friends who i kept contact with through church and who i knew were my best bet for long term friends. I live about an hour away from them all and they're all so close, so the past 2 years since i finished school I've been torn between desperately wanting to get really close to them, but seeing that they couldn't put in the effort to see someone who lives so far away. I can't make friends outside my church/culture group anymore because I feel like it's the only thing thats held me up through everything and no one else understand my values. After doing my first year of uni i realised i hated my degree and wanted to start something new, but now that I'm a year into my new course i'm under so much pressure to achieve and do well and even though I'm more content with my direction i still struggle to find the motivation to do much more than wake up in the morning. My parents are doctors and i'm scared to open up to them because i don't want them to ignore how i feel and say i'm dramatic, or start treating my like a patient, but i think I'm at the point that i need help and don't know where to go. I live at home, can't drive and don't even have my own medicare. Sorry for the long post, hopefully someone can give me some pointers - just under pressure that these are meant to be the best years of my life and all I can think about is how I don't mean much to anyone. Am I depressed or being melodramatic??

Lauren1992 Feeling scared
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I am a 23 year female suffering from anxiety,I have had anxiety for almost 1 year now and it has been a battle i have faced with every day. My anxiety has gotten worse since i separated with my partner after a 7.5 year relationship which was 6 months... View more

I am a 23 year female suffering from anxiety,I have had anxiety for almost 1 year now and it has been a battle i have faced with every day. My anxiety has gotten worse since i separated with my partner after a 7.5 year relationship which was 6 months ago.I managed to control my anxiety this whole year until my relationship ended. I always considered myself to be so head strong and never thought i would have to deal with something like this.I have panic attacks often which are very scary and my anxiety is getting worse. I have been seeing a psychologist for 6 months and occasionally do yoga, go for long walks and try to relax as much as possible.I am scared that this will never go away. I recently visited the doctor and now i am taking medication to help with my anxiety and have only just started taking this. I decided to start taking this as my anxiety was affecting my job at work. The medication has been quite overwhelming and recently it made me feel as though i was making myself think i was going crazy and had bad thoughts.Is this medication just a bandaid or will it actually help me long term? I am doing everything i can to get back on track but i don't understand what will happen once i eventually stop taking the medication.I feel as though i am alone because none of my friends have experienced the anxiety i have, nor have they had an attack.I remind myself everyday that this storm will pass but would like to hear from people who have gotten through. Thank you

Bray I don't know.
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Hey guys, Just wondering if anyone here has felt all alone even though you have a good amount of people always with you? No matter how many people I'm always with, I feel worthless and alone. I'm really good at hiding emotions and tend to keep it all... View more

Hey guys, Just wondering if anyone here has felt all alone even though you have a good amount of people always with you? No matter how many people I'm always with, I feel worthless and alone. I'm really good at hiding emotions and tend to keep it all inside. I find it hard to talk about it because no one really understands. I'm pretty much on here not knowing what to expect, but to find someone who knows how I feel or to relate because I'm at a point of my life where I just don't know what to do anymore. I just don't seem happy anymore and I constantly feel alone. At work, I'm known for a big smile and positive attitude, but deep down I'm slowly just giving up. I just don't know to be honest.. I'm starting to get to a point where I distance myself from people as well, maybe I'm afraid to get hurt, I don't know. If someone can relate to anything I have mentioned, please give me some advice on where to go, because I'm completely lost.

balletgirl101 I don't know how I should be feeling
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and he has already moved on with my best friend. They have been dating for two weeks now and I only found out a couple of days ago and they never were going to tell me, it was only because I personally me... View more

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and he has already moved on with my best friend. They have been dating for two weeks now and I only found out a couple of days ago and they never were going to tell me, it was only because I personally messaged her because I had suspicions something was going on. I have had a long history of my ex's dating my best friend straight afterwards and both of them knew that. I want her to be happy but than again why does it have to be with the person that I still love and am trying to move on. I received a message off him saying that the had been talking for more than a month non-stop and she helped him move on and I just have to deal with it. I really do not know how I should be feeling. I see them together all the time at school and it makes things so much worse. I guess it is really hard because not only did I lose my boyfriend but also a really close friend. I really don't know how i should feel about the situation...

thebatman I feel ugly
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I'm 22 years old and rarely leave my house because of the way I look. I feel that I don't look as nice as other people, and I'm very aware of my flaws. When I do go out, I spend hours trying to contour my face in an attempt to make it look thinner, a... View more

I'm 22 years old and rarely leave my house because of the way I look. I feel that I don't look as nice as other people, and I'm very aware of my flaws. When I do go out, I spend hours trying to contour my face in an attempt to make it look thinner, and I avoid letting anyone take a photo of me at all costs. I've even gone to the extent of restricting my food intake in an attempt to lose weight on my face, though it seems no matter how thin I get, my face still looks fat. My reason for posting this is because I'm having a hard time seeing anything other than this flaw, and my obsession with it is making me feel awful. I just want to stop thinking about it. I'm wondering if anyone else feels like this?

Tay_Blue Depression story
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So basically I think I have had depression for a long time now, but I am currently in year 12 and everything has just been intensified. Every day I feel so overwhelmed and sad and anxious with my life (nothing can make me happy), it physically feels ... View more

So basically I think I have had depression for a long time now, but I am currently in year 12 and everything has just been intensified. Every day I feel so overwhelmed and sad and anxious with my life (nothing can make me happy), it physically feels like there is a heavy weight permanently in my chest.... I am constantly weak and tired. What's even worse is that all my friends at school who I love sooooo much don't care about me at all! I normally try my hardest to act really happy but when I hit my low moods of being in a blackhole they just ignore me! They continue on talking like I am invisible which makes me feel even worse. I have lost my true self which has lead to self hate, I know that I could be someone people like but at the moment there is nothing good about me, on top of that I just feel so empty and dull and just miserable with everything! I don't even know what to do anymore, physically my body won't let me tell anyone, and I am just so SICK of being this person with little worth or value, at school people don't talk to me in class, I only have my girls at lunch time but they don't seem to like me anymore, for some reason I am not worth their time? Everything about me feels so wrong and dark, it is very very hard for me at the moment- not to mention the constant anxiety every day about going to school.

shaun2724 Need help
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I think I'm relapsing how do I stop it from happening??

I think I'm relapsing how do I stop it from happening??

iusedtobefamous Not coping and terrified
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So, bit of background first, I've been dealing with depression and anxiety since I was 12, I'm now 23. I've been seeing a psychologist on and off throughout all this, and I'm still seeing one at the moment. I've been really proud of my progress - whe... View more

So, bit of background first, I've been dealing with depression and anxiety since I was 12, I'm now 23. I've been seeing a psychologist on and off throughout all this, and I'm still seeing one at the moment. I've been really proud of my progress - when I was 19, I got really bad, I couldn't leave the house at all for months, I wouldn't speak to anyone, my mum had to come with me for every thing - shopping, appointments, everything. Fast forward a few years, I'm now working full time, I'm in the healthiest relationship of my life... And I'm really struggling. My boss keeps asking me what's wrong, and I hate telling her - I get that she needs a breif idea of what's going on because it's affecting my performance at work, but I feel like she's judging me, I feel really paranoid about almost everything at the moment, I feel like the people at work have been talking about me because she said the other day that their "all really worried about me", which should be a nice thing for her to say, and I should be all "awwww, they care", but instead I just want to withdraw further because (in my head) obviously that means they've been talking about me and I hate that. I never used to be this paranoid, or suspicious. I used to go out to lunch every day with the girls from work, I don't remember the last time I did because I find it exhausting. I come home at lunch instead and just sit in my room for an hour while I eat and try to psych myself up for the rest of the afternoon. I don't know how to deal with work - I'm exhausted, and I'm trying so hard to keep up appearances, but I don't know how long I can do it for, and the idea that I have to work for the rest of my life to support myself makes me want to curl up into a little ball and cry.

black_butterfly what should i do next?
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I have been dealing with forms of Anxiety for as long as i can remember.. but as i have hit high school age i find it has gotten a lot worse. I get nervous about the smallest things- eg going to school. I get physically sick in more ways then one.. i... View more

I have been dealing with forms of Anxiety for as long as i can remember.. but as i have hit high school age i find it has gotten a lot worse. I get nervous about the smallest things- eg going to school. I get physically sick in more ways then one.. i find that one lesson i really struggle with is PE i have had a few panic attacks during this lesson which is making me unable to participate and making me get a low grade. I haven't spoken to anyone at school about it but I am really wanted to but don't have the courage to go and see them.. I have days that i think to myself that i am really bad and should see someone but on others i think that im not bad enough or that other people have bigger problems and that i don't need to see anyone. Ive told a few of my close friends and they all agree that i should go but i honestly don't know..

DisneyFan101 New to BeyondBlue and could use some advice/support
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Hey everyone, I'm only fairly young and I worried i may be ridiculed for being so young and having "problems" that i need help with such as boyfriend problems and issues with my father which ill address on another day. I'm 18 in a few months and any ... View more

Hey everyone, I'm only fairly young and I worried i may be ridiculed for being so young and having "problems" that i need help with such as boyfriend problems and issues with my father which ill address on another day. I'm 18 in a few months and any support i could get would be great. I'm usually a fairly happy teenager when kept occupied, but when i'm alone or have a lot of stress on me, i begin to drift into a very dark state of mind, i have had severe anxiety and depression most of my life and i don't know how to deal with the emotions that come with being alone and having thoughts like i do, some of these thoughts consist of just ending everything, thinking that I'm worthless and everybody around me doesn't like me at all, they just pretend and i feel like when something goes wrong in many peoples lives and i cant help, it makes me feel like its my fault. I want everybody around me to be happy but at the same time I'm desperate for happiness for myself. My boyfriend of 2 years and i disagree quite often over silly little things, he went to Schoolies this time a year ago and kissed two other women and he says that's all that happened. A lot of me believes him and the left over parts are just skeptical. I found out about this via my best friend and in the beginning he denied it but eventually admitted it was the truth. i was distraught but over many many weeks i started to feel a little better, the pain is still there but not as much, i love him to bits but I'm tired of being so insecure because its causing issues between us, I'm doing year 12 at the moment and the stress is taking its toll on me, i don't mind having the occasional argument (in my opinion sometimes its healthy to vent) but not this much. Like i began to explain earlier the actual arguments a lot of the time are due to my constant stress and worry about him when he goes out the the pub with the boys. I want him to be able to have fun and go out without working myself up so much, I could really use any advice i can get on how to let go of the past or control my anxiety attacks and depression states. I'm on antidepressants and they have helped a fair bit over the past however many years but these little episodes i have just keep going. Please give some advice. I love him more than anything and i want to be with him but its not going to work whilst i hang on to the past like i do. - Thankyou