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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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PaperWolf Struggling with University and Anxiety
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Hi everyone, I'm a university student who has been struggling with anxiety since upper highschool. It affects me socially but mainly in my performance at uni. Finishing assignments feels like a nightmare as i struggle to start any work and frequently... View more

Hi everyone, I'm a university student who has been struggling with anxiety since upper highschool. It affects me socially but mainly in my performance at uni. Finishing assignments feels like a nightmare as i struggle to start any work and frequently experience exhaustion, shaking and panic attacks. I control everything including food up until my exams and arrive early to try and get a seat the furtherest away at the back. i tend to enter a cycle of pretending im okay then getting more and more behind until i start having panic attacks and missing assignment submissions whilst finding it difficult to talk to my family and friends as i feel quite a lot of guilt. I have exams and last assignments very soon and my university doesn't have any available counselling appointments which I'm finding difficult as it took quite a lot of willpower to try to seek help. i joined hoping to feel a little less alone in it all. Take care everyone Lila

Jords Anxiety and career
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G'day, I was hoping to get a bit of advice. I'm currently 20, and suffer/suffered from anxiety. It started around three years ago - it didn't affect my life much, and was here and there. I went and saw my doctor, and he could tell that it was only mi... View more

G'day, I was hoping to get a bit of advice. I'm currently 20, and suffer/suffered from anxiety. It started around three years ago - it didn't affect my life much, and was here and there. I went and saw my doctor, and he could tell that it was only minor anxiety. So I went to see a psychiatrist to clear things up, and again he suggested that it's only minor anxiety and wouldn't interfere with my career. The reason I bring this up, is that I'm currently studying towards being a paramedic in NSW. My original goal was to apply for the NSW Police but their restrictions are that you need to be 2 years clear of anxiety before applying, whereas paramedic you don't need to wait a particular amount of years. So I thought I'd use the 2 year wait time to study towards a course, which takes 2 years, and once completed decide between either careers. I'm still pretty focused on becoming a police officer, but it's frustrating to think that anxiety will stop me. Both my GP and psychiatrist have said it won't affect me during the job, and would write a report that clears me from any issues. I have no ambitions in studying for any other career, other than police or paramedic. While I understand they are stressful jobs, I'd like to think that I'd do well, they are both careers that I'd definitely enjoy. I was hoping to get advice as to what I should do - should I continue studying and when I get to the point of applying, possibly be rejected because of my history in anxiety? Has anyone been in a similar scenario? Cheers!

jeanstar06 Want to help my boyfriend
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2 years ago my boyfriend lost his father to cancer, he got very depressed afterwards and has been on medication for about a year now. He has been really struggling lately and I don't know how I can help him? What can I say or do that might help him w... View more

2 years ago my boyfriend lost his father to cancer, he got very depressed afterwards and has been on medication for about a year now. He has been really struggling lately and I don't know how I can help him? What can I say or do that might help him when he is really missing his dad? I suggested going back to see his psychologist to help talk through what his feeling, and he wants to do that. I just want to be able to do more for him. I don't really know how to comfort him or what to say.

Brownie12 Broken hearted, alone and not sure what to do next
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Hi everyone, I am a newbie to the beyond blue forums. I came here tonight looking for advice. About three months ago my partner of 2 and a half years left me out of the blue. Ever since then I have been struggling with the grief of him leaving. We we... View more

Hi everyone, I am a newbie to the beyond blue forums. I came here tonight looking for advice. About three months ago my partner of 2 and a half years left me out of the blue. Ever since then I have been struggling with the grief of him leaving. We were best friends, and I feel as if I have lost apart of my identity. Even though I am only 20 I felt committed to moving in with him. We were together through some crucial years of development. The separation has not been very clean. We are in the same social group so I see him at many friends events. He has always been very friendly with girls, so it is hard to be out around him. His reasons of breaking it off was because he wanted to live a life, and form his own identity. He was always afraid of commitment. I understand his reasons for leaving but I am having trouble accepting them. Especially when he speaks to me innapropriately as friends. I miss him all the time. We were still chatting quite frequently until recently when I felt it was damaging so I cut it off. I think about him all the time and most days I am in tears. It has not helped that I have recently suffered a back injury which has left me bed ridden, giving me lots of time to think. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I am just unsure what to do anymore. Life seems meaningless and empty. I wake up and get through a day, celebrating that I made it at night time. I have suffered anxiety for a long time but think I may be depressed. I see a psychologist too. Sending love and hugs xo

sadgirl57 I feel like I've tried it all.
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So I posted a new thread the other day but I didn't really sum up well enough what was in my head so prepare yourself for a lot of rambling. Basically, I'm drained all the time. Nearly every aspect of my life is suffering - relationships, work, my he... View more

So I posted a new thread the other day but I didn't really sum up well enough what was in my head so prepare yourself for a lot of rambling. Basically, I'm drained all the time. Nearly every aspect of my life is suffering - relationships, work, my health. I eat well, I hang out with people, I try motivate myself with things I like and... nothing. I try to have a good perspective, and I do a lot of the time. I'm grateful, I do everything right - I look my fears in the face and fight them but still nothing. I've done the counselling, I've been to the doctor, I've done the diet, I've done everything. I can't remember a time in my life, even as a child, when I wasn't tired. I have a handful of different vitamins everyday and while they've helped and just still this blob that can't cope with life. I have this boyfriend that I'm literally draining the life out of because all he does is try to make me happy and he can't. I try to make myself happy and I can't. I want to improve myself by studying but I literally cannot, I've gotten help and I retain no information and just can't process anything. I rest and take time out. I've tried meditation. Am I just not meant to be happy?

Zac01 New here, no clue what is wrong with me
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Starting earlier this year, i have been having really strange thoughts that are worrying me. I don't know if anything outside my consciousness exists. I always wonder whether the world around me and everyone in it are fake and made up in my mind. I d... View more

Starting earlier this year, i have been having really strange thoughts that are worrying me. I don't know if anything outside my consciousness exists. I always wonder whether the world around me and everyone in it are fake and made up in my mind. I don't want it to be this way. When I went on holidays with my family, I actually had to convince myself that the world was real, because I was afraid it might disappear if I thought about it too much. Please help be, I want to know that everything is real! -Zac

woodlock i donr know what to do - stressed and upset
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so with exams coming up and everything, im beginning to become more stressed and anxious about school and studying. i feel like my mum plays a big part in this as she continuously pushes me too hard when studying and it mad at me when i get a low or ... View more

so with exams coming up and everything, im beginning to become more stressed and anxious about school and studying. i feel like my mum plays a big part in this as she continuously pushes me too hard when studying and it mad at me when i get a low or bad grade. she expects me to be a high achiever like my brother. and there was some point at my lie that i could try but now i feel like my brain gets to emotional to even do anything, i wont be trying or listening in class and even when i try to the words just go over my head. i dread going to school and exams. ill cry when i think of it. ive been to the school counselor but they didnt help me at all- completely irrelevant. i dont know what to do or how to solve any of this, please help.

Missy126 ">Left out
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Hi, I really need some help. For about the last five years now I have had trouble talking to my family about, anything, really. I am 13 years old and my parents blame everything on me. They never let me join in on family discussion and even talk to m... View more

Hi, I really need some help. For about the last five years now I have had trouble talking to my family about, anything, really. I am 13 years old and my parents blame everything on me. They never let me join in on family discussion and even talk to my sister. I am currently at my third school. Everyone is calling me names, name it I have been called it. Everyone hates me, and sometimes I fell so left out of this huge wide world. I know I have never had any parents so brothers or sister pass away. Frankly I don't even really now why I'm so sad. It's just no matter what I look at or see I just makes everything more sad. I need help and I don't know what to do with my life please help me

Puddless My life is in shambles - im trying to fix it but i need help
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Hi everyone, I'm new here but I don't really feel like i have anywhere else to turn to.INTRO Im currently in my fourth year at university studying a law degree at a Go8 uni, i have a steady job as a paralegal at a corporate law firm but I just feel l... View more

Hi everyone, I'm new here but I don't really feel like i have anywhere else to turn to.INTRO Im currently in my fourth year at university studying a law degree at a Go8 uni, i have a steady job as a paralegal at a corporate law firm but I just feel like i'm wasting my life. In my first 1.5-2years of uni, i was really social, went to all the parties etc... However, i've never really been that great at making long-lasting friends. I've lost most of my uni friends over the last 4 years and I really struggle to build bridges with these old-friends because I barely see them anymore and they just expect me to be really distant with them. To cap it all off, 2 years ago, I failed one of my uni subjects and that just really sent my life down the drain and I haven't been able to get up since (unfortunately im one of those people whose world explodes if i get a bad mark). When i found out i had failed that subject, i started thinking up ways to commit suicide but I was too afraid... In the end i guess that's a good thing but for the last 2 years, i've basically stagnated. I've been getting very mediocre marks, making very few friends, going out very little. Even my parents are concerned, they just don't know what to do about it. MY PROBLEMThe worst part is that I know this is not me. I like getting out there and meeting people. For the last 2 years, I go to work or uni and come home. No socialising in between. Then when I get home, i literally just play computer games. At some point, I had racked up over 80 hours of games in 2 weeks. It's not that I particularly like computer games, it's just i had nothing else to do. I made an effort this year and joined a youth orchestra and a soccer club but my lack of social experience over the last 1.5 years just makes it so difficult.MY FRIENDSI do still have 4-5 good high school friends but I feel they're just so wrong for me. They just want to play sport and drink. So our bonding time is basically at night clubbing... and it's just really boring. I want new friends, but I don't know how to find new friends considering I have so few in the first place. GIRLFRIENDWhat's worse is that i've just got a girlfriend, but I don't know how to break to her that my social life is basically non-existent? Should I do this? I really want to get my life back on track. I've deleted all my computer games, started doing more fitness but what I really want is just some good friends who i can talk to.Apologies if this is waaay too long, I also have a lot of trouble with social anxiety which is why I have trouble making new friends. I know it may not necessarily read like it, but I am really unhappy with the way my university life has turned out. I was reading through message trails i had with friends 4 years ago when i started and I've only realised how sad my life has been for the last 2 years. I now have 2 years left to change this and I would appreciate any help!

Lachy91 The dark road ahead
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Well I guess it started back when I was 16 I was a bakers apprentice for 2 nearly 3 years at a dead end bakery running a shop by myself. I lost most connection with all friend and some family cause of my 7 day shifts. With in that 3 years I got engag... View more

Well I guess it started back when I was 16 I was a bakers apprentice for 2 nearly 3 years at a dead end bakery running a shop by myself. I lost most connection with all friend and some family cause of my 7 day shifts. With in that 3 years I got engaged fell in love. To find out my brother was sleeping with her. After I found out I quit my job only to find out 3 weeks later my father commited suicide from depression. The day before he did it though we had plans to meet and I had to dam well bail on him for a job interview . the whole pressure was put on me to do a wake for him which did my head in the entire time. About 3 months afterword I get a call that I'm going to be a father ... 2 months later miss carage. From there on out I always thought that it couldn't get worst. But a good bit after that a year or so and my mother goes to jail for driving me to the dam hospital unlicenced because of a sever anxiety attack. my first anxiety attack at that. After she was incarcerated I took over her house lease so she wouldn't lose her house. Once she got out she called me ungrateful and kicked me on the streets. She is also disabled so I was not gonna kick her out that and she is my mother for god sake no matter what I love though. After that I met back up with the ex fiancy hooked up again and yet this time my best friend ..... After I eventually got over that once again I got a house with a couple mates a great paying job and just before out lease was up our house flooded and we lost everything I even lost my job not being able to go to work after that the girl I had left me cause I had no job and no home. Now here I am careing for my mother because she is now sick as well. There is alot more but no room to leave it ha. Now I know people have had it a lot harder then me but I just keep losing everyone and everything I ever care for. Now I feel like and empty 24 year old shell that instead of looking forward to a new day I stay awake lieing in bed every night until I pass out from exaustion . I have lost weight 10+kg I do recreational things to just put a genuine smile on instead of the one I show everyone that asks how I am.

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