Homeless or depression

[Sabrinaaa]

I have suffered from depression and anxiety in the past but have been off my medication for over a year and have been my happiest self recently. Although, my mother has told me that if I don't go see a psychiatrist for bipolar disorder and admit that "something is wrong with me" I have to move out. Her reasons for diagnosing me with bipolar is that I am a little overweight, eat a lot of sweets, watch tv when I'm not studying and apparently "split-hairs". She has spoken to my brother and sister about it and "they have all come to the conclusion that I must be in denial of my new condition". I do not think their is anything wrong with me. I know what depression feels like, I know what anxiety feels like and I know that I am in a good stage of my life right now. I don't want to have to admit to a condition I don't have in order to stay in my home. I feel like if I was to do that I would be going back in my steps to be where I am today. I don't think I'm mentally ill, I just think I'm a lazy 19 year old. Yes I don't vacuum the house, or empty the dishwasher without being reminded 3 times. But it's just because I don't think about it. She thinks I'm always mean to her, and, in some cases I am. But it's hard to be nice and chirpy towards someone when just yesterday they were telling you your fat or that your selfish. What should I do?

[white knight]

Hi Sanrinaaa, welcome

In a nut shell, there's two possibilities.

1. There is a problem you have and you are unaware of it.

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2. There is no problem, they are not psychiatrists and therefore such criticism is unfair, unfounded and cruel.

Without knowing your family one can't teĺl. But personal abuse i.e your body image us bullying.

A GP visit would be enough to put yourself at ease and get them off your back.

But there is something you can do. Carry out your responsibilities like fixing up that lazy side. Its time to put in more effort and do your fair share.

Tony WK

[Focus_On_You]

Hi Sabrinaaa

Firstly, I am sorry that you have suffered depression & anxiety in the past. It is great news that you are feeling your happiest self 🙂 This is to be valued so well done to you!

I would also like to commend you on your ability to be open & vulnerable. This is hard for most people.

A suggestion is to always go with what is in your heart & to talk from your heart. I.e. We usually get a
gut feeling when someone is telling us their truth versus the gut feeling we get when something someone is saying is being driven from the mind (fear, worry, dishonesty etc)

By talking directly from your heart you may experience it then being received by another’s persons heart.

Possibly not immediately though as soon as the other person’s mind is still. I.e. You may have noticed after a disagreement that someone comes back after 24 hours+ & says I have thought about what you said &…

Where if you talk in reflection to your mind thoughts (to justify or explain what you are saying) this is influenced by how you perceive the situation. And while the way you perceive the situation is not an issue as such, everybody perceives a situation through the lens of their own eyes, i.e. how they view the situation & how they think about the situation. The issue with this is that every individual thinks & perceives a situation differently.

Your family could possibly be after some assurance, & even more so if they are worried for your wellbeing.

By admitting something that is not your truth; the motive is from the mind thoughts. In this case, the fear of being homeless.

Talk your heart truth Sabrinaaa. In a love/honest manner & say it as you feel it is. Try not to add any justification. The more you say, the more you may be challenged.

A good practice is to prepare some bullet points for your discussion. This will help you to stay on track (to reflect what is in your heart to express) and so your mind doesn’t take over in conversation. Keep bringing the conversation back to the bullet points that you prepared.

It is like driving from A to B and wandering how you got there. This happens when we get lost in our own thoughts/in conversation.

Something that has resonated with what you have said (being your dishwasher example of being told 3 times) I have heard that it takes 3 times for a message to be received by the brain so try repeating what you have to say 3 times in a similar (calm) manner, each time sticking to your heart truth.

Sending you love and light xx