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Anger issues, depression & anxiety.

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Hi (this maybe the wrong forum, forgive me first time) So this would be the first time I have sought help for these issues I am currently dealing with. I am 20 years old and I am dealing with severe anger, mild depression and anxiety issues, I have d... View more

Hi (this maybe the wrong forum, forgive me first time) So this would be the first time I have sought help for these issues I am currently dealing with. I am 20 years old and I am dealing with severe anger, mild depression and anxiety issues, I have dealt with these for more than 2 years now and its becoming worse and worse each month. I have lost so much because of this; friends, girlfriend etc. all of which has cut me deeply resulting in depression which i'm trying to control but I feel i'm losing an easy battle and I feel empty, lonely and sad a lot of the time as well as my anxiety is holding me down and is getting the best of me and i'm trying to be confident in my everyday life but I lose to it every time and this irritates me completely as I want to beat this but can't and my anger.... will be the death of me! or at least will get me in a huge amount of trouble. Unfortunately it's becoming worse and worse and only now have I decided to recognise it now after countless times of losing it over small and large things as well as people confronting me about it, I'm scared for one day I may lose it and will do something I regret such as hurt someone or end up somewhere I don't want to be, plus considering I do drink alcohol (on occasion) which can greatly affect my emotions (thankfully I haven't gotten to that point yet) I am scared that under the influence that I could do serious damage to myself but most importantly others around and will hurt someone as I mentioned earlier. So if anyone could give me advice or anything, I would be grateful as I want to beat this and not have this burden riding on my shoulders constantly. Thanks in advanced to those who read this, I know i'm messed up big time but I guess that's why I am here... to be helped and to gain advice, so thank you! Regards

Can't stand this.

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I had a rough time growing up as many, many people have. Both my sisters have obvious mental issues, and compared to them I was always disregarded. It didn't matter how I felt, or my opinions. And now I feel like noone in the world knows me, even tho... View more

I had a rough time growing up as many, many people have. Both my sisters have obvious mental issues, and compared to them I was always disregarded. It didn't matter how I felt, or my opinions. And now I feel like noone in the world knows me, even though I have spoken to friends about my problems. I just don't matter. I've sought help with therapists but the only two options they give me are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which I hate and makes me want to scream, or medication, which I have made clear I don't want. I am just tired of living a life where I feel I can't and don't want to trust anybody. I'm tired of feeling the need to justify my feelings. I'm tired of feeling the need to validate my pain. I'm tired of other people telling me that my feelings aren't real. I just don't even know who I am. The world is filled with so much pain and there is nobody who can ease that pain for me. And don't get me wrong, I have close friends and I love them dearly, but I always feel worse than before when I share with them. Most days I think I would be better off alone, because then I could finally stop pretending. I could stop pretending I'm happy and positive. I could stop being something I'm not, and stop convincing myself that everyone hates me. I know this is a very whiny post, but I don't care because this is anonymous and I needed to vent.

How to deal with my parent that has depression

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Hey, One of my parents just told me that they have depression and I don't know what to say or do. I just walked away and have hardly said a word. I don't want to be selfish and make them feel bad but I feel like I can't really do or say anything with... View more

Hey, One of my parents just told me that they have depression and I don't know what to say or do. I just walked away and have hardly said a word. I don't want to be selfish and make them feel bad but I feel like I can't really do or say anything with out someone getting hurt. This is all so new to me and I don't know what to do. has anyone gone through a similar situation? any advice.

Will I be depressed my whole life?

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I've been feeling miserable most of the time since I started high school in 2012, though I'm not sure exactly when I was diagnosed with depression, just that it was at least a few years ago. Since then I've been to at least 4 different psychologists ... View more

I've been feeling miserable most of the time since I started high school in 2012, though I'm not sure exactly when I was diagnosed with depression, just that it was at least a few years ago. Since then I've been to at least 4 different psychologists and to 2 different psychiatrists, and I've tried multiple online helplines, and nothing has improved. I'm starting to think maybe I just have to accept the fact that I'm going to be feeling sad for the majority of my time on this Earth, and I don't see any way out. What do I do to escape? Is there something I'm doing wrong, some special thing I have to do that I'm not doing? Or am I just stuck being depressed until I die? Depression is supposed to be a curable disease that's over in 4 to 8 months and that figure really disheartens me as this is the 60-somethingth month of it. Is there anyone here who has been depressed for several years? If so, how did you get out of it, or are you still depressed now? Does anyone know what I should do? Just as some background, I am 18 years old, I'm in a town in rural New South Wales, and there are a few things that make me depressed. One is that I have been constantly fighting verbally and physically with my brothers pretty much since I was born, and that has worsened severely in the last 5 or 6 years. Another is that I can't stop thinking about the world's problems, especially the 48 billion animals suffering in factory farms, and the animals that will lose their homes and lives to the biggest climate disaster in 250 million years, and I'm sick of living in a world that's a mostly bad place, where most lifeforms are unsafe and unhappy. And also I am a very weird person, and although I haven't been bullied for 4 years, I don't have much of a social life outside of school lunch and recess and feel alone, isolated and like I don't belong most of the time. There are other minor contributors too but those are the main things that tend to repeat in my head, and tend to get me down a lot of the time. Anyway, sorry for rambling on, I just want to know if anyone can help? Is there anyone who has been depressed for this long? Is there any way out?

Alcoholic abusive mum

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I am 16 years old and live with my mum, she has been a heavy drinker for over 10 years atleast and she turns into a very nasty person when drunk, there's no physical abuse just verbal, she just talks to herself for hours saying the most horrible thin... View more

I am 16 years old and live with my mum, she has been a heavy drinker for over 10 years atleast and she turns into a very nasty person when drunk, there's no physical abuse just verbal, she just talks to herself for hours saying the most horrible things and she is also delusional, she accuses me and my older brother of stealing her stuff and going through her room and if she looses her keys or something she will straight away blame us. Yesterday we were getting along fine and my brother was out all day, when she started drinking she started getting angry and abusing my brother who wasn't even home I just stayed clear and let her talk to herself but it's hard hearing all the things she says it makes me upset and angry . I've gotta move out cause she keeps saying she wants to be on her own. My brother has been staying with us for like a month now and it's been going well until last night she kicked him out on the street which she has done multiple times for no good reason . She needs to go to rehab but she never will I've asked her to stop drinking she says ok I promise , stops for a day or two and starts again but mostly she's drinking every night . She needs help what can I do?

Social Anxiety - What goes on in your head?

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Social Anxiety - you're scared of talking. The thing is - are the reasons close to the same? I'll start off with why i'm so scared to talk to people. I have this idea lingering in my head every time - they don't like me. I have close friends (they're... View more

Social Anxiety - you're scared of talking. The thing is - are the reasons close to the same? I'll start off with why i'm so scared to talk to people. I have this idea lingering in my head every time - they don't like me. I have close friends (they're the closest people to me anyways... Though my relationship with them is a bit different in a way. We have this private online chat group and I speak to them openly in there - we play games together, talk about like problem and they know I have a bad case of social anxiety. We're pretty close. In school (We're currently in year 11), i'm just a shadow. I know (although for some reason when it comes to it - I won't know anymore) that they enjoy my company. They would be in a group talking to each other and i'll be wanting to go to them but I won't. I'm afraid. Once in a while they'll tell me to come - then I will. Otherwise, i'm sitting down staring at the floor, contemplating life. Why? I have this thought. I feel like everyone doesn't like me. By "doesn't like" I don't mean lowkey hate - I mean i'm just there. I feel like by going up to people and talking to them i'll make things awkward and not really do anything - be a hassle. I feel like they talk to me out of pity - "Damn, he's lonely. We'll be friends with him.", but they don't actually like me. My parents both cheat on each other so i sort of think they "fake" loving me because they can't just leave their kid. Sometimes I can't help but blame them for my problems - it's probably wrong to do so, but I can't help it. They don't let me go out so I can't get "closer" to my friends, which I feel could be another reason. Those are my reasons, what're your reasons? Or reasons you think may "cause" social anxiety?

Am I just being overly dramatic or am I depressed?

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Hi, I don't know if I'm actually depressed or I'm just going through the regular teenage angst. I've been feeling very down lately for the past few months, I've been getting less willing to go to school or get out of bed lately. I would beg my parent... View more

Hi, I don't know if I'm actually depressed or I'm just going through the regular teenage angst. I've been feeling very down lately for the past few months, I've been getting less willing to go to school or get out of bed lately. I would beg my parents to let me stay home from school as I'd dread every single moment at school. I'm not a loner by any means, and I do feel like I'm actually happy when I'm with my friends but that disappears as soon as I get home and am alone. I've been more irritated than usual at my friends at school, but I try my best to hide it from my friends as I fear that they'll come to hate me or start talking about me behind my back. I just get angry more easily even if it's over petty things. I can't seem to care anymore about school, I still study but that's just cause I have to. Psychology used to be my favourite subject but I can't feel motivated about it anymore. I hate that I'm feeling like this but whenever I think of this I just start getting even more irritated or sad. Nothing makes me feel like its worth giving my time or effort to anymore, so I just not do anything. I'm tired all the time, I just want to stop doing anything and sleep. Am I being overly dramatic and is this just a phase? Because I've done the beyond blue test and it says I'm included in the High range for depression but I don't believe it as I think I'm being overly dramatic? I tried telling my parents but they don't think anything is wrong with me and that this is just a phase. I'm lost right now. The more I think of the possibility of me being depressed the more I want to believe I'm not? If that makes any sense. It makes me feel even worse as I always feel like I'm over exaggerating everything. Am I depressed? What do I do?

No friends. No family support. Depression. Family divorce.

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Im 14 years old and in the past 18 months my life went from sunshine and happiness to tears and fear. I don't know who to turn to. I haven't got many friends and my family don't listen to me. I wish my mum supported me but every time that i try to te... View more

Im 14 years old and in the past 18 months my life went from sunshine and happiness to tears and fear. I don't know who to turn to. I haven't got many friends and my family don't listen to me. I wish my mum supported me but every time that i try to tell her whats wrong she begins to tell me what I am doing wrong and i loose all self-confidence. I hate the constant reminders that i am not a great person and that i need to change but i struggle so much to change who i am. I hate so much that I can identify what is wrong with me yet i still cannot fix it. I only have one friend to turn to. Another girl my age who has dealt with issues of her own. Because we got very close people then started to spread rumours that i was a lesbian. I am not homophobic however all we want is a friendship and to have someone to turn to yet whenever the two of us are together people shout negative comments at us. I know its easy to say don't let is bother you but it does. I hate that i let it bother me but when it isn't accepted for me to be happy there is nothing else i can do. My parents split up recently. I can't turn to my mum because I ALWAYS end up very upset with our relationship and myself. I do not want to turn to my dad though because i don't feel 100% safe around him. Sometimes i feel as if there divorce was my fault. My dad did something extremely wrong which i witnessed. Not only being scared forever, telling my mum was so hard for me. I wonder if i had never let my mum know what he had done they would never have split up. My dads family are very rude too. His parents and siblings (My grandparents and uncles/aunties) are not great people either. my mum used to work in a family business with my dad and grandfather. After being completely kicked out of her job they threatened to take her car. Even little things like going on a holiday with them, my dads brother in law would make jokes about throwing my mum overboard of a boat. As a child i don't want to hear it at all and don't feel comfortable around people like this. I cant get away though because they are my family. I feel very alone most of the time. Sitting in the school toilets alone is common for me. I spend many lunch breaks doing this. AM I ALONE? I am lonely but hopefully not alone in the sense that there is someone else out there feeling the same way.

Mum won't stop trying to get me to want children even though I'm not interested (+ closeted trans)

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Heya. This is my first post here, so uhm. Hi? So, for context, I am transgender although I'm not sure of the specifics. All I really know is that I'm not (consistently) female, I'm usually nonbinary, and my gender is somewhat fluid. I'm not out to an... View more

Heya. This is my first post here, so uhm. Hi? So, for context, I am transgender although I'm not sure of the specifics. All I really know is that I'm not (consistently) female, I'm usually nonbinary, and my gender is somewhat fluid. I'm not out to anybody except a small and anonymous social media group, and I'm not prepared to come out as things stand. Although I have not really been able to contact a psychologist outside of school, I do show symptoms of anxiety (most notably panic attacks and severe phobias) and the school psychologist agrees that it's likely I could be diagnosed. My mum is insistent that I will have children when I'm older and won't let me say anything to the contrary. The thought of it honestly sickens me - it's a female thing and to have that very gendered stereotype shoved upon me is rather distressing. It comes up occasionally (once every one or two months) but probably more than it does for other people, and I have never seen her go off at my sisters like she does at me. For example: I said that we should store the dollhouse that for some strange reason sits in my bedroom, and she said that it would be useful "when have children". I then said that no, I don't think I will, and she rebutted that she didn't want kids when she was my age, she just wanted dolls (said exactly as infantilising as it reads), and I would change my mind when I get older. I did mention the fact that lesbians exist, but I was too nervous to say anything about trans people. Her response to that was that she knows plenty of gay people with children, just to drive in what she thinks everyone's priority in life is. I felt horrible and experienced massive dysphoria for days after that incident. I wish I had some disease or something to make me infertile, because maybe then she would leave me alone. Do note that she's forcing this idea of parenthood upon a 16 year old kid (not that it's appropriate to say to anyone in my opinion). She does this nearly every time children come up in conversation. I don't know if anything can be done. This was more of a vent, really. She just doesn't stop talking about it. It's like she thinks sex and children are everyone's goals in life (never mind aro/ace people or anyone who otherwise doesn't want those sorts of things). Just because I have a uterus doesn't mean I want to use it, but she refuses to respect my decisions, identity and boundaries.

I'm going insane.

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I'm the kind of person that see bad situations before they happen. I can normal tell if something bad is going to happen before anyone else notices whats going on. For example in 2015 I warned people that mass muslim immigration would cause 100s of t... View more

I'm the kind of person that see bad situations before they happen. I can normal tell if something bad is going to happen before anyone else notices whats going on. For example in 2015 I warned people that mass muslim immigration would cause 100s of terrorist attacks and I was called racist, stupid and crazy in return. Then about two months later the Paris terror attacks happened and heaps of attacks have happened since. I constantly warn people about certain situations yet no one ever believes me, they just call me a "crazy conspiracy theorist" or "literally hitler". I'm currently taking a gap year. This year so far I haven't had a proper in person convo with anyone out of my family. Due to the fact that everyone I know either is incredibly stupid or they think I'm "literally hitler" for speaking the inconvenient truth. I've become literally so emotionally unstable due to isolation and no one believing me. I'm starting to feel like Cassandra from the story of Troy. I have no idea what to do. Please help, because I've actually become insane.

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Anger issues, depression & anxiety.

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Can't stand this.

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How to deal with my parent that has depression

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Will I be depressed my whole life?

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Alcoholic abusive mum

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Social Anxiety - What goes on in your head?

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Am I just being overly dramatic or am I depressed?

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No friends. No family support. Depression. Family divorce.

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Mum won't stop trying to get me to want children even though I'm not interested (+ closeted trans)

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I'm going insane.

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New to this Forum? Please read this first!

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Anger issues, depression & anxiety.

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Can't stand this.

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How to deal with my parent that has depression

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Will I be depressed my whole life?

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Alcoholic abusive mum

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Social Anxiety - What goes on in your head?

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Am I just being overly dramatic or am I depressed?

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No friends. No family support. Depression. Family divorce.

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Mum won't stop trying to get me to want children even though I'm not interested (+ closeted trans)

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I'm going insane.

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