22 and Going through some drama (Depressed)

[TheGuyNamedJoseph]

Hey there I'm 22 years of age and Im in a sitatuion where I feel helpless so currently, lately I sleep in because atm ive got no purpose, ive told my mum to book in my driivng lessons but she has not done anything about it for months, Everytime I talk about getting a job she starts baffling on about my medication or she tells me shit and makes me doubt myself. I can't have most jobs becaues I don't have a reliable source of transport (Car) im 22 and getting older and the older I get the more lack of opportunitys I have. I dont feel confident to use public transport because i dont know how to read/understand the bus time table properly
(Don't Judge) im still learning the system. I feel trapped its the reason I have depression to be honest. My dad never talks about our problems and than ignores until it gets to the moment and than makes up some excuse.
On top of everything my school friends think im making excuses or useless and i feel like i cant be successful coz i feel trapped, I try not to think about things but when ur seeing the world move forward and people getting older u feel like ur still 12 getting your mother to make ur toasted sandwitches...
I feel like I wish I wasn't around but im not going to tell my doctors because they will prescribe anti depresssants or something and I don't need meds, I just need to get the ball rolling with my life.
This is my last chance for a peace of mind/help

Thanks for taking the time to read 🙂

[Neil_1]

Hi there Joseph,

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you so much for coming here and posting.

That feeling of being trapped can be quite overwhelming at times, especially when you do have to rely on others or other means of getting around.

You know the first thing I felt after reading this was that you might doubt yourself with how you come across (how you said you don’t know how to read or understand the bus time table and that you feel like you’re still learning the system), but can I please say that with your post, you expressed yourself really really well. The other thing I wanted to really let you know about is that on this site, “no-one” judges anyone else. We understand as best we can, what others are dealing with and only want to help or offer our best advice as much as we can.

The thing about here, being able to open up a little is a really great thing, cause then the people here will be better informed in order to try to give the best advice possible.

With your doctors visit, I can understand you not wanting to go onto anti-depressants, but it might be something to think about if you feel your situation continues to remain the same. Especially if you feel your doctor is a good one, then maybe even just opening up a little more to him/her, they might be able to offer some helpful advice to you as well.

In regard to your driving lessons and the booking of them, do they have to be booked by your Mum? Would it not be possible for yourself to make that call? Or perhaps your Dad?

Another thought I’ve had is, that if there is a job interview or situation that you need to be able to get to, would there not be a mate/friend who could either catch the bus with you, or perhaps even drive you?

May I ask about hobbies, interests, sports that you might enjoy? Are there things you enjoy that can help you get out and about a little? Some little goals that you could possibly set for yourself? Even something small … anything is good, cause then that can also be a stimulus for helping you get going of a morning. Believe me, I know that can be really hard … and being in mid-winter, that never helps either.

I hope I’ve written something that has helped and would really love to hear back from you.

Neil

[kanga_brumby]

Joseph welcome to beyond blue. It takes time to learn how to read time tables and work out how to even connect with other buses, trains or trams. I have had to help several people in travel training how to get from one side of town to the other. The quickest and cheapest way. That is not as easy as it sounds. As for getting a job it's not easy to get a job as it is. The competition is getting harder I have had every excuse given to me why I didn't get a job I was qualified for. To old, young, not enough qualifications to meany qualifications, not enough experience etc. If you have friends who are working ask them if there are any jobs going in where they are. I have helped others get a job that way and some have helped me as well. As for your learner lessons you can book those yourself. I hope you find work and get your license soon.

Kanga