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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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ProDude How do you sever a magnetic attraction you feel for another person
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So in 2013 I met this guy playing tennis. From the very first instance, I felt drawn to him, while at the same time having this feeling of unease about him. We became friends, and having conversations online with him made me feel this sense completen... View more

So in 2013 I met this guy playing tennis. From the very first instance, I felt drawn to him, while at the same time having this feeling of unease about him. We became friends, and having conversations online with him made me feel this sense completeness, fulfillment and safety. Not long after I became depressed because of my home and schooling situation (I was 17, now 21). I turned to this guy in my time of need, and he was so supportive and made me feel like I had someone who cared. However, turned out he wasn't much of a friend at all, and before long the relationship between us became toxic. I felt nothing but grief as we constantly argued almost every day. It makes me start to wonder, did I become depressed because of my life, or was my depression being caused by how I felt about him, knowing deep down we really did not have much in common and a genuine, close, reciprocal friendship was unattainable. This went on for 2 years before I cut him off. Granted, it was me doing all the work in this non-existent friendship, he didn't care about me at all. However, it hurt as badly as I imagine the breakdown of a couples relationship would be. I became bitter, and constantly felt hollow because none of my real friendships ever made me feel as excited and complete as this guy did. I want to move on with my life, but I'm hanging onto this guy in my heart. My mind says screw him, he's a moron and has nothing good about him, and yet I still can't shake this magnetic force that compels me to long for him in my life. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Simonee Introduction.
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Hi, my name is Simone i am 19 and have recently been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety,thought it would help to join this online forum and talk to others my age.

Hi, my name is Simone i am 19 and have recently been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety,thought it would help to join this online forum and talk to others my age.

ProverbialSwan Talking to your parents about your illness
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I've recently decided to seek help for my anxiety which I've recognised in myself for about four years (now 20 years old). I told my best friend about my anxiety about three months ago, and recently told my brother's partner (who is like a sister to ... View more

I've recently decided to seek help for my anxiety which I've recognised in myself for about four years (now 20 years old). I told my best friend about my anxiety about three months ago, and recently told my brother's partner (who is like a sister to me). We will call her Jane. Jane has helped me enormously. She is very supportive and sympathetic. She accompanied to my GP appointment two days ago. However the problem is now cost of psychologist appointments. My doctor has recommended not going onto a Mental Health Treatment Plan right away. Mainly because she thinks it's best to see how I respond to psychological treatment and whilst we get test results back to rule out any other possible causes. I will just add that I agree with her recommendations. However I can't afford to pay the subsidised cost of a psychologist appointment let alone an un-subsidised appointment. Jane has offered to pay for my appointments but I don't think I can let her! It is so much money, and my any additional money my brother and her have shouldn't be spent on me. My parents would be able to assist me, but I haven't told them about my anxiety, and honestly part of me doesn't want them to know. I have an excellent relationship with my mum, but we never really talk about actual emotional concerns or how we are feeling. We probably spend most of our time joking around and talking about meaningless stuff. I have never been able to articulate anything 'serious' in my life to my parents. The members of my family (me included) are quite emotionally reserved. I have also portrayed a facade of confidence, 'everything is okay', for so long. I just struggle to discuss my anxiety despite wanting to get help to desperately. And I'm unsure about how my mum will respond. I semi-presume that my mum would know that I have some issues in my life despite my best attempts to hide this. My best friend said she already assumed that I had anxiety before I actually told her...and I assume that Jane (although she didn't say anything) could see that something was not okay. So I am wondering how others told their parents about the mental illnesses? How you brought up the topic? What was the response? Was anyone else as worried and found this as difficult as me? I just feel like this is such an absurd issue considering I have already told two people and seen my GP, but struggle just as much with the idea of talking to my mum.

Eve23 Social Anxiety
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Hi all, This is my first time posting on this forum. I am 24 years old Irish female who has moved to sydney 7 months ago on my own. I have suffered from social anxiety since I was 18 and sometimes get very acute bouts of it . When I first arrived eve... View more

Hi all, This is my first time posting on this forum. I am 24 years old Irish female who has moved to sydney 7 months ago on my own. I have suffered from social anxiety since I was 18 and sometimes get very acute bouts of it . When I first arrived everything was new , was meeting lots of interesting new people and things were going great but now I have spiralled into very negative thinking. I was always anxious back in Ireland even around my friends and I thought moving to Australia would help me get over it - in the beginning I was feeling great and foolishly thought I could have recovered. At the moment I am struggling to cope and feel hopeless about the future. I have stayed in bed all weekend and feel like I am such a negative burden on my housemates who dont want to be around me. I just cannot seem to cope with becoming an adult and no longer can go crawling back to my parents. I feel with my anxiety it takes enjoyment out of a lot of things in my life. I am seeing a GP and she has put me on medication. I have been on it for 4 weeks and no signs of any improvement. Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way and tips to get out of the slump? Thank you

W1 Anger issues, depression & anxiety.
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Hi (this maybe the wrong forum, forgive me first time) So this would be the first time I have sought help for these issues I am currently dealing with. I am 20 years old and I am dealing with severe anger, mild depression and anxiety issues, I have d... View more

Hi (this maybe the wrong forum, forgive me first time) So this would be the first time I have sought help for these issues I am currently dealing with. I am 20 years old and I am dealing with severe anger, mild depression and anxiety issues, I have dealt with these for more than 2 years now and its becoming worse and worse each month. I have lost so much because of this; friends, girlfriend etc. all of which has cut me deeply resulting in depression which i'm trying to control but I feel i'm losing an easy battle and I feel empty, lonely and sad a lot of the time as well as my anxiety is holding me down and is getting the best of me and i'm trying to be confident in my everyday life but I lose to it every time and this irritates me completely as I want to beat this but can't and my anger.... will be the death of me! or at least will get me in a huge amount of trouble. Unfortunately it's becoming worse and worse and only now have I decided to recognise it now after countless times of losing it over small and large things as well as people confronting me about it, I'm scared for one day I may lose it and will do something I regret such as hurt someone or end up somewhere I don't want to be, plus considering I do drink alcohol (on occasion) which can greatly affect my emotions (thankfully I haven't gotten to that point yet) I am scared that under the influence that I could do serious damage to myself but most importantly others around and will hurt someone as I mentioned earlier. So if anyone could give me advice or anything, I would be grateful as I want to beat this and not have this burden riding on my shoulders constantly. Thanks in advanced to those who read this, I know i'm messed up big time but I guess that's why I am here... to be helped and to gain advice, so thank you! Regards

MarieCarlotta Can't stand this.
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I had a rough time growing up as many, many people have. Both my sisters have obvious mental issues, and compared to them I was always disregarded. It didn't matter how I felt, or my opinions. And now I feel like noone in the world knows me, even tho... View more

I had a rough time growing up as many, many people have. Both my sisters have obvious mental issues, and compared to them I was always disregarded. It didn't matter how I felt, or my opinions. And now I feel like noone in the world knows me, even though I have spoken to friends about my problems. I just don't matter. I've sought help with therapists but the only two options they give me are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which I hate and makes me want to scream, or medication, which I have made clear I don't want. I am just tired of living a life where I feel I can't and don't want to trust anybody. I'm tired of feeling the need to justify my feelings. I'm tired of feeling the need to validate my pain. I'm tired of other people telling me that my feelings aren't real. I just don't even know who I am. The world is filled with so much pain and there is nobody who can ease that pain for me. And don't get me wrong, I have close friends and I love them dearly, but I always feel worse than before when I share with them. Most days I think I would be better off alone, because then I could finally stop pretending. I could stop pretending I'm happy and positive. I could stop being something I'm not, and stop convincing myself that everyone hates me. I know this is a very whiny post, but I don't care because this is anonymous and I needed to vent.

simply-outspoken How to deal with my parent that has depression
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Hey, One of my parents just told me that they have depression and I don't know what to say or do. I just walked away and have hardly said a word. I don't want to be selfish and make them feel bad but I feel like I can't really do or say anything with... View more

Hey, One of my parents just told me that they have depression and I don't know what to say or do. I just walked away and have hardly said a word. I don't want to be selfish and make them feel bad but I feel like I can't really do or say anything with out someone getting hurt. This is all so new to me and I don't know what to do. has anyone gone through a similar situation? any advice.

BudC Will I be depressed my whole life?
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I've been feeling miserable most of the time since I started high school in 2012, though I'm not sure exactly when I was diagnosed with depression, just that it was at least a few years ago. Since then I've been to at least 4 different psychologists ... View more

I've been feeling miserable most of the time since I started high school in 2012, though I'm not sure exactly when I was diagnosed with depression, just that it was at least a few years ago. Since then I've been to at least 4 different psychologists and to 2 different psychiatrists, and I've tried multiple online helplines, and nothing has improved. I'm starting to think maybe I just have to accept the fact that I'm going to be feeling sad for the majority of my time on this Earth, and I don't see any way out. What do I do to escape? Is there something I'm doing wrong, some special thing I have to do that I'm not doing? Or am I just stuck being depressed until I die? Depression is supposed to be a curable disease that's over in 4 to 8 months and that figure really disheartens me as this is the 60-somethingth month of it. Is there anyone here who has been depressed for several years? If so, how did you get out of it, or are you still depressed now? Does anyone know what I should do? Just as some background, I am 18 years old, I'm in a town in rural New South Wales, and there are a few things that make me depressed. One is that I have been constantly fighting verbally and physically with my brothers pretty much since I was born, and that has worsened severely in the last 5 or 6 years. Another is that I can't stop thinking about the world's problems, especially the 48 billion animals suffering in factory farms, and the animals that will lose their homes and lives to the biggest climate disaster in 250 million years, and I'm sick of living in a world that's a mostly bad place, where most lifeforms are unsafe and unhappy. And also I am a very weird person, and although I haven't been bullied for 4 years, I don't have much of a social life outside of school lunch and recess and feel alone, isolated and like I don't belong most of the time. There are other minor contributors too but those are the main things that tend to repeat in my head, and tend to get me down a lot of the time. Anyway, sorry for rambling on, I just want to know if anyone can help? Is there anyone who has been depressed for this long? Is there any way out?

Sassyxxx Alcoholic abusive mum
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I am 16 years old and live with my mum, she has been a heavy drinker for over 10 years atleast and she turns into a very nasty person when drunk, there's no physical abuse just verbal, she just talks to herself for hours saying the most horrible thin... View more

I am 16 years old and live with my mum, she has been a heavy drinker for over 10 years atleast and she turns into a very nasty person when drunk, there's no physical abuse just verbal, she just talks to herself for hours saying the most horrible things and she is also delusional, she accuses me and my older brother of stealing her stuff and going through her room and if she looses her keys or something she will straight away blame us. Yesterday we were getting along fine and my brother was out all day, when she started drinking she started getting angry and abusing my brother who wasn't even home I just stayed clear and let her talk to herself but it's hard hearing all the things she says it makes me upset and angry . I've gotta move out cause she keeps saying she wants to be on her own. My brother has been staying with us for like a month now and it's been going well until last night she kicked him out on the street which she has done multiple times for no good reason . She needs to go to rehab but she never will I've asked her to stop drinking she says ok I promise , stops for a day or two and starts again but mostly she's drinking every night . She needs help what can I do?

VeeTee Social Anxiety - What goes on in your head?
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Social Anxiety - you're scared of talking. The thing is - are the reasons close to the same? I'll start off with why i'm so scared to talk to people. I have this idea lingering in my head every time - they don't like me. I have close friends (they're... View more

Social Anxiety - you're scared of talking. The thing is - are the reasons close to the same? I'll start off with why i'm so scared to talk to people. I have this idea lingering in my head every time - they don't like me. I have close friends (they're the closest people to me anyways... Though my relationship with them is a bit different in a way. We have this private online chat group and I speak to them openly in there - we play games together, talk about like problem and they know I have a bad case of social anxiety. We're pretty close. In school (We're currently in year 11), i'm just a shadow. I know (although for some reason when it comes to it - I won't know anymore) that they enjoy my company. They would be in a group talking to each other and i'll be wanting to go to them but I won't. I'm afraid. Once in a while they'll tell me to come - then I will. Otherwise, i'm sitting down staring at the floor, contemplating life. Why? I have this thought. I feel like everyone doesn't like me. By "doesn't like" I don't mean lowkey hate - I mean i'm just there. I feel like by going up to people and talking to them i'll make things awkward and not really do anything - be a hassle. I feel like they talk to me out of pity - "Damn, he's lonely. We'll be friends with him.", but they don't actually like me. My parents both cheat on each other so i sort of think they "fake" loving me because they can't just leave their kid. Sometimes I can't help but blame them for my problems - it's probably wrong to do so, but I can't help it. They don't let me go out so I can't get "closer" to my friends, which I feel could be another reason. Those are my reasons, what're your reasons? Or reasons you think may "cause" social anxiety?

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