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Trust issues

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I had a girlfriend for almost a year who cheated and lyed about pretty much everything throughout our relationship. From excuses of working while she was actually seeing her exs, to having an affair and leaving me for for one of them. And obcourse ev... View more

I had a girlfriend for almost a year who cheated and lyed about pretty much everything throughout our relationship. From excuses of working while she was actually seeing her exs, to having an affair and leaving me for for one of them. And obcourse everything in between. Which shattered me to say the least. Now things have moved on and i have a new partner whos is really trust worthy and wouldn't do a thing to hurt anyone let alone me. But my mind goes crazy and worrys heaps still which the results of that is ruining our relationship . I have panic attacks regularly. I get really scared because theres so many different social media sites that she could do anything on at any time. When i freakout ill message her accusing her of stuff even though i know she would never do it. And that just makes me angry at myself. I just can't seem to take my boundaries down. Even when its ruining a good thing in my life

My parents don't believe in anxiety

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Hi I'm 13 and i have been visiting a counsellor recently after a few years for GAD but my parents in a way have been dragging me down in a sense that if I get anxious about something or have a panic attack they will say that I'm "having a tantrum" an... View more

Hi I'm 13 and i have been visiting a counsellor recently after a few years for GAD but my parents in a way have been dragging me down in a sense that if I get anxious about something or have a panic attack they will say that I'm "having a tantrum" and "attention seeking" even after my school had a meeting with them and my counsellor has been email them please WHAT DO I DO

Worried about the future, war, climate change, health etc...

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Hi everyone. I made a post a little while ago but thought I'd make another one in this section with some updates. Lately I've been experiencing anxiety, depression and general fear related to the future/my life. I'm almost constantly overthinking and... View more

Hi everyone. I made a post a little while ago but thought I'd make another one in this section with some updates. Lately I've been experiencing anxiety, depression and general fear related to the future/my life. I'm almost constantly overthinking and coming up with new 'what-ifs' and it leaves me anxious, depressed and exhausted. I'm on a new medication which has helped with the symptoms and I have been able to function more, but it hasn't helped with the thoughts. I do see a psychologist. I'd like to write a list of some of the things worrying me and, if I may, keep a bit of a diary here of my thoughts and feelings. Maybe some of you can offer some consolation on the subjects. Here goes... -War/Nuke war/WWIII/myself and/or my boyfriend being drafted. This all started with the North Korea tensions when I started reading more into the subjects and obsessing over news articles and the like. This used to be the main issue, but then it grew and grew and spread to more worries and fears, before that I've never really worried about big world events like these... -Apocalypse, of some description. End of the world. A deadly virus/plague. The Sun dying or burning us all. Zombies. Anything. -Climate change/global warming, rising seas, flooding, natural disasters, drought, suffocation from dust or co2, an ice age? Anything related to climate change is one of my biggest worries at the moment. I read that Stephan Hawking says humans only have 100 years left on earth. I won't be here by then, but does that mean the last years/decades of my life will be horrible? -My health, getting cancer etc. I'm scared that I'll get some disease, cancer etc and die young and/or die and leave my family behind. I've stopped eating red meat and have been thinking about going vegetarian/vegan because of the health risks that come from meat etc. to help my anxiety a bit.. -Running out of oil/coal etc... -Dying, in general. The afterlife, or lack thereof. What happens when we die? Will I be able to see my family again? Does heaven exist? All these questions really worry me. I don't have a religion or really believe in God as such, but I like to think there is some sort of afterlife where we all live peacefully in some other dimension. But I fear it will just be nothingness. I think that's all the main things that I've been dwelling on lately... I look forward to any and all replies. Even writing this post has made me feel that little bit better tonight. Thanks -Bec

Feeling disconnected, isolated, ?depressed

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Hi all. I'm 24 years old, engaged to an amazing supportive partner of 7 years. We live together with room mates, and are moving out on our own and getting married next year. I work full time as a nurse, I graduated university and worked hard to get w... View more

Hi all. I'm 24 years old, engaged to an amazing supportive partner of 7 years. We live together with room mates, and are moving out on our own and getting married next year. I work full time as a nurse, I graduated university and worked hard to get where I am. Lately, I have been feeling very isolated and have been pushing people away, mainly my partner. I feel disconnected, like I don't care anymore. I have no other friendly relationships in my life other than family, my partner and work colleagues when at work. I recently joined a gym to see if I could get some more social activity. I've lost a significant amount of weight the past 4 years and have been working on my confidence. I feel when I'm at the gym I'm happy. I go to classes and try to socialise, but I find it hard as I'm a pretty quiet person. I like to be alone and am content with that, but sometimes I do like company. So lately, my moods have spiraled. I get very angry, resentful and sad. My partner is suffering because of this too, we have talked on two occasions about how I'm feeling. I just don't know what's wrong... I feel I need to reach out as its getting out of control. Thanks.

Social anxiety? Uni, work, life

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Hey, I decided to create an account on here to share what I am going through. I am 19, studying at university and unemployed. I would like to start off by saying, I openly acknowledge I suffer pretty servere issues relating to socialising. I have alw... View more

Hey, I decided to create an account on here to share what I am going through. I am 19, studying at university and unemployed. I would like to start off by saying, I openly acknowledge I suffer pretty servere issues relating to socialising. I have always been a shy/quite person, but however since no longer being in highschool and having the obligations to leave the house and socialise I avoid it every chance I get (as uni is more laid back, and my parents to feel obligation to encourage me to attend). This has resulted in me decieding to change from on campus studying to online, however I am failing. This is due in part to feeling too anxious to attend the on campus exams and inform uni that I am suffering with this issue. I used to love standing out when I was younger through my individual clothing and style, however now the thought of people looking at me makes me sweat and increadibly anxious. Strangly, when I have been going into stores applying for jobs I have no anxiety, I am unsure as to why this is especially because I struggle talking to family members sometimes. I want to get a job to give me something to leave the house for, gain interactions and experiences. However, most of the jobs I apply for in store say they only take online applications...which never get a response. I want to get full time work so that I can have a break from uni, but nothing has come my way. I know people say getting a job can be easier due to asking people you know, no one I know is in a position or knows of someone seeking an employee which makes me ask the question, how else am I suppose to get work? I want to get a job as soon as possible as I am worried that the longer I do the longer I will have to over analyse and become anxious about the socialising aspects of working. There is more I could go into about my social anxiety but I feel like this is a good place to start. Thanks for listening ☺

Severe depression but too socially anxious to talk to anyone about it

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I am a 13 year old boy going to an elective school. My grades have been dropping and my dad has told me that he hasn't never been any disappointed in anyone ever than how he's disappointed in me. I already tried to make a post like this but it wasn't... View more

I am a 13 year old boy going to an elective school. My grades have been dropping and my dad has told me that he hasn't never been any disappointed in anyone ever than how he's disappointed in me. I already tried to make a post like this but it wasn't showing up in my posts and I really had to push myself to make another. I try to talk to people about my depression but when Im about to bring it up I get very anxious. I try to leave little hints but my parents find it impossible to catch on. I seriously cannot urge myself to talk to anyone in person about this, and I seriously need help.

ROCD :(

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Hi guys, Nearly 20 year old, in a relationship with an amazing man coming up 6 months. Diagnosed with Anxiety and OCD 3 months ago, had OCD since I was in primary school. Felt doubt for the first time Valentine’s day over money issues, the doubt went... View more

Hi guys, Nearly 20 year old, in a relationship with an amazing man coming up 6 months. Diagnosed with Anxiety and OCD 3 months ago, had OCD since I was in primary school. Felt doubt for the first time Valentine’s day over money issues, the doubt went away after I wrote down my feelings and spoke to my cousin. A bit later they came back, full force. This includes vomiting in the morning, loss of appetite, panic attacks and constant crying. He broke up with me, he couldn’t handle my doubts, I would’ve done the same, as he had no idea what I was going through. We patched it up after I went to my first psychologist session. I fell in love with him. Constant intrusive thoughts like “You don’t like or love him”, “What if you’re leading him on”, “You just don’t want to break up with him bc you work together”, “What if you’re not meant to be together”. These thoughts killed me inside. A psychic came into work and read me and jokingly I said “Are my partner and I going to be together forever?” and he replied with, “what is it you want?”, a coworker said “that must mean you’re not sure”, and I keep having thoughts about that now. I am currently PMSing, which makes it worse. Past few days I’ve been thinking “What if I don’t want to be with him anymore”, “You’re gonna break up with him” and every time I think that’s a stupid thought, I feel a bit of relief for like 30 seconds then I doubt again! I get good days, where I’m in love and feel it, and I have an amazing time with him, and I obviously get my bad days. This is just so frustrating. I ended up leaving my Psychologist as she made me feel bad about a decision I made, and told me it was irrational and that I shouldn't have done it (it was just getting a tablet with my partner under my name). I also have to touch certain things and do certain things, and if I don't my mind tells me my partner and I will break up. I know I want to be with him, I know this doubt and anxiety can be overcome. I just get so fearful, like what if I'm wrong. My OCD tells me, "what if I'm just convincing myself and lying to him, and to myself?" I don't want that to be the case. I just want to know that I’m not alone, that I’m not crazy. That there’s hope, I don’t want this relationship to go down the trash, we have so much potential together. I want, and during good days, can see a future with this man. Anyone else feel like this too? Sincerely, Chatterbox1

Lonely, but I don't feel alone?

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Apologies if this thread has already occurred, I just wasn't able to find it... Recently the people that mean the most in my life have been saying that I see to see more people and hang out with my friends. I have worked on keeping relationships stro... View more

Apologies if this thread has already occurred, I just wasn't able to find it... Recently the people that mean the most in my life have been saying that I see to see more people and hang out with my friends. I have worked on keeping relationships strong for many years, and I feel like no one apprechaited it. When I try to hang out with my friends and I never think they enjoy my company and then I find out that they all see each other often, with out me. So I lost hope. I don't think anyone wants to see me apart from my boyfriend of 3 years or my parents. The thing that I have an issue with is that everyone tells me that my attitude is wrong but I am perfectly, couldn't be more happy or excited to just be by myself and never see friends again. I am happy to go to parties and social gatherings to see people temporarily and everyone at that time says how "we need to ctach up" but when I try to follow through I get no response. I have tried explaining this to my partner and parents - That I don't want to have friends anymore and I always want to just be by myself, partner or my horses. Is this totally wrong....? I woud like some help as to why is it good to have friends or why I need them. I have great confidence and self esteme so I can rule that out. Anyones opnions or thoughts would be graetly apprechaited. Thank you.

I lost my path along the way...

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Hi guys, Not really sure what's going on. I've never been someone to reach out to other people, but I've kinda fallen into a heap this year and I can't really talk to anyone at the moment for advice. So I have my last university exam for this semeste... View more

Hi guys, Not really sure what's going on. I've never been someone to reach out to other people, but I've kinda fallen into a heap this year and I can't really talk to anyone at the moment for advice. So I have my last university exam for this semester tomorrow. I've already had to withdraw from 2 units in week 7 because I couldn't meet attendance requirements. So out of the 2 units I'm sitting exams for, I found out yesterday that I failed the only other unit I'm taking this semester. I've never failed a subject in my life and I don't really know where to go from here. Because of that one failed unit, I can't continue my degree, as it's a pre-requisite, so I'm stuck in no-man's land for a semester, trying to work out how I messed up so bad and how to tell my family. I don't know if I can make it through tomorrow's exam, and I'm terrified and I feel like I have no direction anymore. All of my motivation has vanished and I'm not even sure why I'm still doing this course.

What should I do with my future T^T

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My life...is pretty annoying right now. I don't know what to do. I originally wanted to graduate Highschool, go to Uni, draw manga for a living. I've been avoiding this for a long time.....but I actually want to be a Kpop idol. I am an Asian who live... View more

My life...is pretty annoying right now. I don't know what to do. I originally wanted to graduate Highschool, go to Uni, draw manga for a living. I've been avoiding this for a long time.....but I actually want to be a Kpop idol. I am an Asian who lives in Australia. I really admire many Kpop idols especially BTS for all those people they've inspired, and how far they have maded through hard work and how much they've done to achieve their dreams. I want to be someone like them, not a pop star, but an idol. So what's annoying about this? There are a few factors that come in play and the first one is that everyone expects me to become a manga artist and I do love drawing manga and not meaning to brag, I am very talented in it. Singing, dancing, rapping, I am only a bit above average those but it's not something that people think I'll do. I'm not sure that if I ever become a Kpop idol would people be like "why though? It's such a shame, you were so great at drawing." I don't think my parents will support me at all because I'm "so good at drawing so why not make a living out of drawing?" another one is, I am not a Korean citizen and has to finish school. I'm in Highschool right now and once I graduate I'll be 17. In Korea, its best to become a trainee when you're below the age of twenty, and I don't think I'll be good enough at Korean (I am making progress on it though) and have enough money to move to Korea, support myself while living there and to be smart enough to study there. I just don't think I'll have enough time to do all of that stuff. and yet another one, even if I managed to live there and gain support from people. I'm not a particular gender and would not want to be a girl but even if I was a in a guy group I'm not physically a guy. In Korea you are assigned either to a female group or male group. I do not want to be solo artist...Will I have to do FtM transition? Yes gender is another topic, I wish I was a male, it's not about stereotype s or gender roles, it's just having female parts annoy me and I do not like having a higher pitched soft sound. I don't feel like a female either but I'm not male at the same time but will Korea accept that? I want to become a Kpop idol and not just some random idol from Australia who is Chinese. They are great but...they lack something that Kpop idols have. I just...don't know what to do.

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My parents don't believe in anxiety

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Worried about the future, war, climate change, health etc...

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Feeling disconnected, isolated, ?depressed

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Social anxiety? Uni, work, life

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Severe depression but too socially anxious to talk to anyone about it

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ROCD :(

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Lonely, but I don't feel alone?

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I lost my path along the way...

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What should I do with my future T^T

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Trust issues

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My parents don't believe in anxiety

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Worried about the future, war, climate change, health etc...

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Feeling disconnected, isolated, ?depressed

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Social anxiety? Uni, work, life

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Severe depression but too socially anxious to talk to anyone about it

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ROCD :(

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Lonely, but I don't feel alone?

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I lost my path along the way...

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What should I do with my future T^T

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