Help Please

confusedteen · ‎19-02-2016

Hi, i'm very new to the forums and it took me forever to even work out how to use this. i was wondering if anyone could help me out with some advice?

For a while now, i've been left out. i didn't hang out with anyone for a while but when i was allowed to again, my "friends" begged me to come and sit with them. i did and have been ignored all the time. They never speak to me unless i speak, they just hate me. i don't really have any other people to go to either because everyone hates me. I also recently lost my best friend...she walked out on our friendship. That broke me. I've been really lost without her ad even more so now with no friends.

2 days ago, some guys in my class we calling me ugly and fat and made me cry. I do get very upset over all of this so some help would really be appreciated x

Fairywings · ‎19-02-2016

I hear you beautiful girl. It makes me sad to see you feel so left out. One thing life has taught me is not to worry one bit about what people think of you and to do what makes you happy in life. After all you are the one that's most important above all else just remember that. People come into our lives to either teach us a lesson or as a blessing. If this group of friends are making u feel unloved unwelcomed by their presence then just know its ok to fly solo sometimes bc this is where self dicovery happens you learn to find yourself as a person and beautiful things will happen in your life. As for the guys who upset you about your weight don't take any notice of them if you are comfortable with the way u are that's all that matters people will love and accept you for who u r not what you are and the ones that don't well they r not worthy enough to be a part of your life. By the sounds of what u have written in ur post u r just wanting to feel happy and accepted again. This will happen with the right group of people in ur life don't loose hope bc beautiful people and very caring people are in fact out their and i can tell u happily that im one of them. Stay strong sweety and just remember you are most important and u don't need to impress anyone in this life.

White_Dove · ‎19-02-2016

Hi beautiful confusedteen. I've never written on a forum before but when I read your post I wanted to respond and tell you that you are not alone.

I've been through what you describe. All through high school I had the same things going through my head. I was depressed, had no self esteem, suffered anxiety and I was really lost. I felt like I had no friends and that everyone thought I was a burden. It took me a long time and a lot of hard work and personal development to get to the happy place I am today. What I learnt from my experience is that the mind is incredibly powerful. Things will get better! but only YOU can make it happen. I whole heartedly believe that everything happens for a reason and that every experience is an opportunity to learn. Don't let a few silly people make you feel like you're not worthy, you are! If you break down, that's okay! Everyone does from time to time, just make sure you get back up and push forward.

I wish I could tell you exactly how you'll get through hard times, but to be honest there is no perfect way. Personally, I made a decision I didn't want to be unhappy and didn't want to be treated like that anymore so stopped hanging out with the people who didn't make me feel good. I was on my own for a while but I tried new hobbies and new activities and started meeting some new people. I ended up meeting some of the most loyal and beautiful people in my life!

Determination, courage and patience, my friend 🙂 Always be true, learn to love yourself and work hard to protect that because you are unique and there is no one else in the universe quite like you!

I hope this helps you or anyone else reading this in some way. Sending you happy positive vibes 🙂 xx

smith98 · ‎20-02-2016

Hey Confusedteen,

Let me just begin by giving you a little bit of good news, you are NOT alone! This forum is full of like minded people who are suffering just like you or I. I can guarantee you that there is always going to be someone here to support you and ensure that you never have to go through this alone.

You may have noticed that I don't reply too often, this isn't because i don't visit the site, (I visit a few times every day), but because I only reply to posts i feel passionately about. Believe it or not but I have been in a very similar situation to you! At the time it really did seem like it wasn't going to get better, I lost all hope.

Here is a quick version of my story (hopefully you will see that everything can and will change for the better). I don't know much about you but personally I am a 17 year old boy sitting my HSC and I've attended the same all boys school my entire life. Ever since year 2 I was picked on for being the 'fat kid' and because of the way boys schools (and im sure a lot of schools) work that means i was outlawed from the 'sporty cool kid' group and because I wasn't smart I didn't fit into that group either. For year i was lonely and depressed just thinking i was given an unlucky set of genetics. Then after about 7 years of desperately trying to fit in but still having no friends I did something similar to you. I reached out for help! Which is one of the best things you can do!!!! I saw a psychologist and they helped me build some self confidence in myself (Personally i recommend this, it can be a great way to talk about your problems). One of the things i did which helped me the most was chose something i was passionate about or interested in and see if you can find a course or something in that area, that way you can meet new friends outside of school who share your interests.

Because this forum prohibits the use of explicit language I am not able to express how angry I am towards those dropkicks that you have the misfortune of sharing a class with. However, there is no need for either of us to waste our time on seeking revenge and justice, karma will do it for us. I know from experience that people like that get whats coming to them. "What happened to the boys who called me those names and thought i was dumb?", you might ask. Well I became a a prefect and house captain whilst they have achieved nothing. The first thing i did as a leader in the school was stand up for this little guys!

Lots of love

Smith98

confusedteen · ‎21-02-2016

Hai, thanks so much for that x its really nice to hear from people who have been through a similar experience

Fairywings · ‎21-02-2016

No problems hunny glad to see your feeling better about the situation stay strong bc we are always here for you xx😊😊

smith98 · ‎30-03-2016

Hey Confusedteen!

I just thought I would check in on you to see how you were travelling and see if we can help at all.

I hope those boys in your class haven't made anymore stupid comments.

Hope to speak to you soon!

Lots of Love,

Smith98

confusedteen · ‎23-05-2017

Hey, wow its been quite a while. I'm not doing too bad actually. Most of the things sorted themselves out with the whole friend thing. But other things haven't really got much better either.

Nothing has really happened with the boys, i guess we're kinda friends now? But now i am just having a heap of body issues and family problems, it seems like i'm followed by problems and can't get a break.

Sorry it took so long to reply, i became kinda depressed last year and forgot about this and remembered just now. Thank you very much x i appreciate everyone's help and you wanting to check up.