Hello

[Lonely_girl1]

Hi I'm Tasha I've suffers major Deppression I'm only 13 I've had Deppression since I was 10 um I've left my previous high school and started at a new one and I really hate it there is this girl called mikeala the only person I know we were best friends last year but she has changed a lot she is men to me and talks about gross stuff so I left but my mum wants me to go back on Monday but I'm to scared I have no social skills I get major anxiety when around lots of people and people I don't know I know what she will do she has always done it she gets all here friends and they all gang up on me and bully me and I just don't know anyone I only have 2 friends that go to my old high school andi can be myself around them but I can't really talk to anyone anymore I don't think my family and my mum get that I can't talk to anyone and I just can't make friends I just can't handle it anymore I really don't want to go back I've been feeling really low and worthless lately I just don't know what to do anymore hat should I do?

[Zeal]

Hi Tasha,

I'm 22, but still remember what it felt like to be a teenage girl. I was very shy and often felt uncomfortable in social situations.

You've had depression from a young age. The good news is that you have a very good chance of overcoming the depression - with time, social support, and some professional help (e.g. a GP and/or a psychologist). If there is a guidance counsellor or psychologist at your school, perhaps have a talk to them about how you are feeling and what is bothering you. It's a good idea to stay away from this girl who is mean to you. If she says something offensive or unpleasant, try to not react. Bullies are often looking for attention, and may stop the bullying if they don't get the reaction they are looking for.

Your parents could be a great support at home for you. Be as honest and open about what's happening at school as you can. It may seem a bit uncomfortable at first, but will probably feel more natural once you get used to talking about these things. It's best to chat when you and your Mum or Dad are relaxed and not pressured for time, like at the dinner table.

Seeing your GP could also be helpful. Once you've talked to your Mum, you may both decide going to your GP is a good idea.

I hope school goes alright tomorrow. You'll be on school holidays soon, so you will have some time to be with your family, with your two close friends, and to do fun things you enjoy.

If you want to talk further, you can post again here 🙂

Best wishes,

SM

[Guest_1055]

Oh Tasha ,

I'm so sorry, my heart aches for you so much that I want to give you a hug right now. And I hope you receive it in your heart.

I can't stand the thought of you being bullied. If I was going to your school, I would definitely hope that you would choose me as your friend. And I know I would choose you! Because you seem so kind and you don't like gross stuff.

Sometimes I find it hard as well, to make friends. Like what do you say to people. I am much better at writing words, than actually speaking them. Are you the same??

I am so glad you have two friends, that you can be yourself around. 

You know sometimes when I am uncomfortable around other people, I feel so awkward and I just want to hide. So if you have had that feeling, well you are not alone.

I have had that feeling too, when you feel like you don't matter to anyone, and you feel worthless. Well now I am thinking it is a lie, that we believe. It is not the truth. It simply is big fat lie. 

I was wondering if you are able talk to your mum, or anyone else, that you trust, about all that is happening to you. And also all that you are feeling? If you have trouble speaking, you are not alone in that either......

Could you write it all down on paper, then give it to you mum perhaps? What do you think?  Would that work?

 I do care so so much about you, and you are important and precious even though you may not feel it now.

I will be thinking about you tomorrow and wondering how you are getting along.

With love to you

Shelley anne xxx

PS  I hope I didn't talk about myself too much - Sorry