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[em_7500]

hi everyone, im new to the forums and im here because i told myself i should probably go get help. its not too bad of a problem but thanks if you read through it

i dont really know where to start. for a while now ive lost motivation to do anything and ive gotten pretty lazy. its gotten really bad to the point where im failing a class because i didnt do homework. i often yell at myself a lot. the other day i sat in front of the bathroom mirror and cried and yelled at myself about how im so useless and why i always ruin everything. i yell at myself for every little mistake. i made a huge mistake at the start of the year and whenever i think about it i just cry. i cry until i convince myself im weak for crying and eventually i just go back on my phone and pretend nothing happened. a lot of it has to do with people having high expectations of me. ive just given up. i just dont know i dont know anymore i dont know what to write

[Aaronsis]

Hi em_7500

Welcome to the forum and I really glad that you have reached out when you are feeling so bad about yourself. Being a young adult is really stressful and there are so many things to figure out..and you know what...we all make mistakes...I am 44 and I still make mistakes, however, if you learn from them well it is a lesson, and life is really full of lessons, we never stop learning. Please don't beat yourself up and yell at yourself about learning and figuring out things. It really is how we learn and how we grow. Imagine if we just went along everyday and did the same old thing and never made a mistake or took a risk to make a mistake..life would be very dull and boring don't you think.

I can hear how frustrated you are and that you are really upset as well and yes, there is so many expectations on young people today, so many questions.....what are you going to be when you finish school? what are you going to do at uni? are you going to go to uni? what job and career do you want? are you going to get married?....ahh the list goes on ...but you don't need to figure all that out today, nor tomorrow. It is easy let things fall and become lazy as you put it and just let everything pile up around us, but the thing is that the longer we do that the higher the pile gets...and sometimes it is really tricky to break the pile down....but it is never too late....never to late to make a change...and you are here chatting and get it off your chest...that is a very good start.

How about tomorrow you start just with getting up and doing something that makes you feel happy and puts a smile on your face, then maybe you could do 30 mins of homework and start to get back in to the swing of things just by putting one foot in front of the other, don't think about it all and fixing it all...just small steps...

Please don't give up, you are so very much worth it and I would like to chat to you some more.

Big hugs to you em_7500

AS

[em_7500]

hi aaronsis, thank you so much for replying

yeah, youre right. i really shouldnt try to fix everything at once as it will probably put on more stress than take off.

tonight ill try to break down some off my homework and then switch off and go outside or something.

thank you again, ill do my best

~em

[Aaronsis]

Hi em

Great idea, just start with small steps and start to climb the mountain, and before you know it you have done so many steps you are almost there, just starting is a huge step so well done and I am so very proud that you are going to chip away at the homework and make a start. Getting some sunshine and fresh air is also a brilliant idea.

Be kind to you and dont try to figure it all out tonight, enjoy the night and take some time for you, I hope you feel better with just doing some of the homework and seeing that you are making a start, to getting back to a happy you.

Hugs

AS