Feeling alone and hopeless

[Purple16]

Hello,

 I am struggling to understand my head. I get so overwhelmed with everything at once such as work and life. I have a very loving boyfriend that I don't like telling him how I feel or speaking to anyone for that matter because I feel like I will bring them down. Also I think they don't care and I feel I should just harden up. 

Every night I have to distract myself from crying because I think that my job is stressful, I'm not going to be successful and I feel like I'm a not a good person to be around because I have about 4 people I actually call friends. 

Some days I feel ok but every day I overthink about everything and don't feel myself. I hate it. 

Do I need help or am I just over reacting (which is what I convince myself) 

[Jacko777]

Hi Purple16,

I am glad you have posted, I don't think you are over reacting, I think you would benefit from some support, do you see a counselor or a doc? I think it would help you to have some clarity about what is affecting you.

Have you ever tried meditation? It has helped me greatly to reduce over thinking and find some calmness and happiness. This could help you a lot! And could you spend some time each day on something you enjoy or love, exercise, what are you passionate about? You need to give your self a break, focus on what you are passionate about for a little while each day, practice shifting your focus to the positive, the more you practice the easier it becomes, I know you can do it.

I would never have understood my head had I not received the support and advice of psychologists and counselors. For me some challenges were a little tedious to work through, other issues were discovered in a session to bring instant relief, once I was working through stuff I felt satisfaction from knowing I was on the right track.

Would you like to tell us about your job? Are there ways you can make it less stressful? Love to you.

Jacko

[geoff]

dear Purple, welcome to the site.

If your boyfriend was a loving type person then he may want to help, but I understand your apprehension, but this doesn't mean that you can't tell your doctor who will be able to assist you.

The obvious answer that people say to themselves is that 'they should toughen up', easy to say very difficult to achieve, and virtually impossible to do yourself, and it doesn't matter whether your old or young, help is needed.

Because you are worried about what you think then this will alter what you are able to do everyday, and unfortunately this feeling grows and will extend to all facets of your life, your relationship with your boyfriend, which I'm sure you are scared of this, so yes I would go and see your doctor.

You don't have to tell your boyfriend everything but could you say that your not feeling well. Geoff. x