Family life is shit want to leave

Depressed4life · ‎26-02-2017

my dad constanly ignores me and yells at me i feel worthless and not loved at all i want to leave but i have no where to go what do i do?

Hangingbyathread · ‎26-02-2017

Hey, it depends how old you are. If you are old enough then go to the police. They can help with any type of abuse put onto you by family. I can't leave and despite the odds can't help but love the people that hate me. I've been forced to learn all my life, I was forced to give up my dreams and ambitions for the sake of 'supporting' family when they can't support themselves.

So, if you can, go to the police or call the emergency number (depends where you are), I hope things get better.

Starwolf · ‎26-02-2017

Welcome to the forums, Depressed4life,

Well done for finding the courage to share your concerns. Being stuck in an abusive family situation is distressful. It sounds like your self-worth is being undermined. I grew up in a toxic family and know it can be hell, particularly when there is nowhere else to go.

We're here to help but need to know a bit more about your situation to do so. How old are you ? Are you still at school ?

You don't mention your Mum...do you have family members you could talk to ?

These forums are a safe place, you'll be OK to chat with us. Can you get back to us with a few more details ? We can then put our heads together and see what can be done.

Here for you.

CMF · ‎26-02-2017

Hey there and welcome,

I agree with the others. Tell us a little more.

We care about you.

BS

Caramello_Koala · ‎26-02-2017

Your in the same situation as me except for me it's my Mum. I can't leave though I am only 12 and a half I just started high school and already getting teased like I did in primary school. Don't leave home, it will just get worse, yes some people might love you more but in the long run don't. Just do what I do if your still in school, leave home early come home late then just do homework and say you can't be disturbed it should work. Just try it

Depressed4life · ‎27-02-2017

Hi I'm a 15 year old female both parents in the same house two siblings that they adore but for some reason they hate me, I'm in school but really want to drop out (year 10) no family member I like at all.

Starwolf · ‎27-02-2017

Thank you for getting back to us.

It must be very distressing to be treated differently from your siblings. Any idea why this is happening ? Is this problem relatively recent or has it been ongoing over the years ?

Teenage is a difficult time. Often a time of conflict with the family as transition from childhood to adulthood is happening. Young people develop their own ideas, become more independent and want their own space. Parents can also find it hard to adjust. They may be protective and fear their child is not yet ready to move on safely. Perhaps different beliefs and opinions causes them to grow apart.

Not having anyone to talk with makes struggling alone too difficult. Have you thought of having a chat with the school counselor ? S/he is there to help resolve a lot more than schooling issues.

Copying this link into your browser will yield useful tips, info and support :

https://www.headspace.org.au/

If the situation degenerates, please call the Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800).

Meanwhile, you will find peer support in the Young People section of these forums. It will help you feel less alone. There's even a virtual Friends'Cafe in the Social Zone where young people get together to discuss any subject they like.

We still don't know much about the nature of the problem but I hope some of this will help.