confused and need help

[charlotteeeee]

i didn't know where to write this because i honestly can't say that i know what i'm feeling.

lately (since around the start of the year). i've been going through some friendship problems and have been very stressed out with school and work so i don't know if i'm worrying over nothing or not.

i haven't been eating very much at all, one or maybe two small meals a day because i've been feeling too sick to eat. i am constantly feeling upset and down and i don't want to be around my friends that much anymore because i usually just feel upset when i'm around them (i just like to be alone a lot). i can't concentrate on a lot of things because i am worried about other things i am constantly overthinking every little thing and when there is a stage when i start to feel a little better i just start thinking about all the negative things and things that are going wrong and start to feel like shit again.

i find it really hard to talk to people even some of my closest friends and so i feel like i'm constantly holding my problems in, which makes my moods worse. also i am close with my mum but i never talk to her about anything that i'm upset about.

i just need some advice and someone to tell me if this sounds serious enough to talk to somebody about because i'm sick of feeling this way but i don't know if it's just a faze or if i just don't want to admit anything to myself.

[james1]

Hey Charlotte,

I'm 25 now but I like to pretend I'm young at heart 😛 Still, it doesn't feel like all that long ago since I was at school and my sister just finished year 12, so I remember what it's like.

There's a lot of pressures at school, whether just school work or exams, social pressures like friends and body image...there's just a whole bunch of stuff. And unfortunately we only have a limited amount of emotional energy that we can direct at these problems until it becomes too much and we're overwhelmed.

A lot of the things you're describing - lack of energy, wanting to be alone, overthinking - sound like you're feeling really overwhelmed by a lot of your thoughts and feelings.

I think it's worthwhile talking to someone. The best person to start with, to be completely honest, is probably a very close friend or family member. You can have a chat to them - and don't be afraid to tell them you just need to unload and aren't looking for answers from them. Because chances are they wont' know what to do, but they will want to help you. The second person is probably a GP or school counsellor. These people are trained to help you out.

You sound like you're really struggling with something and I wish I could do more to help. But I think it's super important to let some of those bubbling thoughts and feelings out, because they will just fester and stay otherwise.

Your happiness is super important and anything that threatens it is definitely to be taken seriously. You sound like a lovely person and I'm sure people will be very eager to help once they realise what you're going through.

James

[blondguy]

Hello charlotteeeee

Welcome to the forums and good on you for having the courage to post too!

Im sorry that you have been feeling this down recently. Having difficulty concentrating is common when we have things on our mind however seeing that its having an effect on your eating and wanting to be alone I would suggest talking to the school counselor......or a GP.....or even your mum.

Holding your problems inside is like boiling water and not allowing the steam escape....we all need to have a chat to someone to find some peace again....so the problems dont get any worse.

I think you are an intelligent and pro-active person and also for posting 🙂

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by having a chat to the school counselor or a GP as soon as you can arrange it.

There are also a lot of young people that can be here for you too!

I really hope you can let us know how you go

you are not alone feeling this way...there are many young people in the same situation as yourself

you really are a achiever Charotteeeee 🙂

my kind thoughts for you

Paul