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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Everything is overwhelming at the moment

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This is the first time i've done something like this so I'm not reay sure how it works. I just feel like I needed to try and make sense of everything that's happening in my life. To start with I have a fear of failure and happened to fail my P's test. My dad had a heart attack a few weeks ago and had to be brought back to life (he doesnt live with me) he's alright but it's freaking me out. He's in hospital at the moment getting fluid drained. About a week or so after that I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. I don't even know how to feel about that. I'm going for my liscence again in a week. In a month I'll be going to another country with a friend for a holiday. It will be my first time doing aything like it and I'll be doing it without my mum or anyone that really knows what they're doing. Two weeks after that I move into university and start a double degree. It will be my first time living away from home. I think that just about covers it. I'm just really overwhelmed and I want it all to stop. I don't know how to deal with it and I know i can't just keep ignoring it and hoping it will go away while I'm secretly breaking down.

Visiting a doctor.

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Hey, i don't really know what to do when i next visit the doctors. I know i'm very depressed and moderately anxious with other things in the mix. My mum booked an appointment for my skin (acne) and i've decided to bring up my hyperhidrosis when i'm there, but, i don't know how to bring up the depression. I may need to pay for the psychologist if i end up going. But before that, i don't know how to explain how i am depressed, it's just been a constant thing. Bad parents, bad breakups, loneliness and being aware that many people dislike me for who i am. I just don't know what to say to the doctor and i'd be very grateful if someone were to 'teach' me how to bring it up. I'm hoping that my mum does not come with me. I'll ask her to stay outside, maybe.

Struggles with commitment as a lonely young man

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Hi all, I came for some advice about love and commitment. As a guy, we often don't have a variety of options or people to talk about this stuff with as men are typically "not supposed to talk about emotion" as much as women. Which shouldn't be right because it makes people like me struggle even more. I am a 19 year old guy. I finished High School last year and am about to finish my gap year and head into University next year. Over the past 6-12 months I have become increasingly more and more lonely. I still have friends but I see them less and our catch-ups feel more and more unsatisfying, or something along those lines. I have met some women going out and what not who I have continued to speak to yet I never take the leap to dating or something further. This is where it makes no sense to me, I like to watch romantic comedies at home in bed, I long for what I see in them. To find that special someone and have this amazing, loving relationship. Yet everyone that comes my way I push away or don't even interact with. I dont know what it is exactly, probably a mix of feeling like I don't want to "inflict myself onto them" or not even trying because I pre-judge them saying "what's the point, they wont be into me anyway". I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm never going to find love (which is crazy because I'm only 19) but more importantly, more and more like I don't know myself. I don't know who I am anymore, I work and I sleep and any other time is wasted away doing nothing important or constructive. What do I do to get myself out of this rut and back into the world, meeting people and finding who I am again? -Lintu01

Job interview

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Hi I'm 19, female I'm an artist / waitress I'm on Centrelink. My job help lady told me to apply for a job apprentice administration . I'm way under qualified you need to know how to use computer programs like excel and I don't know. I'm good with people but I am shy. I have an interview and feel like I don't want the job. It is something I want to get into but I feel like I want to do a few short courses so I'm better suited to it. I have to attend the interview as I'm on benefits. The job is 38 hours a week is starts middle of January. It's a great opportunity but I don't feel like I'm qualified for it yet. Plus I have anxiety. What should I do or does anyone have words of wisdom

My Anxiety is driving me INSANE!

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I have always struggled with it. But lately, i have been so stressed at work and with my love life that my anxiety is off the charts. I constantly think that I'm dying or im sick, I feel like not one day goes by that there isn't something wrong with me. So then sets in the constant mind numbing stage, where im consumed by it, the heart palpitations, which just stresses me out even more. I am really scared that this is going to consume me, I dont know what to do. How do i stop this from ruling my life.

Unsure why I feel depressed/anxiety

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Hi everyone I'm new to this so here we go. Im a step mum of 2 who I get along great with and have the most amazing partner and work in food catering in age care. I don't get along with my boss and some of the ladies at work due to on and off bullying however my job is only part time. for some reason over the last month or so I have felt so tired and unmotivated and just plain upset all the time and I can't seem to snap out of it. The only time I feel somewhat normal are when the kids come home on the weekend or when my partner is home from work. i don't know what to do about it or what's causing it. And if it's work related I feel like I can't leave so I can support my family.

Never good enough at work

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Hi all, this is my first post so.. I am a 24yo male and have had on average 1 job per year since I was 16, and every one I have felt inferior and it affects me pretty badly. I am currently an adult apprentice, which i go to training once a week and work 4 days a week. I am top of my class at tech and I find the electrical industry so interesting, i'd love to study it forever... but the work... My boss constantly gives unreachable deadlines, and expects me to get things perfect first time, even though i am a first year. This, along with my depression/anxiety (medicated for 4 years) is causing my feelings of inferiority to get so much worse. I strongly believe that I am not good enough at anything to even continue doing it... i feel, and am made to feel even more, like i am constantly just making mistakes, not learning quick enough, doing stupid things, daydreaming, asking the wrong questions about the wrong things (even though to me they are legitimate and serious). My tech trainer seems to think i am good enough to teach the subject to the next generation if i get qualified, but my on-site performance is apparently horrible... Also required 15 minutes early everyday, not paid but scolded if i am not (even if i am 10 mins early) Hasnt paid a single bit of my superannuation Very aggressive when teaching or "disciplining" tries to start arguements when in bad moods None of this helps my situation but it just gives you a better view of my situation. he also knows my problems but believes depression can be fixed simply by changing the way you look at stuff and can be done in a day... I dont know i could probably write a book about my issues, but i just want some advice, maybe someone else who has been through the same stuff... sorry if this sounds like im whining, but i have had some really horrible bosses and i start to think i am the problem...

Controlling Tears

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Hey, just looking for some ways to control my tears as i still 2/3 nights and tear up every day. Should i first aim to fix depression or should i just toughen up and concentrate on other stress.

Scheduled Emotional Rollercoaster

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Hey, so I'm not really new here, but it's taken me quite a while to bring myself to write and try to decide whether this is even worth a post. I've had occasional short bursts of depression and anxiety for while now, but recently they've become much more frequent to the point of predictability. For the last few weeks, Wednesday to Saturday are a high note, where I can enjoy and feel good about myself, then Saturday arvo/night I lose momentum and give myself a chance to reflect on my constant mistakes, poor social interactions and embarrassments, and drop a low that lasts until Wednesday where I can't find much motivation and find most things, including just having normal conversations a chore. I wasn't planning on posting anything before, but the regularity of this has started to concern me. And even when I'm all good, things around me have started to feel a lot less real. I find myself forcing reactions to things, that should invoke natural ones. Idk, maybe I'm just overreacting and exaggerating, but something feels quite wrong.

Hey not really sure where i should start here/where i belong in regards to forums.

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Hi all Not sure really where to start, pretty insecure about my whole thing but i am a 22 year old Australian male. I have been depressed on and off for about the last 3 years with the last year being the heaviest with other problems having started (more of that later). It Started with the breaking up of myself and my girlfriend at the time while also having family problems which did not let me stay at home. After the breakup i moved away from my normal circles of support down to a house with one friend and the rest strangers. At this point in time i had never encountered something so emotionally painful. I felt incredibly numb for long periods of time which was followed by mild anxiousness. About this time i took to smoking pot, drinking a lot and promiscuous type activities (just trying to live what i thought was the normal college boy life type thing). While there were some points that felt good again i would quickly swing back into a not so good state though i trusted that i would come out again so i continued on. On top of this my concentration in my studies did so poorly that i ended up not even showing to my exams. Near the end of the year i had a health scare which prompted me to try and get back on track. (year 2) Still smoking pot i moved in with an old study friend and commenced my semester 1 study once again. However quickly i noticed my mood, smoking habits and general frantic nature negatively impacting on those around me. (Also i failed my second attempt at uni) So i looked to move, eventually back to the old house now with different tenants but that old friend who had been there previously. Anyway still smoking pot living in pretty bad conditions, i eventually have a breakdown of sorts doctors called it a drug induced psychosis (thought i was going to die). Ended up in hospital and then a ward for a while. (yr 3)(stopped smoking pot) This year has been a incredibly painful full of paranoia, anxiety and depression I strove to take it on alone and managed kinda(though i did have a pretty bad anxiety session mixed with pangs of paranoia), eventually lost the job i was in and moved back home. Alot better now however i feel fragile and would love support but i find it so hard to let talk about this stuff. There is more than i have written and i know it is disjointed however i really just don't know where to begin and sometimes i feel like i just need a hand because i am feeling really out of my depth and really sad.

Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies replies: 51

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Everything is overwhelming at the moment replies: 3

Visiting a doctor. replies: 7

Struggles with commitment as a lonely young man replies: 3

Job interview replies: 4

My Anxiety is driving me INSANE! replies: 3

Unsure why I feel depressed/anxiety replies: 3

Never good enough at work replies: 4

Controlling Tears replies: 8

Scheduled Emotional Rollercoaster replies: 5

Hey not really sure where i should start here/where i belong in regards to forums. replies: 4