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Where do I go from here?

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Last week I ended up in hospital. I thought I was having a heart attack! Turned out to be an anxiety attack. I've never had one before. Life has been so stressful lately and I've tried talking to my husband about it but he just talks over me so I gav... View more

Last week I ended up in hospital. I thought I was having a heart attack! Turned out to be an anxiety attack. I've never had one before. Life has been so stressful lately and I've tried talking to my husband about it but he just talks over me so I gave up. I was 150kms from home (we live in the middle of nowhere and this is our closest large town). My husband was at work (100kms away). My friend was picking my kids up from school. I called my husband at work to let him know what was happening and got a response of...I won't be home until I finish work. He had no car. My friends husband drove 150kms to drop my friend at the hospital so I wasnt alone. Than he drove 100kms back to where my husband was at work to pick him up and bring him to the hospital. He called the whole time but hubby didn't answer until 6.30pm. I called my husband at 3pm. He had his phone the whole time. Friends hubby drove another 100kms back to the hospital & than home, another 150kms. I can't get passed the fact that my husband didn't even try to get to me. Not at all. My friends husband drove for nearly 6 hrs to make sure I was ok and my husband couldn't even ask to borrow one of his friends cars. I have been struggling with this marriage for the last 5yrs (we've been together 15) I always forgive when he's inconsiderate even though it hurts me deeply everytime. I just want to be happy. He apologises but things always go back to the same thing. How do I forgive this time?

I feel lost

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I'm not sure how to go about things. Sometimes I get down but I feel my boyfriend convinces me that there is truely something wrong with me. He pokes and prods until it tips me over the edge. I react and feel I am going crazy. I can't tell if its me ... View more

I'm not sure how to go about things. Sometimes I get down but I feel my boyfriend convinces me that there is truely something wrong with me. He pokes and prods until it tips me over the edge. I react and feel I am going crazy. I can't tell if its me or him.

what's wrong with me

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Hello, My name is Rika and sorry if this is weird it's my first time doing this. Recently my life has been down deeply in the dumps, i have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and i'm also finding my own sexuality as well due to past events, e... View more

Hello, My name is Rika and sorry if this is weird it's my first time doing this. Recently my life has been down deeply in the dumps, i have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and i'm also finding my own sexuality as well due to past events, everyday is emotionless for me and it doesn't help that my mom won't ever let me leave the house to do anything, i'm currently 15 and i've never had a sleepover and i have never been to a friends house or birthday party or even had a proper one of my own haha weird right? anyway, everyday at school is hard cause i feel so heavy and tired no matter how much i sleep, also the only time i ever feel really happy is when im online talking to friends i've made in other countries and when they're sad i feel really happy cause it gives me a chance to cheer them up and when i succeed i feel so good about myself and them. and other times i don't feel anything at all, i don't feel happy and i don't feel sad for them i feel nothing, it's like i don't care about them. One time my friend ((im gonna call him red cause he likes that color)) red once went missing and the other friend Byn ((im not going to use real names for them)) got really upset since he knows red in real life and everyone in this facebook chat of ours was upset except for me, i didn't feel anything for them or anyone, it was like it wasn't even happening, eventually he turned up, terribly beaten, broken phone, friend committed suicide . i was glad he was safe but ever since then i've hated myself foe feeling nothing for him. Why am i like this? why must i constantly be an emotionless girl feeling nothing for her beloved friends. They deserve something don't they? i don't wanna be like this anymore thank you for reading and if you do choose to leave a comment, i will happily read it for you. have a nice day everyone

Is it just me?

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Hi, I am an emotional person, but one thing that is stopping me is me being unable to cry it out. As I have depression and anxiety, I have the feelings to cry, but I cannot produce the tears. Is there something wrong with me? If so, what is it and wh... View more

Hi, I am an emotional person, but one thing that is stopping me is me being unable to cry it out. As I have depression and anxiety, I have the feelings to cry, but I cannot produce the tears. Is there something wrong with me? If so, what is it and what can be done? I have been clean for the past 12 months, which is a huge achievement for me. But the urge to cry is still there, but won't come out. Hope someone can help

How do you change when you've "played it safe" your whole life?

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Okay, so I have posted on here a few times, I am finally making process and feeling a little better. Partly because I am being direct, taking charge and doing what's best for me, including seeing a psychologist. Personality wise, I've realised identi... View more

Okay, so I have posted on here a few times, I am finally making process and feeling a little better. Partly because I am being direct, taking charge and doing what's best for me, including seeing a psychologist. Personality wise, I've realised identify with lawful good as part of the alignment personality system. . Put simply, I do things because it's the "right" thing typically, not because I want to and a lot of it is based on how I feel others see me or the ridiculous standards I have set for myself. Not to be misunderstood, I don't want to be self-destructed, but I haven't ever done anything remotely adventurous or different. Or even slightly rebellious. I find myself longing to bring out more of the free-spirit I know exists in me; but I really don't know. It's also hard because I am stuck between very religious friends and others that are very much secular. I tend to question things a lot partly due to that diversity. I am not sure how to openly become the person I feel I am and take healthy risks? I am not even sure what they look like. I am a very creative person, but I lack confidence in those capabilities, if that gives any kind of indication. Thanks!

I need advice with my current relationship please

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Hi guys, I'm just an average person thats currently studying, for the past 2 years I met someone (I think) I truly love. She is great but, we broke up in out first year, but then we "kinda" got back together but not as boyfriend and girlfriend, so ju... View more

Hi guys, I'm just an average person thats currently studying, for the past 2 years I met someone (I think) I truly love. She is great but, we broke up in out first year, but then we "kinda" got back together but not as boyfriend and girlfriend, so just "friends" but we didnt do what friends do like have sex, call each other every night, what a good relationship does. She keeps asking me what are we, I ask her what do you want us to be, she says she doesn't know. For me I can be patient. She continues by saying this is wrong but I want to be with you. I'm guessing that she doesn't to be together but she doesn't to hurt my feelings so i reassure her, but then she continues on by saying no one is like me and she wont someone like me. This made me happy and sad, reason why is that she keeps saying this is wrong and what are we. Just recently she met a guy at her work place and she finds him cute. I don't mind that since she calls everyone cute but then something odd happens. She stops calling me, finding out that it was the guy from her workplace, I ask her when she is going to finish calling him? she said I don't know. She didn't call me back in a while, so I got jealous and yes I did Stuff up by going into her account and snooping of who is she texting and found out that shes been texting that guy. But nothing comes out of the ordinary but when i look at her other friends text shes been saying how cute he is and ect I get really jealous but soon enough I saw it as a joke BUT i felt guilty for logging into her account so i confessed of what I've done and explain why i did it. She got mad and cuts me off from her life this happen twice now through the two years. The first time she cuts me off was for no reason so the persistent me is trying to contact her and ask her why and also if we could talk eventually we got back together but now she cuts me off again but with a reason (me logging into her account without asking) and yes i feel really guilty about this. I feel she lost trust in me i want to say sorry so many times but she keeps ignoring me. I want to talk to her but she doesn't care this is the second time that she cuts me off. Should I stay persistent or should I move on?

Severe anxiety.. need suggestions!

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Hi all, For a little over two years now I suffered from GAD, panic disorder, social anxiety, slight agoraphobia, and more recently depression. Meanwhile I have been suffering with glue ear and sinusitis, which both trigger my anxiety and amplify symp... View more

Hi all, For a little over two years now I suffered from GAD, panic disorder, social anxiety, slight agoraphobia, and more recently depression. Meanwhile I have been suffering with glue ear and sinusitis, which both trigger my anxiety and amplify symptoms. Because of this, my life has become very constricted. I cannot handle being home alone because two years ago I suffered 3 panic attacks in 3 days and each time I was home alone so this has caused me to avoid being home on my own for two years, which frustrates me because I used to love being home on my own but I cannot bring myself to attempt to stay at home on my own out of fear of a re-occurrence. I also cannot handle being out in public because of my social anxiety which has worsened in the past two years and because of my glue ear, causes me to constantly feel agitated, uncomfortable, and easily overwhelmed. And now, my anxiety is also affecting my university studies. I've just began seeing a psychologist for CBT, and I have recently been given prescription for benzodiazepenes to take when needed. The reason that I'm writing this thread is because last month while on a two hour car trip I suffered a severe and traumatising panic attack that suffered for around an hour. I now have a wedding to attend next week, which is 10 hours away and will be a 3 day trip. I am very overwhelmed at the thought of the car trip as I cannot handle being in a car, even for short trips to the local shops. I feel claustrophobic/trapped and can't feel car/motion sick. I am also worried about being away from home for 3 days as I suffer from depersonalisation and derealisation, and feel very overwhelmed when experiencing it when in unfamiliar surroundings and increases my anxiety. My other concern is that the wedding will be quite large, and the venue is not very big, and as stated above, I cannot handle public areas, and being around more than a few people, otherwise I become overwhelmed, off balanced, and feel like I'm going crazy/loosing control. I was hoping there would be someone who has a similar issue, or really just anyone, who can offer me some suggestions to help me handle the long car trip and the wedding. Thank you for reading, even if I did ramble on or at times might not make sense x

Uni stress

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Hey everyone I've been having doubts about my university course recently. I used to study a 3 year bachelors course at uni doing business (human resource management). At the end of my first year though I decided I would like to get into teaching as w... View more

Hey everyone I've been having doubts about my university course recently. I used to study a 3 year bachelors course at uni doing business (human resource management). At the end of my first year though I decided I would like to get into teaching as well. I still enjoyed HR but wanted to do this too. I didn't want to wait 2 more years to finish and then start my masters so I decided to transfer to another uni and do a double degree in business (HRM) and education. About a week into the course someone called me and told me that I can't major in HRM if I wanted to teach the subjects I put down in education. So I changed my major to business (commercial law). I'm now 3/4 years in and I am enjoying studying education, but I am really not so keen on the commercial law degree. I haven't been going to a lot of the classes throughout the 3 years and that's pretty evident in my grades. I don't want to work in a legal secretary office job one day but I only have about 6 more commercial law subjects to go now, and the rest will be education related. I would stick it out since I've nearly finished it and will have to pay for it all through HECS either way, but I am afraid future employers (including in education) would look at my academic transcript and see I am not doing so well in half of my course. I'm really struggling to decide if I should call it quits on the commercial law degree or not. Thanks for reading and any advice you could give to me! Hkut

spiral down

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lately my life has been quite hard, i had a recent, major fight with my dad which has been causing me a lot of stress, saddness and grief, considering we have an extremely limited relationship. Im currently in year 12 and the constant demand to keep ... View more

lately my life has been quite hard, i had a recent, major fight with my dad which has been causing me a lot of stress, saddness and grief, considering we have an extremely limited relationship. Im currently in year 12 and the constant demand to keep your grades high while eating well, staying fit and socialising has all become to much. my work life has suffered so badly, i had to take a month off because i am fighting with a boy who was saying rude and derogatory comments to me and because i have no motivation to do anything, this has also left me with a lot of financial stress. Lately simple mundane tasks like getting out of bed, going to play sports, going outside just to do anything seem unbearable. At night time i fluctuate between oversleeping, to getting around an hour a night. My muscles in the left side of my body are in constant pain and my throat feels like it has a tight ring around it. My mother lives in a different state to me and the separation is extremely hard to deal with, but i am also separated from my sister and step sisters. If i could describe my current feelings, it would be that i have no desire to engage in life anymore. I sometimes barely eat and then the next day i will eat so much i'm sick. Im not sure whether at the moment all i'm experiencing is a build up of emotions or grief but it is becoming unbearable. I don't want to do anything, or see anyone. I have been googling my symptoms and the most relative is atypical depression, which relates to every aspect of how i am feeling, however i don't consider myself depressed. I do not know what to do currently but i do know that my mental state and well being is dropping significantly. Also i have so much stress at the moment because of all of this. To be honest, i have no idea how to handle my current feelings, i don't know whether i'm depressed or being irrational but old issues like my parents divorce, which happened in 2012, have started to upset me again. Lately i have no motivation to do anything but stare and watch the world pass before me, if anyone could give me any advice on what i'm feeling and how to handle it i would greatly appreciate it xx

I have no sense of self.

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I'm 16 years old and my whole life I've spent changing between different hobbies, different tastes, different styles to see what I like and cannot settle. When I was younger we moved around alot, infact I've only recently moved into my brother's to l... View more

I'm 16 years old and my whole life I've spent changing between different hobbies, different tastes, different styles to see what I like and cannot settle. When I was younger we moved around alot, infact I've only recently moved into my brother's to live independently. I think all this change and moving around prevents me from having a place to call home, a room to put my own belongings in and feel comfortable. Usually my personality adapts to the people I'm surrounded by. I hate this feeling of not feeling confident because I lack self awareness, it's not fair for me to change who I am just because I'm around different people. It's all I've ever known though because I don't know how to be my own person. How am I meant to build esteem when I have nothing to build off. There's nothing that I am passionate about, nothing that excites me or gives me meaning. I need a good diversion from all this. I want my own unique interest that keeps me going, that I can be passionate about. I feel extremely disconnected from my peers and myself. I can't figure out who I am and I don't know who I want to be. I've been struggling with this issue quite intensely over the past few days, constantly questioning who I am and what I am doing with my life. It's depleting. I feel useless as though I'll never do anything with the little time I have and I'll just sit around staring dull faced and bored. Lately I've been completely wasting my days, sitting around, watching time pass. I am soon yet to study this online course but I fear I may lose motivation because of the mindset I am in. I guess, for me,this is one minor issue among many others. I put the topic out there asking for advice but also for some to relate to.

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I need advice with my current relationship please

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I feel lost

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what's wrong with me

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Is it just me?

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How do you change when you've "played it safe" your whole life?

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I need advice with my current relationship please

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Severe anxiety.. need suggestions!

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