Not sure what I'm doing with my life

[Von is lost]

So I've recently started first full time job out of uni, and I'm not loving it. My boyfriend also recently broke up with me and because I'm living away from friends and family I'm feeling extremely lonely and lost. I'm miserable in my situation but I'm lacking motivation to do anything about it maybe because I'm just lazy or because I'm terrified of making the wrong decision. I've always relied on my mum or friends to give me advice, or just tell me what to do, rather than to make any decisions for myself. This is part of the reason my boyfriend broke up with me, because I was sad all the time and wasn't doing a damn thing about it. I'm sick of being the miserable girl but I'm really struggling to see my future in a positive way and can't seem to dream and imagine all the possibilities of where my life could take me, which is what I should be doing right? I'm only 21 and wondering whether this mentality is really causing my life fulfilment and enjoyment to diminish. I mean I'm young and don't really have commitments to anyone or anywhere so why can't I dream? Thanks for reading.

[gld]

Hi Von is lost,

You are going through some major changes at present and it is very normal to be feeling the way you are. I feel by gaining some support for yourself could be very beneficial. This space is a great place to start as this space gives you somewhere to let it all out without any judgement and members here are very supportive. Finding a GP is a great spot to go and discuss how you are feeling as they are able to assist you with connecting with other health professionals to improve your well being.

Sometimes it becomes a little overwhelming when you are experiencing transition from uni into the workforce, relationship breakup and moving away from family supports, so do not be too hard on yourself. Look after yourself by gaining the supports you need at present. Even though your family are not close by, i feel by your post they have been there for you in the past and are still there for you when you need their support.

Give yourself time to regain your strength to improve your well being so you are able goal set for life's path and i hold on to hope that you will be able to dream in the near future.

Gen [Hugs]