Dealing with frustration

[MsPurple]

How do you deal with frustration? I have been recently frustrated by friends and sometimes I don't know how to deal with it in a more product way. How do you deal with being frustrated?

Sometimes I meditate or have a bath or talk to myself about my frustration. I'm trying to find other ways to deal with my frustration. Occasionally I drink (although rare it still makes me feel bad for doing it).

Anyone have any suggestions or care to share of any stories?

[blondguy]

Hi MsPurple

Connecting with 'Mother Earth' and doing some gardening....I have always found peace doing so...and afterwards having an apple cider

Music...and lots of it!

Laughing with someone that hasn't lost touch with their 'inner child'

Taking myself and all those high expectations less seriously than I used to

Great post MsPurple 🙂

my kind thoughts

Paul

[white knight]

Hi ms Purple

Good idea Paul, although I prefer ginger beer or sars.

Ive mentioned this before many times but Maharaji does it for me. Google

Youtube maharaji the perfect instrument

Youtube maharaji sunset

People can be frustrating. The less people in contact, the less frustration. But not too few.

Good thread Ms Purple

Tony WK

[Lytaz]

I second gardening, it has also helped me vanquish that niggling frustration.

In the moments before sliding into complete irritability with a person/situation I take a deep breath and hold it for ten seconds, repeating three times if needed to calm down. Looks funny but has stopped a few arguments.

Yoga helped me reduce every day frustration over the long term, as did taking longer breaks away from computer and social media during the day and spending time in lovely places like parks, or sharing nice food, with people who make me happy and laugh.

[MsPurple]

Hi everyone and thanks for your awesome suggestions.

I live in an apartment so gardening at my place maybe a challenge, however my bestie has recently started a garden so I may jump on helping her out.

I recently lashed out at two individuals on email due to me misreading the emails. I'm super embarrassed and kinda ashamed I let myself do that. I usually hold it in and keep it together, but today I didn't. I don't know what to think about it. I feel like I have been more open about my feels and anxiety with my friends and housemates and I thought this was a good thing and I was moving more forward in my journey to a healthier me. But then I lash out on email and I feel like I have taken 3 steps back. I then get frustrated and upset about it and I feel like this puts me another step back. I get frustrated by me getting frustrated which sounds silly but that's how I am feeling right now.

SO I guess this post idea came out of me feeling kinda embarrassed I did something so rash and lashed out at two people who have been nothing but kind to me. I'm not usually that person (I probably the person that usually gets the lashing out at). I'm frustrated about myself and my anxiety. I also thought it would be good to share that even as a community champion we are not perfect and have our off days. I also wanted to share that I sometimes come here to get support too.

Thanks everyone. I would love to keep this post coming as I think a lot of us deal with frustration and not all of us (like myself) deal with it in the best way.

[blondguy]

Hey MsPurple

If you check any dictionary and look up imperfect you will see my photograph prior to the word meaning 😉

Best

Paul

[white knight]

good one Paul

MsPurple. I am a moody guy. My bipolar2, depression and dysthymia make me what I am but it has moods as one side effect. My sister and brother (dec) are/were to and they have mental illness. We all share bipolar 2.

I've found that my frustration has become more measured. Is it age? emotional maturity? or experience? A person being a bully on facebook wont get the same reaction from me some 7 years ago. In fact hurt and anger has been replaced with laughing.

The good news is that the older you get the better you react. Holding your breath in times of stress with someone "biting your lip" is fine but not an automatic action, it takes a lot of practice. don't expect too much progress with dealing with people that frustrate you. But do put in place barriers to minimalise it. Like

Moving out (of shared housing) to live alone

Choosing not to answer the phone if you are not relaxed (you can call them back later)

Chill out time- mind relaxation, the beach, country picnics, music in headphones without distractions

Walking in their shoes- ask yourself "is it unreasonable how they are approaching me or is it me reacting to that?".

A pet will ease frustration and is the best form of distraction and bringing of smiles

Uncomplicate your life! eg remove bills arriving by mail to direct debit, get that reliable car you dreamed of, have 2,5,10 year lifestyle plans and goals, grow vegies in a $50 Bunnings planter box (on your balcony if needed). Even growing herbs makes you smile and makes your soups great thereby giving you daily joy.

Accept what you cannot achieve as being unachievable. Frustration grows when you cannot become an airline pilot from year 10 education. Make your dreams realistic. Baby steps give you regular satisfaction before attempting the next goal.

Reach out. People that frustrate us more sensitive types need to perfect the thought patterns of compassion. If someone upsets us by being harsh is could be- they are indeed frustrated with us like we are of them, they have a personal problem eg physical health issue that puts them in a bad mood/pain they don't want you to know, they display only one side to themselves. By reaching out eg "are you ok? have I upset you" often they cringe and say "oh, having a bad day as my mum is ill".

Google Topic: the benefit of the doubt could save embarrassment- beyondblue

Tony WK