Bullied at work and suffering badly. Help.

[Maisymoo]

Hi all, first time poster.

Basically I was bullied at work by a fellow employee for 1.5 years. She is about 20+ years older than me and the bullying started from the day I stepped foot in that workplace. She has always spoken to me like I am smaller than her and dumb. She has sprayed me with Glen20 when I was sick, micromanaged me when she isnt my manger and SO much more. The bullying got so bad I spoke up for myself in October last year and she was spoken to. It progressively got worse but then one day she went to management and said she was going on stress leave because of me because I, "don't say hello to her nicely" I "leave the lunch room when she walks in" and more lies. Management called me in to address it with me and I had a meltdown, hysterically, said I would quit and left. I decided to be the bigger person and came back the next day. She was chuffed, over the moon with herself. Not at all someone who was "about to go on stress leave" whch mind you, she never did. ANYWAY, my employer spoke to everyone privatey who all said they witnessed me being bullied and they gave her a formal warning but kept her emoloyed. Now I am expected to continue to work with her? I cry everyday about going into work. I am desperately trying to find a new job but I cannot believe how damaged I am from it all.

Will I recover? 😞

[BballJ]

Hi Maisymoo,

I am sorry to read what you are currently going through, there is no place for work place bullying. I think it is great that your colleagues had you back and did tell management that she was bullying you. I am not aware of your companies protocol but I think they can only give her a formal warning and not just automatically fire her. They are obviously taking steps to try and stop it from happening. I think all you can currently is see if it changes her tone and attitude towards you. If it keeps up then just keep letting management know, it is not fair that you have to deal with this but I think the main thing is management is aware and would be looking out for it too. I think you will recover, the sooner you are away from this very negative person, the better it will become, it is good you are applying for new jobs as well and I hope something comes up for you quite quickly. Have you been to work since she got the formal warning? I know it is tough to go to work and no one can deny how you are feeling because I think we would all feel the same.

Please, post back as much as like, I am always happy to talk.

My best for you,

Jay