Feeling Lonely, is it normal to have two close friends?

[lostelle]

Recently I've been thinking quite a bit about my social circle, and how it seems depressing to think about. In high school I used to have a abundance of friends, people I'd see all the time and close groups to hang out with. I started University and naturally drifted from a few of those friends, but maintained a solid 5 or so friends I saw regularly.

I wasn't too concerned though because I made tonnes of new friends at uni, but as of late have drifted from them too.

I'm not left with what feels like 2 friends and I can't help but think that's all a bit sad and tragic, as I look around and most people have tonnes of friends and group chats I can't help but feel lonely and like my social life is "sad". I still go out frequently but in terms of catching up with people, it's those two friends that I have.
Not really sure why i'm posting, just hoping someone else is in the same boat because it's all I think about which is quite sad

[youth_21]

Hey lostelle,

I am in the same boat with only having really 2 really close friends. Tbh, friends are only there 5 days a week, plus most friendships in the modern world are quite superficial, especially with social media. So don't be fooled by seeing people with tons of friends thinking everyone gets along etc. Quality beats quantity any day. Your not alone. Try working on yourself instead of dwelling on what you "think" you need. Cause in the end, we only have ourselves to make us happy 🙂

[Guest_623]

Perhaps you need to rethink your situation. You have 2 close friends and still go out frequently. I don't think that even comes close to the real issue. Things are not tough yet, wait some.

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi Lostelle, I have two best friends so I understand where you're coming from. I understand what it feels like to not feel as if you have lots and lots of friends. Someone once said to me "If you have one best friend, you are already ahead". However, if it's really bothering you I don't see what would be wrong with contacting people from your high school or those university friends you've said you've drifted from a bit and see what they're up to. I'm involved in quite a few societies and clubs at universities which I have found has really broadened my social circle. Alternatively you could spend time with your friend's friends! Don't worry, you're not alone. Try not to compare your situation with others, I know that's really hard, but your life path is completely unique and like no other's.