Boyfriend being reasonable or not?

Kyra_jade
Community Member
im very confused, my boyfriend Ive been seeing for about two months now is thinking of breaking up with me because he is jealous that some of his best friends are also some of my best friends and he thinks I hang out with them too much. HELP!?!?!?!?!?!??!
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Anony18
Community Member

Hi Kyra_Jade

Have you tried speaking to him about why he has an issue with that? I would advice just having a conversation firstly why it bothers him - whether it is a matter that he does not want you being friends with them completely or just that he feels you are not spending enough time with him?

Anony

Narniakid
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hey Kyra_jade, welcome to the forums and thanks for posting!

Has he said this directly to you, that he's thinking of breaking up with you? If you've heard it from someone else, it could be a twisted message through the gossip grapevine. Mutual friends in relationships are something I have seen some of my friends deal with, and it can be tricky, but it basically comes down to how committed he is and how mature he is about it all.

The best thing you can do at the moment is sit down with a clear head and talk to him about the issue. Communication is the key to any relationship, and you need to listen to and respect his side of the story, and he needs to do the same for you, and then you can find a solution.

Good luck and let us know how you're going!

Crystal

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello Kyra_jade, this must be upsetting for you and always wonder why he feels this way, because trust is what he doesn't seem to have.
Just because you laugh, have a good time with your friends doesn't mean that anything is going to happen, so it seems as though he feels very insecure, where it may have happen in his childhood and family.
Being jealous has different meanings, one is by being threatened by another friend, and the other is envy which is a bitterness towards someone that maybe more capable to yourself, or being possessive and doesn't want anyone else to touch you.
When you want to talk to him about this he maybe coy and not want to admit to you why he feels this way, and sometimes no matter how much you try and reaffirm him that nothing will ever happen, he still may not be convinced.
I hope this doesn't happen between 2 people who love eachother. Geoff. x