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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Murphybovo Parents not letting me get help...
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Hi, This is my first post here so here we go. I am in year 12 and I am experiencing some pretty severe anxiety so I went to speak to the school counselor about it because I figured it would be a good place to start. I have since told my mum about wha... View more

Hi, This is my first post here so here we go. I am in year 12 and I am experiencing some pretty severe anxiety so I went to speak to the school counselor about it because I figured it would be a good place to start. I have since told my mum about what i am experiencing and she seems to think that for me to continue to see the counselor will be enough to help me which is just not true. I am aware that the next step for me is either to see a GP or a psychologist and I have expressed this to my mum on multiple occasions but she simply dismisses me. I was wondering if anyone has a way that I could approach this that would lead to me getting some proper treatment and a diagnosis so that I can get through year 12 because I am seriously struggling at the moment Murphybovo

meowcat headspace?
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i need someone to talk to, the only option i had was head space but im too embarrassed to go back. in the past 3 months ive had probably like 10 appoints but been to 3 i think. its really hard for me to go in or to talk on the phone so they let me em... View more

i need someone to talk to, the only option i had was head space but im too embarrassed to go back. in the past 3 months ive had probably like 10 appoints but been to 3 i think. its really hard for me to go in or to talk on the phone so they let me email them instead & ive cancelled & rescheduled or just not shown up, actually i always went i was just too afriad to go in the building, anyway they kept emailing me to go in but now theyve stopped emailing and i told them id stop bothering them so i cant ask to talk to them again, but i dont know where else to go. as well as counseling i had a doctors appointment once but then i didnt go back. i want to now but its too late i dont know what to do. like, rationally i know i could just email them but i cant because i know theyll be thinking "not this person again".i dont know what else to say and i was gonna make this all eloquent & actually have a point but im so tired, but i dont have anyone else to talk to so i just wrote it here.

Calm_Angry Pit of Anger
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A while back, I started to suppress my emotions and stopped caring what other people thought about me. But because of that, I have years of bottled up regrets and anger that I don't know how to release in a healthy way. Depending on the people I talk... View more

A while back, I started to suppress my emotions and stopped caring what other people thought about me. But because of that, I have years of bottled up regrets and anger that I don't know how to release in a healthy way. Depending on the people I talk to, I can be calm all the time or be aggressive at even the slightest jab towards my actions. I'm a very insular person and don't show my feelings on my sleeve. I don't want to be angry all the time. I just want to function normally and communicate with people properly (especially for job interviews and all that). Are there ways to release years of anger? Should I think before falling back on my sensitivities?

ThatRandomGuy I Think I Need Help
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Hi peoples, I think i need help. I've always been a shy, quiet guy who has pretty much just kept to myself and up to now i have been able to deal with this. But recently it just become to much and i have no idea what to do. I have lost all motivation... View more

Hi peoples, I think i need help. I've always been a shy, quiet guy who has pretty much just kept to myself and up to now i have been able to deal with this. But recently it just become to much and i have no idea what to do. I have lost all motivation to do anything where even getting out of bed takes all of my effort. From waking up, i will lay in bed for an extra 2-3 hours before i know i have to move, and even then i'm very hesitant about doing so. On bad days i can barely leave my room, i just don't want to. I have no reason to not go outside but whenever i think about it i just think that everything will be okay if i just stay inside. I hate this feeling, i really do. I know i shouldn't be thinking like this but i just can stop. I even have mountains of university work to complete but even trying to do that is hopeless. Its gotten to the point where i will just fill in half finished assignments because at this stage i don't even care if i pass or not. Now, i'm the kind of guy who will try handle everything by myself, so when it comes to these type of things i just think that if i keep moving forward i will be okay and that what I've been doing. The other day i was almost hit by a car, basically i was walking across the road at a crossing and the driver wasn't paying attention, turned, and almost hit me. I managed to jump out of the way, but afterwards i realized that i felt nothing. I didn't care. I didn't get angry, shout, i had no reaction at all. I literally did not say a word and just kept on walking. I didn't even care that i almost died and that's when i knew that i have to change. I've kinda always just felt like this so i didn't realize how bad i have gotten, but i took some time to think about and its true - i really don't care what happens to me. I am not actively seeking out harm but what worries me is that i will get to that stage. The thing is though that I've been living like this for so long that i don't know what else to do. I can't just keep on telling myself to 'keep moving forward' because this is where its gotten me. To a point where i have 0 motivation to do anything at all, even to care about myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. -ThatRandomGuy

AyGok Verge of a break down
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I'm literally on the verge of a mental breakdown, its at a point where one more thing that triggers my anxiety is going to tip me over the edge I can't escape my head my anxiety is just getting worse and neither professional help or medication is hel... View more

I'm literally on the verge of a mental breakdown, its at a point where one more thing that triggers my anxiety is going to tip me over the edge I can't escape my head my anxiety is just getting worse and neither professional help or medication is helping ..nothing is helping ! exteremly frustrated with everything now and my moodswings are worse than ever .. Just at a point where I'm going to lash out at someone or just going emotionally disconnect myself from everyone .

Elea One step forward, two steps back
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Hi everyone. I'm 24 and have been struggling with anxiety and depression since I was in my mid teens, but the last 6 years or so have been pretty hard and I'm scared that things will be this way forever.I feel like anxiety and depression have ruined ... View more

Hi everyone. I'm 24 and have been struggling with anxiety and depression since I was in my mid teens, but the last 6 years or so have been pretty hard and I'm scared that things will be this way forever.I feel like anxiety and depression have ruined some of the most important years of my life. I'm 24 and still struggling through university- I've dropped out of 3 different degrees over the past few years because it's been so hard to drag myself to uni and maintain the motivation to study. As you can imagine my HECS debt is pretty big at this point, and I worry about it a lot. I've lost contact with most of my friends because they understandably got sick of me making excuses for not going out with them. I've managed to hold down a job this entire time, which is something I'm proud of. But I'm just incredibly tired and lonely and sometimes I just want to give up. I can't stop comparing myself to other women my age and feeling like I'm so far behind. I've been taking antidepressants for a few months and it has helped a lot. I don't have suicidal thoughts anywhere near as much as I did, and my anxiety is a lot better. Lately I've been feeling increasingly bad again, and I feel like I can't tell my family about it because they've had to deal with me breaking down so many times before and they're probably sick of it. I've found a lot of comfort reading the posts people have made here, so just thought I'd join in. Thanks for reading. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:8.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:107%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Rubyy I'm moving schools, but I'm scared its a bad choice
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I've been having a lot of friendship issues at my school right now and it has gotten to the point where I am miserable to come to school. So I spoke to my parents and I am in the process of moving schools. I am going to be moving to a school where I ... View more

I've been having a lot of friendship issues at my school right now and it has gotten to the point where I am miserable to come to school. So I spoke to my parents and I am in the process of moving schools. I am going to be moving to a school where I do know some people and I will be happier, but I'm scared that I'm making a bad choice. I'm scared that moving schools will be a bad thing and that I will regret it once it happens. I have no idea what to do.

Zoey_S Are my emotions situational?
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I have not been formally diagnosed and I am wary to go to a GP because I am not sure if I am just feeling a normal response to my life or not. I don't feel like counseling or medication etc can help as long as my situation does not change. My current... View more

I have not been formally diagnosed and I am wary to go to a GP because I am not sure if I am just feeling a normal response to my life or not. I don't feel like counseling or medication etc can help as long as my situation does not change. My current life situation: I have had no friends for quite a few years. When I try to reach out to people I am often blown off, but then these same people will still talk to me if they have something they want from me, which makes me frustrated. I am now 20 years old and since I was 14 years old my birthday has in my head literally only served to prove how unloved I am. I have a relatively high position at my part-time job for my age, that I only took because I am super passionate. However, I feel like no one appreciates the sacrifices I make this job as a full-time uni student and there is a particular thing (not going to go into details) on which the manager and I disagree, and whenever I see her I feel like I am being attacked and that she constantly refuses to see things from a different perspective. I feel like I am not wanted or my efforts acknowledged. I am currently in the process of deciding whether to resign. My response: I am usually okay. About once every two-three weeks I might have a cry, but then I will feel better soon. Things are getting particularly bad at my job, coupled again with the fact that no one wants to hang out with me and feeling like my sacrifices were meaningless, that for the past week I have had trouble sleeping (can only fall asleep at 1-2am and then wake up again 4-5am) and am constantly crying. I also cannot find motivation to do study or exercise. I started feeling bad 3 weeks ago but only at a mild level- it has only gotten bad recently. Are my feelings because of the stress of my situation? Should I wait and see if things get better? Or is not and I would be better off going to a GP? Thanks

Sean____ Help
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My mother doesn’t understand my situation. I seek advice. I’ve never thought of registering on a website where I would obtain some advice since I thought I knew how to handle my situations. Well, this one, I can’t really handle. My mother doesn’t rea... View more

My mother doesn’t understand my situation. I seek advice. I’ve never thought of registering on a website where I would obtain some advice since I thought I knew how to handle my situations. Well, this one, I can’t really handle. My mother doesn’t really understand my problems especially how I described school as being useless (because all you do is memorise a test and then forget it the next day) and that I had other goals. I feel that I will be able to use my full potential on something I liked to do instead of being forced into doing a curriculum, passing a test and then forgetting it all the next day. I’m not going to go in depth of why I think school is useless but I’ll start out my story. I told my mother that school was useless and I had a decline of my marks from A to B – C. I showed her a video of Sir Ken Robinson’s video of Schools killing creativity and it did show the points clearly but somehow my mother doesn’t understand. She thinks that my problems will be solved if I ‘work’ harder in school. She believes that if I took the route I was taking, I will most likely never be successful but how is she to know, when I haven’t even started. As a result, whenever she came to me, she wants me to ‘study’ hard. As I have told her repeatedly to not worry about me she still does but doesn’t solve anything. She wants me to study hard. Anyways, recently, early last term I said that I didn’t want to go for my science tuition anymore, as I feel that it isn’t helping me, and I told them not to pay for the next term. My dad refused and said I had to go for this science tuition and he couldn’t get a refund. I said no. He told me that he has already booked a term of Science, regardless of me telling him that I didn’t want a science term. I declined. Eventually, he threw his tantrum at me and shouted at me numerous times continuously and I finally shouted back at him. He called the police. There was no violence. The next day, they wanted me to go for the science tuition. So I went on the website and I saw that you could get a 1000$ refund if you are not satisfied with the lesson. I was not satisfied. I told my mother that you can refund the lesson and then she said to go for the science tuition or I would need to work for the $1000. I denied and she got really pissed and shouted to just drop out school, all my tuitions and all of my sports. I am not sure what to do next. I need advice. I feel that I am the victim of all of this.

Jemma_123 When the best years of your life are the worst
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I have noticed latley no matter how nice a day it is I constantly feel that empty sad feeling inside of me, my life is not enjoyable and i dont know what to do. Growing up in my teen years my father was physically & mentally abusive which has effecte... View more

I have noticed latley no matter how nice a day it is I constantly feel that empty sad feeling inside of me, my life is not enjoyable and i dont know what to do. Growing up in my teen years my father was physically & mentally abusive which has effected me alot, although I have moved out for a few years now I waste my twentys doing nothing as I do not have the confidence do anything but watch people enjoy their life through social media while I sit on my couch. I often feel as the world keeps moving foward along with the people around me but I keep falling further & further backwards. I feel so low all the time & the only person who knows about my deppression & anxiety is my psychologist but I am to scared to see her again because I feel selfish & stupid as there are people worse off then me & I dont want to annoy her or anyone else.