Anyone else struggle with excursions?

[notmyrealname23]

I had a compulsory school excursion today and I knew it was going to be silly, so I didn't go. I hate it how they make you 'work in groups' and it's obvious I have no friends and nobody wants to work with me. I hate it how they don't give us enough information and I don't know where the toilet or the exit is and it's just so scary and overwhelming,

My Dad wrote me a note saying I couldn't go because I had a dentist appointment but the principal called my Mum asking why I didn't go. My Mum's really mad at me for lying and the principal is going to tell me off tomorrow and I know I'm going to break down and cry when she yells at me.

I'm so scared. I just keep ripping out my hair in big clumps and I wish I didn't have to lie about not going. I'm a good student, I always do my work 100%, but just because I don't go I'm considered a troublemaker. Anybody else struggle with this?

[white knight]

Hi 23, welcome

Never be scared of the truth.

Eg tomorrow before the principle finds you, find her and tell her you have something important to explain to her.

Then when alone tell her you have a big problem that needs challenging. You are very nerbous in public places so much so that you convinced your dad to tell a fib. You are sorry for misleading her and it wont happen again- that only the truth will be told. But you know it has to be addressed and youll attend your GP doctor soon to talk about it.

You'll feel much better telling her all of this. Also she will see some maturity in this action which is a good thing.

Telling the truth is a brave action.

Tony WK

[Zeal]

Hey,

Welcome to the forum!

In high school, activities and events made me nervous too. I skipped Year 9 camp, which was considered compulsory for students. I was diagnosed with OCD/anxiety at the start of Year 8, and started seeing a psychiatrist. Because the Year 9 camp involved survival skills, my anxiety would have been a major issue. My Mum rang the school and explained the situation. Because my Mum was honest and open with the school staff, they were understanding. Like you, I was a good student.

Like Tony said, being honest is crucial. Tell your Mum and Dad that social anxiety is causing you a lot of discomfort and fear, and that you find this difficult to talk about. Tomorrow when you see the principal, briefly apologise and say you get very socially anxious and find excursions difficult for this reason. Seeing your school counsellor is a good idea. These appointments are confidential, and they should be free.

I hope tomorrow goes alright. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and this skipped excursion can be apologised for. Your principal will move on from this matter.

Please tell us how it goes 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal