Struggling

[Kelpie_mum]

I really feel like I'm out of control with myself. My inner demons come out every few years. I've had on going issues since I was a child.

If I don't be careful I could lose everything. I don't know how to stop.

I have been drinking so much and doing risky things. Gambling, secretly drinking, had an connection with another man that my husband now knows about. And he is going to stay with me.

I think I'm going through a midlife crisis. Also our house flooded and we havnt been home since February.

Everything was going well up until that point and it's triggered me.

I don't know how to turn my life around right now....I have all the work booklets information at my fingertips from previous councilling but I seem to not want to do the work to change.

Thanks for reading

[Mark Z.]

Hi Kelpie_mum,

I'm so sorry for your challenge, I can imagine it must be frustrating for you.
I'm not a professional but I can give some suggestions:

- Be open and honest with your support network: Share your feelings and experiences with your husband, friends, or family members who can offer support, understanding, and encouragement.

- Self-reflection: Take some time to reflect on your actions and emotions, and try to understand why you're engaging in these behaviors. This can help you identify patterns and find ways to break the cycle.

- Develop healthy coping mechanisms to gradually replace alcohol: Instead of turning to alcohol or other risky behaviors, try to develop healthy coping mechanisms like exercise, meditation, journaling, or engaging in hobbies you enjoy. To Cope with Alcohol, I know it's not easy, you can try Counselling ONLINE, for free online 24/7 drug and alcohol counselling: https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/

- Set small, achievable goals: Break down your larger goals into smaller, more manageable steps. Celebrate your progress as you reach each milestone.

- Join a support group: Connecting with others who are experiencing similar issues can provide a sense of community and understanding. Support groups can also be a great source of encouragement and advice.

- Revisit your counseling materials, it's important: Even though you may feel resistant, try to revisit your previous counseling materials and apply the techniques and strategies you've learned in the past.

- Focus on self-care: Prioritize taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Hope it helps a bit and everything will be better.
Mark

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

Mark Z has covered it all so well.

I've had a flood back in 1989 but luckily ater dudnt enter our house, seeing one acre under water was a shock. 

I feel once you settle again you'll be a different person. Your husband must be an incredible guy so you do have some things to build on. 

Diversion will help and the best type is one you can join with hubby like sports footy etc or hobby.

Some of us fall on unstable times. We'll done in reaching out

TonyWK