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Stressed Working Mum

Heart_On_Sleeve
Community Member

Hi, I’m new today because feel like I have no one to talk to, well no one close that understands me being so emotional all the time. The smallest thing especially at work really upsets me.

Today I was pulled aside at work for being late. Yes I was late Monday 15 mins (not great) Tuesday & Wednesday 8 minutes and all times phoned in as a new policy to phone boss and tell him. Not making excuses but my daughter has been sick past three days and had to spend extra time to make sure she was ok before frantically drove to work like a maniac trying to arrive on time. While leaving her at home alone until Nanna arrived.

Feeling sooo stressed out because don’t want to loose my job for taking time off or god forbid be just 5-8 mins late due to traffic. I always take a shorter lunch break if late, not hard because I get an hour. Most days don’t take my full hour and most days arrive on time. I feel like a child in primary school like the bell rang and you’re late.

Nearly every place I have worked for notice that you’re late today and every day you’re late but nothing else. Your professionalism, hard work, staying back after knock off, being loyal and doing your damn best. Doesn’t matter to them but arriving at 8:30 on the dot during peak hour is critical.

I feel like a pleb like a nobody. I worked up the career ladder and considered myself a professional worker. After being made redundant and having young kids decided to take a back step to a high pressure role. And yes get hired because I have great experience + willing to work in less paid job. But there’s no give and take here especially for a Mum running a marathon before even arriving to work “8 mins late” 🤭.

Today I feel at a loose end. Feeling worthless, belittled and just want to say jam your job but can’t.

Wondering if anyone has similar balancing work life issues especially mornings and the whole taboo of getting to work on time?

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Aaronsis
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello Heart on Sleeve

Welcome to the forum and I hear you so very very loud and clear, it is sooo much doing the juggling act of working and parenting and you are so not alone. I am just so disappointed that your work place is not appreciating you and are focusing on the minutes you are late and not the contribution you are making in your role, that is just so hurtful as well as very stressful.

I can see you now, driving like a maniac to get to work so you are not minutes late, this is not great at all and your manager should also acknowledge that you have a family and if you are involved in an accident as a result of driving emotionally to work that has significant effects to your family..and to the work place.

I am wondering if you have an HR department that you can talk to someone and express what you have said here and explain that you have young children at you are going through a tough time as one is not well, that you are doing what you can which in turn makes you a little late, that you are making up the time as you take your role seriously. Please ask them to see that this is not your usually behaviour and you are not lazy or unmotivated you are being a parent. That with some support and understanding from your manager that you will actually be more productive at work as you will feel supported, not judged and treated like a primary school child.

It is so disheartening to feel like a number and not be appreciated at work, I am so sorry this is happening to you. I can see it is really impacting you and that is really sad.

I hope to chat to you some more and see how you feel about a chat to HR.

Hugs to you Heart on Sleeve

AS

Thank you for your kind and understanding reply. I appreciate it. I feel much better today and not so upset like yesterday. Like mentioned the smallest thing will trigger me off to feel so down and sad. We don’t have HR, and really no management except for being pulled up for running late. It’s a free for all at my new job, left to just do our jobs. Good in someways but if there is conflict or issues then we’re left to sort it out ourselves. Will see if want to stick around after Christmas x

Hello Heart On Sleeve

I am so very happy to hear that you are feeling better today, we all have crappy days so i am glad that you could come and get some comfort here.

I think that is a wonderful idea to perhaps have a look around after Christmas and see what is out there as far as another role goes. It would make the world of difference to you to feel supported and to feel appreciated at work, there are so many good places that do it well, you most certainly don't need the extra pressure of work when you are trying to juggle family too.

I am so happy you are feeling better.

Hope to chat some more.

AS