Hello and welcome,
So glad you have reached out to us,
I don't think you are being selfish at all, your partner sounds like he has a narcisstic streak that has worn down your self-confidence. Who is it saying you are not good enough to raise 3 healthy and happy kids alone, is that his voice? Or yours?
I can understand you are feeling anxious about the change, but at the same time, the situation you are currently in is not healthy for you or your kids. Do you have any support from family or friends to talk this through? I know you said they are not around but not sure if this means they are at a distance or they are no longer here.
I think it would be helpful to talk to the helplines when you are feeling overwhelmed with anxiety, I will add a few of them below for you. I will also include one for your children in case they feel the need to talk to someone other than yourself. Kids can be quite resilient when they feel safe, so that will need to be your focus. Talk to them in an honest way so they can process this change in their lives. They will pick up on whatever you are feeling so it's important to look after yourself in order to look after them. It's like what they tell you on an aircraft, put your own mask on first so you can then help others.
Have you had a talk with your GP about how you are feeling? This is an important step if you haven't done so already. There is help available to you, so be sure to ask your GP and the helplines about supports in your area.
We will be here to support you when you need to talk, it's a very safe and kind community.
These helplines are all available 24/7:
Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636
1800Respect - 1800 737 732
Lifeline - 13 11 14
Kid's Helpline - 1800 55 1800 (up to age 25years)
I hope this is of some help to you, please feel free to continue the conversation if you are comfortable doing so.
Take care,
indigo
