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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Lost and fearful

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Hello there, I thought id never need this kind of help but it seems i was wrong.I'm a male 55 years old and although i have never had a good life it until the last couple of years been ok i guess.Keeping it simple for now about 2 years ago i tore my achilies tendon in leg and ever since then things have not gone right.I am a diabetic type 2 so my injuries became complicated and long drawn out still ongoing.Because of these Ive virtually had to stop full time work just using last of leave now after 33 years in same job.With no real income right now i applied to centerlink but was told i earned to much due to these payments. This also meant i did not get aa concession card to help out. Medical visits 4 or so times a week to various sections does not help either. not to mention the costs of meds etc.I did finally get a superannuation insurance claim but its tiny and don't know how long it will keep up .I have no family,no friends anywhere near to help so im doing this alone. Ive seen my gp he has sent me to see a mental health professional end of this week but its a lot of money per session.My head is going round and round all the time asleep or awake. Lost, confused and fearful of the future with this. Thank anyone who reads this.

What is up with me ?

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Hi,Ive never done this before. I don't even know where to start. Let's start with my bad self esteem lol, which i guess is kinda linked to my other problem of anxiety. Here is how i feel: I struggle socially and because of this i guess i constantly compare myself to others, and how good socially they are. I shouldn't i know. But its difficult. I see friends hang out, i see groups of kids all laughing and having fun and think how easy that must be. I can't help but feel why am i so like this? Why do i feel drained when i do socialize? I feel out of place. I also feel like i have to fit into a mold so people will just think that im a good person. I am always worried about what people think of me. I guess i can be described as a people pleaser, and i know i shouldn't be. But my mind is overwhelmed with all these thoughts and feelings, like "what if they like me or hate me. What if they don't want to hang out with me? Oh yea they have their own group they all love hanging out they wouldn't like me. Im a boring person i guess." I just feel out of place. Not only do i have these feelings, but hanging out with others is difficult. I need a few days to process the thought of hanging out with others. I HATE THIS. I wish i could just be that person who is confident and doesn't care about what others think, who finds it easy to socialize, who finds it easy to make friends with every body. I hate this about myself - how I am. As a result, my self esteem is low and when i think about these things i don't feel joy. I just feel out of place in this world. Like i want coping strategies and i want support. I don't exactly know what to do. My parents are always so supportive and loving but idk i just feel like I need more than this. I want to feel different - i want to be joyful with others. I want to feel comfortable with others and myself. I want to not care what others think. But i want to be that person who is full of confidence and can talk to others without feeling like they don't want me or they are just being nice. I want an open personality! Anyway, idk.

Where to begin

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Hi, as per the title where to begin.., I have finally come to terms that I need help to like myself again, I’m tired of the constant daily battles and the wearing of a mask pretending yep I’m all good. In reality I’m far from good and the daily battle of fighting to stay in the light is slowly being conceded. Im looking for help but all I come up with is yes we can help but in 4 or 6 weeks, possibly this is selfish but I don’t want to wait as that gives me time to make excuses and put it off. Not even sure if this will get any responses but I have to try. I’m in south east Melbourne, work in the city, any recommendations or assistance of which direction or advise would be appreciated more than uou will ever know - rob

Feeling lost

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Hi I am currently 43 and feeling very lost and unhappy all the time.I did not have the best upbringing and have strived to make myself a better person. I was in juvenile detention at 14 years of age after living on the streets. I found my real mother passed away and unfortunately due to father not dealing well my sisters and I were placed in homes My father remarried and my relationship with my stepmother was never right sometimes traumatic for me.I left the situation I was in and begun a new life rebuilding relationship with my father. Since the death of my father his last words were to promise him to look after my stepmother which I have done to my best ability but have also forgotten about my partner, son and my own happiness. I suffer quite bad anxiety and depression and feel I don't fit in anywhere. My son had just turned 18 my partner of 20 years is leaving me.I guess I'm just curious if it's me,my problem or is there something I can do.Many thanks in advance

Traumatised from work

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Hi guys, I’m 27 years old and been working in hospitality industry for 7 years now. I have had some terrible experiences with work, co workers and employers.I used to be very self motivated, hard working and dedicated with work.I burnt myself out because I was a people pleaser and tried to help everybody when I could, I realised I had to change and set boundaries if I want to be healthy with my life outside of work. I started to speak up and said no, but people werent happy with the change I made.I used to get bullied, personally attacked and told i was not good enough. Gaslight and manipulation were part of my day at work. I was so traumatised, I was in my early 20s and was dealing with social phobia (social anxiety), I was worried whether my co-worker and the regular customers would like me or not, what they would think about me, and whether they would judge me or not. I always tried to control what they think, I worried so much that I lost myself in my head, I felt dizzy and felt sick in my stomach. I lost my job because of my anxiety, my overthinking pattern. It affected me until today. I still struggle with getting back to work, because I’m always scared about something bad would happen, people wouldnt like the way I work. But lately, I’ve been trying to find a new job that suits me and I try to speak my mind if something doesnt align with me, is that bad? Trying to speak up and set boundary from the beginning, rather than being a yes-man and burning myself out in the end. I still think we are still in work culture where we always have to say yes to be able accepted in a company. We can’t speak our mind and let people see our perspective. I’m still so traumatised, Im scared that I wont be able to find a job that I can stay for a long period of time. What am i gonna do if i dont work? Im really scared right now i cant even eat even though im hungry, my head is spinning because of stress. What should I do???

Hi, I just joined

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Hi i'm kind of new to this but has anyone else just been sad for no apparent reason? like you cry sometimes and you don't exactly know why? and random words and actions from other people hurt you more than it should?

In over my head

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I'm exhausted. Mentally and emotionally. Work is really getting to me. We're short staffed so I've stepped up, but my stress and anxiety had skyrocketed. I am trying to do a good job but the workload is overwhelming and I'm just feeling like I'm not cut out for the higher duties I've taken on. My boss doesn't help. Just tries to coach, doesn't offer help or solutions when I ask for them. It actually makes me feel even more inadequate. I used to like my work. Now I hate it. I'm always worried about it, and it's taking away from my family life. I'm working ridiculous hours because there is so much work. I am drowning but there's no way out.

Stole and feel like the scum of the Earth

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I feel like a terrible person. I know I should have thoughts like “no I’m not, I’m just someone who did a bad thing.” And I know there are people who would disagree and say, yes, this does make me a bad person. I don’t know what to think anymore. I work for someone’s small business and I took money on three shifts out of desperation. There is no excuse for this. I didn’t have enough for rent, my phone, water, medication, car, and groceries. I am stressed out of my mind from uni and I have been unsuccessful in my job interviews as I have been looking for a second job because of money stress. I know this isn’t an excuse and it doesn’t make it okay. It was a terrible thing to do, taking from a small business because I know my employer trusted me enough to leave me alone with the cash box while they went to the bathroom. They have things they need to pay for as well, and I realise that now. I don’t know what came over me. I plan on giving this money back and a little more for damage because I feel horrible but this is my only job and I’m terrified of losing it without a backup. I know I should have thought of this before I stole but I didn’t. I thought I needed to do this. My employer sent me a message telling me they noticed money was missing from those shifts and if I had just been counting my change wrong. I know this wasn’t the case. But I’m terrified. I know I need to do what’s right and give it back but I’m so scared. I meant no harm but I know this must have had consequences for them. I guess I’m just asking for advice on what to do from here. I know I have to face the harsh consequences, whatever it might be. I know if I give it back, they might rightfully not want to work with me anymore. Do I wait until I have another job to fall back on? Do I just do it at my next shift? Do I tell them I was just counting change very wrong and just never do this again? The fact I am considering this makes me feel horrible. I think I know people are going to say “just give it back with a sincere apology asap” and I really do want to. I am scared. I can’t help but feel like a terrible person and I’m questioning why I even did this. I know why but it doesn’t make it right. It shouldn’t matter what I feel because I’ve done somebody wrong. I really am sorry.

Relocation sadness

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hello, I am 38 female and 3 months ago moved to a remote community for a promotion and absolutely hate it and struggle to get up out of bed for work. I have worked for this company for 20 years I am sad all the time which means I am falling behind at work and because I am a leader my team are falling further behind and I know my mental health is now a liability for the business I work for.I have an appointment with doctor on Monday to get mental health plan but feel like I need to relocate back home and put my mental health first Needing advice from people who have left their job due to mental health

Just Joined Hello

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Hello everyone I have just joined and though I would just lay down some feelings which is so hard for me, I am lost in life I have had some big changes and heart acks, I had to give up my job and become a career for my partner and I have a stepdaughter with mental illness as well, I am going through the motions of cooking and cleaning which I hate but I have no joy, I have no motivation to do anything I looked at the local Man's Shed for support but there they are making stuff to help them, I don't have the mental energy to do that I just wanted to be around people and talk, I walk the dog each day to get out of the house but that doesn't seem to do much.

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