Dear Poony
Welcome to the forum. The people who post here are friendly and helpful and we have all gone through some trauma or other so have a good idea of how others feel. I am sorry you are in such a hard situation. Do you have any ideas on what you want to do or to happen?
These situations are always difficult. Do you have children? How do they manage this? It's hard to tell anyone what to do because, in part, no one knows you well but mainly because it is your decision. However I will suggest some steps that may help you. We often say here to go and have a chat with your GP. They are such fantastic people and can help a lot.
Are you hurt in any way? I suspect you are damaged psychologically and need some help in that area. Tell your GP how life is with your partner and ask for help. The doctor may refer you for counselling, to get some help in managing the situation or leaving. You may also benefit from taking some medication though that's not what you want.
Your story is very similar to mine and I stayed for 30 years. I left and bought a house of my own. Life has not always been easy but overall I am so glad I eventually left. My children had all grown up and left home and I think that was the final reason to leave. You may be thinking along different lines which is why I suggest seeing your doctor and getting some counselling. Decide what you want to do.
When it comes to this stage I know women get a bit nervous and think they cannot manage on their own. You can. There is also a guilty feeling and wondering what your children will say. It's nothing to do with them. You are the only person who can make this decision and you need to think about what's best for you. Book a long appointment and see how you feel afterwards.
Carry on posting here especially if it helps.
Mary
