The warmest of welcomes to you, SleepyRain 🙂
Of course, everyone's different but for me I find the easiest place to start is with how I feel or how I'm feeling life, situations, people, my inner dialogue etc. For example, I might get a sense at times of myself
- twisting in the wind with no sense of direction
- feeling completely lost, again with no sense of direction
- not being able to feel high end emotions
- not being able to feel any inspiration from anything or anyone
- feeling such a lack of energy to the point where it's seriously depressing
- feeling the kinds of people who bring me down or stress me out
and the list goes on. That's the thing with being a feeler, there's so much to feel, sometimes to the point of having to sift out exactly what it is I'm feeling. Can be hard at times. I think what's even harder is when we've kinda been taught or conditioned to suppress feelings just about our whole life, rather than question them and explore them. I tend look at it as 'Okay, while I've been conditioned to stop sensing how I feel, now I'm being challenged to come to my senses or come back to them'. Amazing how, as kids, we might have been a highly sensitive ranter or venter in relation to sensing what we felt as great injustice. This is also known as 'having a full blown highly expressive tantrum'. While that freedom fighter may be conditioned out of us over time or smacked out of us or even beaten out of us (as is the case for some), the people pleaser is conditioned into us. Then, as adults, we may find our self becoming more and more intolerant when it comes to struggling with injustice (dished out by a triggering boss, a challenging partner etc). While some may say 'You need to learn to control your anger', others may question 'Can you sense the intolerant freedom fighter in you gradually coming back to life? What are you on the verge of fighting for? What is the injustice you feel?'.
