I need to find the courage

[lilly2016]

Have you ever been faced with something you have to do no matter what, but you cannot breath just thinking about doing it? That's how I feel, I have to face an issue, a big workplace problem, that I created, I have to face the humiliation, the wrath of my boss and face possible dismissal tomorrow and my anxiety is attacking me. My heartbeat is racing and I cannot eat or sleep,but I must face this. I feel sick, I have no support and I just want the ground to swallow me whole. I have no courage, I'm not brave, my face is hot from the stress and I feel like I'm going to pass out, imagine when the alarm goes off! I don't know what to do with my fear holding me back. I don't even know if I can do this.

[SPOONO]

I'm pretty sure you can by these simple steps. Sit down and write what the issues are and how you are involved. Look at them and write what you think the best solutions will be. The main thing is to get it written down so you don't have to remember this will help you to sleep. My very best and hoping things work out fine, whatever happens things work out. Nobodies going to hurt you and you know you've done your best. Even in preparing what you are going to say.

[baet123]

Hey Lilly,

Sorry to hear that your struggling at present. What your experiencing is quite normal but I am sure things will turn around.

You mention that you have a big workplace problem. You don't have to tell us what the problem is but is your employer aware of the situation and have you spoken to your employer about a possible resolution to your problem? Having open and honest dialogue/correspondence is always beneficial in these types of situations.

You mention you have no support. Do you have any workplace colleagues your close to or any friends and family that your able to discuss your matter with?

You are extremely brave and courageous as posting on these forums and expressing your emotions in a public sphere takes a great deal of courage and bravery.

My thoughts are with you and I know you will get through this.

You may want to try a few of these techniques to help you relax and slow your heart rate and your mind from going a million miles an hour:

1) Deep breaths! Yes, cliche but slow deep steady breaths in and out works.

2) Minimise your consumption of caffeine and sugar.

3) Get enough rest and physical activity.

4) Follow the 3-3-3 rule: Look around you and name three things you see. Then, name three sounds you hear. Finally, move three parts of your body -- your ankle, fingers, or arm. Whenever you feel your brain going 100 miles per hour, this mental trick can help centre your mind, bringing you back to the present moment.

Hope this helps Lilly.

Nick.