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LQ23
Community Member
Hi I’m not sure where to start I’ve let the people I care about down and don’t know how to make it right
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Aaronsis
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi LQ23

I have no doubt how alone and scared and full of worry you have been, what a very tough time. It is in the past now and you can look forward. You have done a very brave thing today and it may not seem like it just yet as it is all so very raw and fresh, but please try to do something for you today that makes you feel good. You have done a huge thing and it is so very positive. Well done.

AS

MyLadyGirl
Community Member

Hello LQ23,

I am so happy that things works all the best for you. You did very well explaining you reason and your ex boss is an understanding towards your situation. Did you know you have cared for the person without letting the person down as you took the first step. It's shows that you are not what you think you were. You are more then that. I am so proud of you that despite being anxious and worried you were calm explained things to your ex boss. Because you were truthful to your self, the truth were on your side. Now you can move on to the next phase.

LQ23
Community Member

Thank you MyLadyGirl

my interview went really well and was shown where I would be sitting and the other staff welcomed me on board so guess I got the job! Anyway my boss is now threatening me with jail so that has now thrown a spammer in the work. I have also told my parents who are equally devastated and I totally understand, I’ve hurt so badly my husband my gorgeous and parents and old work colleagues. I haven’t the courage to tell my 20 year old daughter it would destroy her - can anyone provide me with the strength to face this please

Aaronsis
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello LQ23

I am so very happy for you that you have a new role and that you can look forward to a new working career, that is so awesome so well done to you.

I hear how sad and disappointed you are in yourself and that you feel your actions have made your parents devastated, you are hurt for believing you have made your ex work colleagues disappointed and the worry of your daughter being upset too. I am wondering how you would feel about being open and honest with your daughter, I feel that the potential of her finding out is probably there and it would be so much better her hearing it from you. You can explain to her exactly how ashamed you are and what you have done so very bravely to stand up and own what you have done and are in the process of making it right. I hear that you are very scared she too will feel disappointment, however it is important I feel that she hears it directly from you. It shows her you respect her enough to admit your faults and that you respect her enough to tell her yourself. It also shows her that people make mistakes and that it is how you get back up from them is most important.

You are doing everything right to get through this really emotional and heartbreaking time. I feel like it would be best that you manage what you can control, in that I mean your family and keep talking and being honest with them and doing all the things you can to make amends and then if a court case is raised against you later on in the picture you will have your family's support and comfort. That is not a certain so I think perhaps try not to role play in your head how that will play out as it may not.

I am so very proud of how brave and how well you have managed this situation, every credit to you LQ23.

Here to chat and give you the comfort and the support you need at this time, hugs to you.

AS

LQ23
Community Member
Hi MyLadyGirl hoping you got my recent post - it has all turned to crap now my parents are supporting me but I feel like my world is ending- I know my boss wants his money back and I totally understand that - getting the police involved is not going to get him money back but hurt a lot of people - please show me strength

LQ23
Community Member

Thank you AS. My doctors appointment went well today other than I have high blood pressure and anxiety but he also feels that going to seek help for my mental illness will be a strong step. My family are of course dubious that me admitting to my issues may not help as my illness has been going on for over 20 years-I guess I have been placing it in my head in the ‘forget all about’ space and now it’s come back to wake up and admit you are a criminal

MyLadyGirl
Community Member

I am so happy that you had a job. Well done and congratulation.

You have a lot of strength that you do not know. You took courage and strength to move on with a new job. You had your family support that shows that they trusted you. With that you have gain more energy.

I agree with you that involving the force will not help. Have you talked to your boss of paying him with an installment or some scheme. Can your family help pay him and you pay him?

Be strong and think positive as I know that your problem will solve soon

LQ23
Community Member
Thank you so much MyLadyGirl and AS. My sisters know now as my dad told my mum and them! I feel really empty and down in a black hole that I can’t crawl my way out of now! I can’t sleep at all I’m awake all night and I’m not sure what is happening

LQ23
Community Member

Hi MyLadyGirl well I didn’t get the job in the end as they obviously rang my old boss and he would not have been very favourable so I guess that job has been lost. My husband said it’s probably better to focus on my health so I am going to visit my parents on the coast

MyLadyGirl
Community Member

Good day LQ23. I am so sorry that you did not get the job. Going to a new place would be good at least you can have a fresh air. Your parents would be great for you to voice out. They are concern about you. Can you keep us update on your well being. Take care