I'm new and need some advice and help please :(

Toby1977
Community Member

Hi everyone, Needing some advice badly here 😞

Basically why i'm here is am struggling myself a lot at the moment I'm trying to sort my relationship out with the person I am madly in love with. The thing is it's all been really bad timing, I've battled depression and anxiety for so many years at least 20 I know everything about it. My partner I met 5 months ago and we fell in love very quickly, I'm 41 years old and I finally found true love it's a beautiful thing I have to say and I love my partner so very much. Unfortunately I made a huge blunder and woke up one morning and asked her to take me back to my unit I was still renting, I had spoken to the real estate about moving out and asking them to find a new tennant. I had been under a tremendous amount of stress when I made the biggest mistake in up and leaving no explanation :(. My relationship of 8 years had broken down last November and I have a 6 years old daughter from this relationship. The mother of my daughter has been almost impossible to deal with using our little girl against me and not letting me see her :(, I had been dealing with this since last november plus all the stress of everything else monving into my own place, still going to work and functioning as normal as I could, it's been tough I have to say. For the last two months I've been trying to work out things with my partner I met 5 months ago. We both love each other very very much and everyone knows it. More bad news came when she contacted me and had said to me she was 4 weeks pregnant and lost our baby :'(. We were patching things up at the time and it drew us closer again, we have had our ups and downs since then with her car breaking down and needing $2000 worth of repairs done to it, plus she has had her friend staying at her house for 3 months and it hasn't gone so well I have to say. It's put alot of stress onto her and I've been there as much as I could for her through this time it's been so hard we haven't been able to see each other as much as we've wanted. Plus now she is really badly depressed understandably :(. I'm trying to be here for her as much as I can by telling her I'm here to support her and to let me help her through this tough time it's best to have someone there for you as I've tried to explain many times. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Ive ran out of room I had to delete a lot but I can respond again later I guess...

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startingnew
Community Member

Hi Toby

Yesterday sounded both good and bad

Did you want to talk about that happened after your drs appointment- it seemed it went south after that?

It went south after I spoke about our relationship with the woman im in love with 😞

startingnew
Community Member
sorry to hear that Toby, did you want to talk about it?