I'm new and need some advice and help please :(

[Toby1977]

Hi everyone, Needing some advice badly here 😞

Basically why i'm here is am struggling myself a lot at the moment I'm trying to sort my relationship out with the person I am madly in love with. The thing is it's all been really bad timing, I've battled depression and anxiety for so many years at least 20 I know everything about it. My partner I met 5 months ago and we fell in love very quickly, I'm 41 years old and I finally found true love it's a beautiful thing I have to say and I love my partner so very much. Unfortunately I made a huge blunder and woke up one morning and asked her to take me back to my unit I was still renting, I had spoken to the real estate about moving out and asking them to find a new tennant. I had been under a tremendous amount of stress when I made the biggest mistake in up and leaving no explanation :(. My relationship of 8 years had broken down last November and I have a 6 years old daughter from this relationship. The mother of my daughter has been almost impossible to deal with using our little girl against me and not letting me see her :(, I had been dealing with this since last november plus all the stress of everything else monving into my own place, still going to work and functioning as normal as I could, it's been tough I have to say. For the last two months I've been trying to work out things with my partner I met 5 months ago. We both love each other very very much and everyone knows it. More bad news came when she contacted me and had said to me she was 4 weeks pregnant and lost our baby :'(. We were patching things up at the time and it drew us closer again, we have had our ups and downs since then with her car breaking down and needing $2000 worth of repairs done to it, plus she has had her friend staying at her house for 3 months and it hasn't gone so well I have to say. It's put alot of stress onto her and I've been there as much as I could for her through this time it's been so hard we haven't been able to see each other as much as we've wanted. Plus now she is really badly depressed understandably :(. I'm trying to be here for her as much as I can by telling her I'm here to support her and to let me help her through this tough time it's best to have someone there for you as I've tried to explain many times. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Ive ran out of room I had to delete a lot but I can respond again later I guess...

[startingnew]

Hi Toby

walking 12ks is amazing! i barely am able to much more than a half hr stroll.

i hope your Gp appointment goes well for you, and that you can get the support that you need.

Have you been for your walk yet? maybe that will help... or a drive somewhere, watching movies, wash the car,? i do these things too and sometimes it helps me. The waiting is usually the hardest, feels like forever even if its only a few hrs.

[Toby1977]

Yes I certainly have I've been doing heaps of things m y housework, my walk this morning early, garbbed a coffee from mcdonald's, watching a movie I might ask the doctor for something temporary for the anxiety it's pretty bad 😞

[quirkywords]

Toby,

I am glad therising and startingnew have shown you how welcoming, friendly and supportive, this forum is.

I have read your posts and you do have a lot to cope with but you seem to be more positive . I hope the appointment with your doctor goes well and you feel understood.

I can see you are trying hard to support your partner .

I think when you look after yourself you may be able to support your partner and help both of you through these hard times.

Quirky

[startingnew]

Speaking to your GP about medications sounds like a good idea. try to be as honest as you can with them so they can get a good idea of how your feeling.

[Toby1977]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[Toby1977]

I intend to be completely honest with my doctor, I know when something isn't right and I'm struggling so much racing thoughts, over thinking, panic attacks the full works 😞

[startingnew]

Hi Toby

i hope your appointment with your gp went well today

[Toby1977]

Hi there starting new 🙂 yes it did I opened up about everything he was very understanding and listened so well to my entire story, I've been put on a mental health care plan 🙂 Im just waiting to hear back from the gp's psychology team for an appointment with the counsellor. I have some better news also on my relationship front, the one I've been trying to sort out for the last 2 months and she wants to have lunch today I sent her a heartfelt text saying how much I love her and miss her, and that this kind of love only ever comes around once in a lifetime. She responded with I will have lunch with you tommorrow and talk 🙂 Fingers crossed thats a good sign

[Toby1977]

I think she is still sleeping ;( it's horrible she is sleeping so long then she wakes up and panics and feels bad that ive been waiting for her all day, but I just wait and I justb sent a message asking if she was ok I was worried 😞 it really is the worst situation my anxiety makes me think the worst things 😞

[Toby1977]

WORST DAY OF MY LIFE :'(((