It is an amazing journey you have taken. Cabanatuan was a little like Sri Lanka in that I couldn't talk about being gay out of that same fear. The people that I knew there don't talk to me any more. My dad is like that too, me being gay does not exist for him. But I think the other parts of that relationship are worth it even if he does upset me with what he sometimes says. It's complicated I guess.
Hi Kevin, Just a note about talking to your GP. Go for it. Everything you talk to your GP about is covered by privacy laws. So it is all strictly confidential. So any prospective employer cannot ask your GP about you. (There may be a very few cases where they can - very high level government jobs (jobs in which you need higher that 'top secret' security level clearance). But they would tell you that before the job application.)
Here I am at the other end of the day. I've been thinking, it seems from what you have said that making your own group of friends closer to your age would help and is probably the thing to start doing first. If you stay in that relationship or leave it might be down to what the alternative looks like, but I'm not sure that is as important to you right now. Regardless remember to do those little things that keep you happy.
So good to hear from you. Thank you for the advice. There's lots to consider. I will think, reflect, and decide what's best for my health, happiness, and well-being in the long-run.
