Hi all!!!! First timer here 😀

[Evie79]

Hi all my name is Evie,

i have been suffering from anxiety and depression on and off for many years now, I am a mother of two and been married for nearly 16 yrs.

I am hoping I can get advise from fellow sufferers and just to have general chit chat with people dealing with the same illness.

Looking forward to hearing from you 😀😀

[geoff]

hi Evie, I'm sorry if I have upset you and I meant nothing untoward by saying that, it was just to see how she is coping, because when anyone of us has depression we can tend to close off from those who we love.
It was not as a derogatory remark so I apologise immensely.
I realise that this is your post and a concerning one, and all the attention should be related back to the person who has posted their comment, and on this occasion, it's you, and I feel very sorry that you have suffered from depression and anxiety for such a long time, as I know personally that it restricts what we can do.
Please accept my upmost apologies. Geoff. x

[blondguy]

Hi Evie

I was just popping in to see how you were traveling.....I woke up wide awake this morning at 4:45am...ugh! and sent the post above to you.

Hope you are doing okay

Paulxx

[Evie79]

Hi Paul,

im doing pretty good today thankyou, been keeping busy looking after my husband as he has severe bronchitis. I hate when you can't sleep it wrecks you for the next day and you can't be stuffed doing anything 😞 but unfortunately you have to try to solider on especially when you have kids.

I HATE ANXIETY it is the worst feeling in the world and you feel like you are going to die, would not wish this upon my worst enemy.

As I said before I am so glad that I am part of this journey because it takes a lot of guts to do something like this and I'm thankful that I'm going to meet friends on here with the same or similar minds.

Would just like to know if you can chat to people about their interests etc???

Happy thoughts 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀

Evie xxx

[pipsy]

Hi Evie. How goes it? The insomnia can be unbelievable, I suffer it too. You start to fall asleep, so off to bed you go, only to 'wake up' the minute your head touches the pillow. You seem to spend the rest of the night trying to go back to sleep. The harder you try, the more wide awake you become. It's a vicious merry-go-round. I find I'm tired during the day, but wide awake most nights. As you said, you wake up and you start fidgeting. You mentioned in an earlier post your hormone levels seem fine, suggesting early menopausal symptoms are not causing your anxiety. I'm wondering, though, if there could possibly be a hormonal imbalance. Even though menopause has been ruled out, imbalances aren't always picked up initially. Some of your symptoms seem to suggest a hormone problem (not necessarily menopause) but if there is an imbalance, you maybe need to get reassessed. Is your blood pressure okay? You've had this 6 years, obviously something has been missed. With all due respect to Dr's, they're not infallible. Perhaps a reassessment of your AD's to start with, then maybe check your hormones for an imbalance. You get agro, which indicates mood swings, again, hormonal. AD's can cause problems in the hormone department, they sometimes cause menopausal symptoms. Are you suffering headaches?

Hope you don't mind the questions, I'm 65, so hormonal problems, been there, done that, so to speak. Maybe a female specialist might be of assistance.

Lynda.

[Evie79]

Hi Lynda,

i still believe to this day that I have anxiety because of hormone imbalance, I am on blood pressure tablets due to slight high blood pressure. I'm at the point in my life that I want to go get a hysterectomy I have enquired about it but the docs say I'm too young... I'm 36 but I am not having any other children, and a few of my friends who are in their 40's have had the same symptoms with anxiety etc and have had the hysterectomy and they say that their anxiety has gone and they feel great.

I had one doctor say to me when I asked her about it " that's a bit extreme isn't it" I just want it gone like everyone else.

I do suffer from headaches too.

Thankyou so much for listening and giving me hope xx

happy thoughts

Evie xxxx

[blondguy]

Hey Evie

I hope your husband gets better...bronchitis is a mongrel.

I agree with you about anxiety being the worst feeling in the world..It is..but more on that later if you want to know more about it. These forums are rock solid secure so you can discuss what you wish to....its your thread:-)

Being a 'public' forum your privacy is paramount here so you are more than safe to have a chat about anything you wish that we can help you with. Like you said..even your interests too...The forums are made up of people just like you with similar health issues 🙂

The BB Cafe is also open for anyone if you just want to say hello and pull up a bean bag....anxiety and the pain it gives us seems to be very common on the forums..

(Hug) for you.. if thats okay of course

Paul xx

[pipsy]

Hi Evie. There are so many things I would like to say, but I know I can't. One thing I would like to suggest, is to ask your Dr for a referral to a gynaecologist, preferably female. Females tend to be more understanding when it comes to discussing 'women's problems'. Male gynaecologists are good, but quite often a woman would tend to feel more at ease talking to another woman. If you need an internal examination for instance, a male might make you feel a bit uneasy. No reflection on the male, but I know with me, I always preferred a woman when I had to be examined internally. If you're on AD's these could be causing problems with blood pressure etc.

Lynda.

[Evie79]

Hi Lynda,

hope you are having a great day, and you suggesting a gynaecologist is a great idea I will be looking into that for sure.

I think this week I've been a bit on edge, my eldest daughter had a sleepover party last Friday, went to pick her up on Saturday at 11 and apparently the girls went for a walk and were only meant to be 10mins, but in that time ( there was 4 girls) they separated so two went one way and the other two went another way, the two that got lost was my daughter and a friend so I was stressing massively as it took a good half hour before they found their way back. I lost my shit!!! Because we are trying to tell her that there are bad people out there in the world and we are trying to protect her, but we still want her to have that independence so I really don't know what else to do.

Look, my head is telling me to trust her to have her independence but my heart is still telling me otherwise. She has just stared high school and have already had dramas with some girls, but I'm not 100% sure on the friends that she has chosen.

I actually suggested to my hubby that we have her friends that she hangs around with come around for pizza and just hangout so that we can see if she has made the right chose of friends.

Can I ask for your opinion please Lynda. Cause I'm at wits end and I don't know what else to do.

I really look forward to hearing from you too

I am so grateful for your kind words and your advise because it means a bloody lot xxx

love evie xxxx

[pipsy]

Hi Evie. I totally appreciate where you're coming from freaking out over your daughter deciding to separate and find an alternate way home. Not knowing where she was, as you say, today's lifestyle is so different to how it was when you were younger. You, like me, probably 'did as you were told, when you were told'. Kids today don't seem to have that same respect, they tend to 'roll their eyes heavenward and groan' when told to behave. Having a few of her friends over for a sleepover/pizza/movie night is a great idea. At 13, they seem to believe they have all the answers. It's such a difficult age, both for them and parents. Meeting her friends, talking to them, encouraging them to speak about their hopes, dreams. How they're coping at school etc. May I say something here is support of Geoff. He is a wonderful, caring person, who has your best interests at heart. His concern over your daughter was simply that, concern. You are in a emotional situation, coping with a 13 year old when you're so vulnerable, can often make things harder, trying to understand her fears regarding school etc. He meant no disrespect at all. Without his never-ending support, encouragement etc, I couldn't help you. He was the one who got me where I am today. He has always been there for me.

Lynda.

[blondguy]

Hi Evie

Just seeing how you are traveling and hope you are doing reasonably okay. I see that Lynda has been here as well...I actually learn a lot of Lynda's posts....she is a legend!

Paul