Hi a newbie

[Plamour]

HI

I am new person in this place. I work in IT and I work for long hours. It is stressful and sometimes I just want to just shut myself and stop all communication with others.

Main issue which I am in a very difficult position is I crossdress. I have been doing for last 10 years off and on. First time I was caught by my wife and we had a big fight. It was my fault because I should have been upfront with her. But I was quite embraced to discuss with my wife. Also, i took the easy way out of not informing her. After that I left everything. I stopped dressing up completely. I was ok for quite sometime. However, I lost my job. The stress triggered second part of a crossdresser. I spent huge amount of money to but stuff. But as before, I got caught and it was a nasty fight. So I stopped again. But I am back again. This time I want to be upfront but I just dont know how. I fear there will be serious repercussion.

cheers

[white knight]

Hi Plamour, welcome

Thankyou for being honest. A tough time for you.

In this era we as a society try to at least, accept others for their sexuality and tendencies. It is a natural act that you do- for you. There is nothing wrong with what you desire to do. Try to think about that.

Living in a relationship however when your partner doesn't accept this action is difficult. She is in effect shutting you down with it maybe for several reasons like embarrassment or her belief that she is in a hetrosexual relationship and that isn't the "done thing". What ever her reasons I can understand this but it isn't ideal. for this issues to resolve itself a something need to occur- a split up, resolution or continue the way you are going.

A relationship counsellor is crucial to your future. So that's what I would do.

I wish you well. By the way- google this

topic: accepting yourself, the frog and the scorpion- beyondblue

Tony WK