Hello Heythere
Welcome to Beyond Blue.
Don't give up on us yet. I am sorry no one has been able to reply to you straight away. The way this site works is that people write their stories and various other people read and comment in response. Those of us who frequently respond to posts are not always available because we too have our down days and problems in life. There are many others who write in and share their stories and experiences and will answer others such as you.
I have not responded to you because I just completed a three week course of radiotherapy for cancer. It's now completed but the side effect is to make me very tired. I find I can only answer one or two posts per day. So I have concentrated on replying to those with whom I have already established a communication. It may seem unfair or careless of us not to answer you immediately, and I assure you we do our best, but it can be stressful and we need to take care of ourselves also.
It is also more desirable that those who respond have some insight or experience into the difficulties you have. We are not professional people and have no qualifications. We simply offer our own thoughts.
Congratulations on breaking the alcohol habit. It's not been my habit so I can only imagine how hard it is. There are others who write in here who have also stopped drinking and maybe you can start a thread and make contact with those people.
I can relate to your 'tortured' relationship as I have experienced a similar relationship. My husband was not an alcoholic and does not have ADHD. However he is a very controlling person and quite emotionally abusive. I left him 15 years ago. It was quite traumatic and I fell into a severe depression.
If I understand you correctly you have a nursing career and also a business partnership with your ex-spouse. When you say you have a beautiful family, do your mean your children or other family members? If children, are they the children of your ex-spouse? Sorry to ask all these questions. I am trying to get a clear picture of your situation.
Apart from all that, is there a reason why you cannot dissolve the business partnership and get rid of this man from your life? I realise this sounds simplistic and there are probably heaps of reasons why this cannot happen. So would you please reply and tell us a little more.
Warm regards
Mary
