Anxiety and Sadness

[mehhh]

i just joined up to this page because i need help/advice from literally anyone.

i have pretty much quit my job due to being so anxious, i just work myself up about it until the day comes of my shift and i call in sick.

i constantly get sad or really angry for no reason, well not anything that i can think of, it's driving me insane. i get so mad to the point that i cry.

i don't know who to talk to or get help from for any of this

[beingbyrne]

Welcome and good on you posting, you made the first step to seek help.

I think the best is to see your GP and explain how you feel. I suffer from anxiety myself and I'm in medication which helps a lot. I wouldn't be able to cope with work and everyday life without the meds.

The GP can diagnose you or refer you to a specialist.

I really feel for you and I hope you feel better soon

[Croix]

Dear Mehhh~

I can relate to your problems, having to call in sick, getting worked up in advance, mood swings and no reason you can see. Sounds like me in the past when I've been not that good. A horrible difficult and confusing life without any clear idea of what to do.

Although you have set out how you feel you haven't said that much about you, your life or other things. It might be helpful if you did - so those here that want to help you can give more accurate advice. There is no need to worry, this place is secure and quite friendly. Many here have gone down the same path and have coped.

I'd have to echo Beingbyrne and sat the first step is to visit your GP -preferably in a long consultation -and set everything out. Write it all down first if you have to - that's what I did - then share the paper. You may be diagnosed with anxiety and depression. (I'm not a doctor and am only guessing from my own experiences).

You may end up with meds, a Health Plan, visits to a psychologist and therapy. Nothing very terrible, it could be the start of things getting a lot better.

Do you have anyone you can talk to, who cares and wants to help - even if they do not understand 100 percent? I found the support of my wife was absolutely what I needed, once I told her, I was silly and did not do that for far too long.

I would also suggest having a look as anxiety and depression in the information pages of The Facts menu above and also browsing around this Forum to see how others have coped. for verbal advice our 24/7 Help Line is always there.

I hope you feel comfortable enough to come back and say more

Croix (who thinks you chose a very descriptive user-name:)

[MarkJT]

Mehh, you have some excellent advice above which i will not repeat but i would like to add something.

If you could start practicing mindfulness that will help you. It is about learning to live in the present and not worry about the future nor the past. To help you along with this there are some really good apps about. A couple that I use are Smiling Mind and Buddhify.

Both of these apps are guided so when you are learning, they are really valuable. Mindfulness has helped me heaps so would be great for you to start. It is a learned skill so take your time and persist with it. It will be worth it as it will help you ground yourself when feeling anxious.

Mark

[mehhh]

hey croix,

thank you for making me feel like i wasn't the only one who has felt like this (being so confused about why i feel this way and what not).

Within your response you said that i hadn't said much about myself so here goes! well i'm a 16 year old girl with a girlfriend, and ever since i had come out, my confidence has dropped a fair bit which i think has upped my anxiety and how i look and feel about myself. i play sport but i've lost a lot of interest in it and im not sure why and yeah i don't know.

i have my girlfriend to talk to but a lot of the time i do get into the mood swings and say silly things that cause us to argue not majorly, just a little stupid argument that we get over straight away, i do have a decent amount of friends also but i know they wouldn't make any sense of what i would be telling them because i don't even understand myself

i should probably head to the GP as other people have said but i'm honestly too scared and very anxious to do so. also i feel as if i would have to be on meds and all the other fun stuff and that would just make me feel weak and i don't know what to think about that.

thank you 🙂

[Croix]

Dear Mehhh~

I'm glad posted again and said more. Gives a better understanding of the problems you are facing. It's easy to say someone is young, or just 16 or whatever. That misses the point. At any age in life there are problems, sometimes very great ones, and they hit just as hard. The only advantage of being older is maybe sometimes having faced a problem before and learned how to cope.

Coming out makes a person vulnerable, for a long time, so it's not easy. The up-side is you have a special person in your life, that is real gold. I find with arguments they are over the silly small things, and as you say, pass quickly. The big things don't seem to cause the same hassles that way, maybe because they are big both persons think about them more - and do it together.

Playing sport is good, not just healthy but gets you out of states of mind, a distraction. I'm sure your enthusiasm will return when you are feeling better.

​There is one area I"ll try to say something about, and that's going to the doctor. Whatever happens you are in control. It pays to tell all and not leave anything out, so the proper things are dealt with, but you get to choose what's done. I've taken meds for a long time, there have been changes and adjustments, now they do a pretty reasonable job and I feel OK

If I was a diabetic I'd take meds. Depression, anxiety and other conditions are no different. Therapy consists of someone giving you things to do and ways to think about things, maybe hard work at times, but puts you in a better place. The Smiling Mind app Mark talks about is hard work at times, but worth it too.

The main thing is that trying to soldier on alone does not often work - trying that made my problems worse.

You talked of feeling week if you went. Actually it's not something you can feel weak about after you start - if you do it properly. It's not a passive sort of thing, you have to work at it, plus the improvements it brings puts you in a different state of mind.

It would be nice sometime later on if that user-name no longer applied:) You can come back as often as you'd like, that would be good

Croix

So I'd still suggest try the medical way and see how you go. If you are a bit reluctant to see a regular GP try Headspace, which is for younger people. They may have a center in your area.

[MarkJT]

Mehhh, I can guarentee you that as a mid 40 year old, I would be proud as punch if I had a 16 yr old daughter who took herself off to the GP to discuss potential mental health conditions. To me that means you are taking your own health seriously and are taking control of it.

You have an immense amount of courage within you and coming out has displayed this. I want you to tell yourself that you have that courage to see the GP.

Mark