Dear Blueymum~
I'd like to welcome you here to the forum. A place where many people have had to face similar problems in getting an adult offspring to get the proper mental illness treatment.
As you daughter is an adult there is nothing you can do, unless she becomes incapable of looking after herself and her children, to get her to seek the correct treatment. Additionally anything she says to a clinician is confidential and that fact you her mum does not put you in a privileged position.
I can understand you worry as her behaviour is extreme. A sexual adventure, not behaving responsibly in getting home, 'manic' episodes and drinking with meds. I'm not sure what you mean by manic, however memory lapses are a worry too.
While she and the children are very fortunate that you are htere to look after things, but it can't go on. While you may not ask her psychiatrist any questions about her there is nothing to stop you seeking a consultation to supply extra information (if you have proofs so much the better, plus keep it brier).
Often the psychiatrist only hears the consumer's edited version which makes treatment less effective. By all means write out a description of this behaviour and give it to the psychiatrist during the consultation. Try to make it objective without any blame, but do point out this is not like any depression episodes in the past if she has had any.
While the psychiatrist is not obliged to take your news into account it may help.
You know you are welcome here always. If you would like to say how you get on that would be great.
Croix
