Very sick adult son refusing help

Helpless51
Community Member
My son lives at home. Cannot work can barely do simple chores. Suffers from depression and anxiety. Refuses to acknowledge he has a problem. Will not be assessed. Has had several mental health plans and has taken medications. He says they don't help. It's killing me to watch him deteriorate and I cannot help him without his consent. He does not meet the criteria for crisis as he has shelter and food and has not threatened anyone. However he often forgets to eat and his personal care is poor. There is more than one way to self harm. He is killing himself slowly. Can anyone help me please?
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pipsy
Community Member

Dear Helpless. Welcome here. It must be tearing you apart knowing your son is that scared. I wonder if he's heard 'horror' stories about being 'locked away' and that's what makes him so scared. Perhaps if you were to mention these concerns to your Dr and talk to him about how best to get the help your son needs. Has he known someone who was 'sectioned' at some time who perhaps told him their experience and that has frightened him? I would consider asking your Dr for any sort of information re: a mental health plan which would assist your son. Maybe if you could learn a bit more, you could perhaps explain to your son the procedure. He possibly would not be placed in any sort of establishment, I think care outside hospitals can be arranged. Most people with any sort of mental disability, today, can and do live quite normally within a home environment with carers. We have two 50 year old females, both intellectually handicapped in our church who live in a share house situation with other similar people. They are both cared for by responsible people and they maintain regular contact with their families. They are regularly attended by Dr's who review their AD's on a regular basis and they are free to come and go pretty much as they like. How old is your son? I would definitely have a talk with your Dr and ask what can be done?

Lynda.